Do I Look Fat?
By Jeff Moffitt
@moffittjc (121590)
Gainesville, Florida
April 29, 2018 6:35pm CST
When my girlfriend texted me a photo of herself from the gym the other day, I immediately thought she was going to ask the question millions of girlfriends and wives across the world ask their boyfriends/husbands: "Do I look fat?" It's such a trap question, because it's one of those questions where us men lose no matter how we answer. If we answer no, we get accused of lying. If we answer yes, well...we'll be sleeping on the couch for the next month, if they don't break up with us or divorce us.
But thankfully, she didn't ask that dreaded question at all. She simply said to me, "Look, I almost have my summer beach body back!" Which is funny, because she never lost her summer beach body from last summer...or the summer before that...or the summer before that. She always looks good!
Ladies of myLot, do you ever ask your significant other if you look fat?
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51 responses
@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
There was a comedian--I can't remember which-- who talked about this very subject:
Her: "Honey, do these jeans make me look fat?"
Him: "Darling, it's not the jeans that make you look fat!"
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
30 Apr 18
I know I am fat so i dont even ask. I wouldn't expect him to lie to me to make me feel good. If people don't like my summer body they don't have to look. 
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
I don't think it should matter if someone is fat or thin, chunky, bean pole, big-boned or whatever. If they are comfortable in their own body, then that should be all that matters. Or, if there significant other loves them just the way they are, then that is the most important thing.
As you can see from the photo of my gf, she is in great shape. But she could gain 20 pounds and I would still love her just the same.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
Thank you! A woman who gets it! It's not fair at all to put us men in such an uncomfortable position with a trap question!
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
30 Apr 18
Not at all. I have never asked anybody if I were fat and if they tell me I am, I would be the happiest. I have never ever been fat my entire life, not even when I was pregnant. It's my obsession, to become fat.
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@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
1 May 18
@moffittjc Seafood doesn't help much. I do eat a lot of them mind you lol! And I can really eat a lot. But still not gaining that much weight. I was 55kg in December until March, but now I'm just 53kg again.. And that's without exercise at all. I need to eat morel.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
2 May 18
@toniganzon I think you are at a good healthy weight now!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
You need to eat more seafood, that will help! hahaha
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
Thank you for not putting your husband in an awkward position to possibly say the wrong thing! haha
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
30 Apr 18
I know I'm fat, so I don't have to ask. Besides, I'm single. Actually I'm not fat just full figured, which looks fat in the mirror. 
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
Full-figured is by no means fat. There are many full-figured women who look absolutely stunning.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
30 Apr 18
@moffittjc I'm only just learning that. Thank you!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
@Starmaiden I think too many women get brainwashed by the media into thinking that if they are not slim and petite, that they're fat. Let's not kid ourselves. Not everyone can be as slim as those fashion models we see on magazine covers. I think women need to learn to be satisfied with their body type and embrace it; besides, there are men out there who love women in all shapes and sizes. And us men are no different...we come in all shapes and sizes as well.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
30 Apr 18
There's nothing wrong with asking your partner after all, he/she is the best person that can be honest to you if others can't
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
30 Apr 18
@moffittjc That is so considerate of you. I don't mind if someone will tell me i'm fat. I will take it positively and try to lessen my weight. But not all has a positive attitude towards it though.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
@chavezrmc For some people, it is very emotional dealing with their weight. I understand the sensitivity to the whole situation. Luckily, my girlfriend doesn't get upset or offended easily. But honestly, she has nothing to worry about, as she does a good job maintaining a healthy weight.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
That is true. But I wouldn't say "You're fat, you need to lose some weight." Instead, I would be graceful about it, and say something like, "We should join a gym, working out is so healthy for us and we'll look and feel so much better!"
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@Shellyann36 (11384)
• United States
2 May 18
Nope never. I am comfortable with my curves.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
Many women look great with their vivacious curves!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 May 18
@Shellyann36 I think women should realize more that men don't all like one particular body style on a woman. Just because the media portrays ever woman as super-model skinny doesn't mean that's what every man wants. Some men like skinny women; some like full-figured women; some like T&A; some like legs. Every man's preference is different.
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@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
18 May 18
PSHHHHHH, she HAS the summer beach body what is she talking about! What are her moves! I need toooooo burn off all my belly fat Really do. I need to try harder at the gym......
I'll start next week!
Really do. I need to try harder at the gym...... I'll start next week!1 person likes this
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
20 May 18
@moffittjc Hhahahhaa. 
I need to take up on her tips and swim!!! I just don't like the chlorine scent at the pool.
I need to take up on her tips and swim!!! I just don't like the chlorine scent at the pool.1 person likes this
@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 May 18
@infatuatedbby Well, there's other ways to get fit besides swimming! Jogging is another good way, except that you get really sweaty (at least here in Florida). Crossfit training is also a great way to get in shape, but it usually kicks people's butts who do it! lol
@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
20 May 18
I'd like to think that it is our nighttime bedroom moves that keeps her in such good shape! haha
But truth be told, she swims a lot, and that could very well be what keeps her in great shape.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
30 Apr 18
I have asked "Does my bum look big in this?!" just for a laugh. Your girlfriend is definitely not fat!
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
7 May 18
@moffittjc Well I fed my children so they were huge and I loved it because it was the only time that men ever shouted out of car windows "nice pair love" . When they went down they were still bigger than they had been before.
. When they went down they were still bigger than they had been before.1 person likes this
@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
12 May 18
@sprite1950 I hope you were very proud of your ta-tas! I'm sure your husband enjoyed them too!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
7 May 18
@sprite1950 So they stayed big long after you had children? I know they get bigger when a woman is pregnant and/or nursing, but don't they normally go back down to their pre-pregnancy size afterward?
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
24 May 18
Hi Ruby! It's been a while! How are you?
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 May 18
@RubyHawk I'm doing well Ruby! Just enjoying life and living the dream! And also trying to stay dry here in what is supposed to be sunny Florida! Sadly, it's been raining solid for two weeks straight, and now we have this tropical storm to contend with. But I don't let that get my spirits down! It's still a beautiful day to be alive!
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
24 May 18
@moffittjc I'm getting back in the groove. It's good to see you. How are you?
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
30 Apr 18
No. Never. It's a bad thing to ask. Though once I asked if a pair of pants made my butt look big. He looked paniced... so I quickly added "I sure hope so."
Personally though - I've been doing a lot of reading about body positivity and anti-diet culture ... (which no, isn't promoting people to gain weight- instead just promoting people to stop hating their bodies) --
and I have decided that I will from now on take "fat" like a compliment. :-)
Random person: You're fat.
Me: Yes. Isn't it lovely? Thank you.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
That's a great outlook, and a great comeback line to people who think they can hurt you with their insulting words!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 May 18
@FayeHazel I think the next person who says anything to you should get a swift kick in the groins! lol
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
4 May 18
@moffittjc Thanks! Through the years it's been surprising the amount of people and in what situations people have felt the need to critique my appearance. THough happily hasn't been for a long time. :-) Next person who does will get that though.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
I think it is a common occurrence for many guys to answer a question with a non-question! lol
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 Nov 18
Haha, we all have a mirror we can look at! I think when people ask the question of whether or not they look fat, I think they are just looking for reassurance from other people that they look really good.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Nov 18
@Nevena83 What about you? Are you beautiful?
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
27 Nov 18
@moffittjc I agree, but you know how they say to me - Beauty is in the eye of the observer.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
Oh, haha, I never thought about the old answer a questions with another question trick! I'll have to keep that in mind if my gf ever does ask me is she looks fat!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
@cintol I really don't want to start a war with my gf, although I will admit that the best part of fighting is making up afterward!
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
4 May 18
@moffittjc There you go, she can start a whole new war with you lol
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@Deepizzaguy (102889)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
18 Jun 18
Your friend looks great.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
18 Jun 18
Thanks! I think she's rather cute, but I'm a little biased! lol
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
21 Jun 18
@Deepizzaguy Thanks! She is quite the gorgeous young lady, and the really nice thing is she is very humble and down to earth.
@Deepizzaguy (102889)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
18 Jun 18
@moffittjc You have a right to be biased. She looks great.
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
Wait...you're saying I look a little chubby? I'm in great shape! lol
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
4 May 18
@moffittjc two thumbs up!!! Anybody who can to a keg stand has got to be in good shape!!!!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
5 May 18
@db20747 It's been a long time since I've done a keg stand! But I think I could handle myself well if I tried to do one now!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
I once told a girlfriend that she needed to lose a few pounds. It was three weeks later that I finally got out of the hospital. I'll never make that mistake again!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 Apr 18
@db20747 But I think if you say "no comment," that is as bad as saying "yes, you look fat!" LOL
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
30 Apr 18
@moffittjc next time just say no comment!!! Glad u r OK!!!!
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)@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
6 May 18
@YrNemo Thanks! I really am lucky to have found such an amazing girl!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
Yeah, that's the pic she texted me to show me how proud she is of her body! lol
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
@porwest Thanks man. I don't know how I lucked out so much, but I don't take her for granted at all. Got to keep the little lady happy!
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@moffittjc (121590)
• Gainesville, Florida
4 May 18
It's her, and I can verify that she is not fat!
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@porwest (90917)
• United States
4 May 18
@moffittjc I should say not. Lucky guy.
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