Marriage .. if you had your time over
@sprite1950 (30452)
Corsham, England
April 26, 2018 3:28am CST
One or two of my friends tell me that if they had their time over again they would not get married. My marriage failed and I was devastated as I thought we were happy. I always thought I would get married again but as time has gone on I have learned to appreciate my independence and enjoy being single.
If you could do it all again would you get married to the same person you are with now or if you are single do you plan to get married?
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
26 Apr 18
Yes, I will marry my husband over and over again. 
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
27 Apr 18
@mlgen1037 that's so sweet my friend, God bless your marriage always
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
26 Apr 18
@vandana7 I have a partner but I love being single and would never live with him.
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@allknowing (137553)
• India
26 Apr 18
I would marry the same person but handle the marriage better. As I would now know our strengths and weaknesses.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
26 Apr 18
Never married and never will.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
A lot of people feel like you these days John.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@oahuwriter Is that question for @JohnRoberts or me? I don't want to marry again as my breakup with my husband was painful and I've learned to enjoy being single. I do have a partner I don't live with though.
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@oahuwriter (26777)
• United States
27 Apr 18
May I ask why you want to not marry?
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
26 Apr 18
Yes I want to marry also hehehe!!! But as of now, no one wants to marry me 
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
26 Apr 18
@Sreekala hahaha!!! No, it's not a joke..
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@AlisaTR It's nice to hear that as so many people over here seem to regret getting married.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
26 Apr 18
If I could do it over again I'd like to marry the same person(my hubby)again if I can meet him. We have been married for twenty years, our marriage makes me happy.
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@LeaPea2417 (37369)
• Toccoa, Georgia
26 Apr 18
Yes, I would have married the same person,, my husband and I have been married for 30 years.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
I like to hear happy endings Anne. 30 years is brilliant! Congrats 
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@LadyDuck I already knew what you would say Anna as I know you are happy. I suppose it is good to have fun first but then again it may not have been that great. At least you have always been happy with your husband.
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@LadyDuck (472004)
• Switzerland
27 Apr 18
@sprite1950 You are right, we would have liked to live together without feeling the need to marry, but my parents would have never allowed me.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@LadyDuck Well as you are happy I don't suppose it matters now. Some people live together for years and then when they marry they find it doesn't work. I always think that's strange, that a piece of paper should make a difference.
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@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
26 Apr 18
I think I would only ever get married to my current wife. If we split up I certainly wouldn't get married again.
There are things I would possibly change in the way I've behaved but I would still marry my current wife if asked to do it again!
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@WorDazza I take it she's long suffering then
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@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
27 Apr 18
@sprite1950 I would say we both are!! What's the old saying? It would have been a shame to ruin two households!! 
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 Apr 18
I am happy in my marriage but I believe we both went into marriage without really knowing what we were getting ourselves into. So, if I should ever be single again, I would be very, very careful next time about choosing a partner. I think I could be happy single should anything happen to my husband.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@JudyEv Some people wouldn't be comfortable with it though. His mum thinks we should get married!
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@JudyEv I have a partner I don't live with and I would never want to share a house with him. I'm very independent so I understand the feeling.
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@JudyEv (341752)
• Rockingham, Australia
27 Apr 18
@sprite1950 I know other 'couples' who do this and I think it is very wise. You have the benefit of companionship and someone to go places with if you want it but you also have lots of lovely 'me' time.
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
26 Apr 18
I am happily married.. But miss my single life as well..
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
27 Apr 18
@SIDIKIMPOLE There are things I used to do when I was single and now I can't make time for those things because of responsibilities I have.
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@SIDIKIMPOLE (1795)
• Eldoret, Kenya
27 Apr 18
@anamika161088 understand. But that' gone now.
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@thedevilinme (4152)
• Northampton, England
27 Apr 18
I think most women regret getting married to heir husbands.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
28 Apr 18
@thedevilinme I must admit I met my present partner through a friend at work. He was her brother. I would never marry him though,
@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@thedevilinme Especially in the UK it would seem
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@thedevilinme (4152)
• Northampton, England
27 Apr 18
@sprite1950 most people here marry someone from work, circle of friends or uni
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
26 Apr 18
My only regret is that i married young. If i have to live again i would prefer to be married my early 30's hahaha. No matter who'll you marry, the road to having a good marriage is the same. You must both love each other. You must have trust, respect, loyalty, faithfulness and the other flavors of good values. Marriage can't stand without those.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
27 Apr 18
@sprite1950 i understand there are so many factors to consider
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@chavezrmc I loved my husband but he was younger than me and not ready. We are good friends now though.
@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@chavezrmc To be honest now that he is older I think he regrets his decision to end it but it's been more than 30 years now and too late to go back.
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@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
27 Apr 18
@sprite1950 I have yet to meet anyone with a perfect marriage.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
28 Apr 18
@dodo19 I know couples that seem to have the perfect marriage but we don't know what goes on behind closed doors.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
That's the main thing. I doubt anyone can say their marriage is perfect.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
@id_peace I guess if the right person comes along you will and we never know what's around the corner
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
27 Apr 18
Well being we are not together now, no I would not do it again. One person is happy the other is not and the time spent with in laws in all out business, would not do it again with him.
I can be happy on my own, and if someone else should come along, I would not rush into marriage. I like my freedom, of doing what I want, when I want and no arguements.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
28 Apr 18
@CookieMonster46 Hey, long time no speak! Yes being on our own makes us independent and sometimes we get used to that and prefer it.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
28 Apr 18
@CookieMonster46 I didn't realise you were still here. I hope things are good with you
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
28 Apr 18
@sprite1950 Hi, haven't see you in forever... being independent is a great thing.
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
27 Apr 18
My first marriage, I felt like dying when it ended in divorce! It took over eleven years, for me to ever think about dating another man. When I met Jay, we had both been hurt, badly. Remarriage was never an option, for either one of us! Two years later, we got married:) LOL
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
28 Apr 18
Yes things often turn out completely the opposite to what we plan! I'm glad you're happy now. 
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
28 Apr 18
@kobesbuddy Would you like to be single again?
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
28 Apr 18
@sprite1950 It's better than before, but still a real struggle.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
27 Apr 18
I know you're very happy nela and that's so nice. Some people meet their soul mate at a very early age.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
28 Apr 18
@nela13 I think it must be lovely to meet a lifelong partner so early in life and never have to worry about finding the right person.
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@nela13 (58720)
• Portugal
27 Apr 18
@sprite1950 Yes, I met my husband when I was 17
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