Why do some women think that they own the kitchen?
By suny
@suni51 (3429)
India
May 28, 2018 9:38pm CST
Some women think that they own the kitchen and if the men entered in the kitchen they will make a mess of it. My wife comes in this particular category and never lets me enter in our kitchen. I know I am not that bad but it's hard to make her understand. The result- I have to eat what she cooks. And what about my cooking talent?
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My question to ladies- do you feel the same that you're the boss of the kitchen? And how many men feel that their natural right is in danger?
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@vandana7 (99882)
• India
29 May 18
I used to be a good cook. It is hard to believe that now. But dad has been at me like You are overcooking, you are undercooking, you are using too much oil, you are using less oil, this is not the vessel you should be cooking this in, half tomato is enough, one onion is enough, don't add masalas they are harmful, don't use tamarind it gives acidity, don't add too much salt, it might get salty, we can always add later, etc., etc., etc., which has got me so confused that today I don't relish my cooking at all. I am not happy cooking anymore. I transferred the duty to my maid. From the last two days he has been hammering such things at her. She almost quit. It is very frustrating with elderly people at times.
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
I know what I mean, but no she is not that kind of person who objects to everything but she doesn't like I enter in the kitchen because she is too passionate about position of things in the kitchen and can't tolerate a thing is moved even an inch from its original place. I am guilty of keeping some of the kitchen tools in different places.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
29 May 18
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
29 May 18
@suni51 she doesn't know that you can actually cook?
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
@hereandthere She knows it but she is afraid that I will mess up the things. In fact I taught her to cook some of the items after our marriage but now she refuse to admit that!
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
29 May 18
I don’t care who cooks, just as long as they clean.
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
@CookieMonster46 No, not in her presence at least ![](/Content/images/emotes/sad.gif)
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
29 May 18
@suni51 sounds like you don’t have a chance in the kitchen. Lol
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@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
29 May 18
I hate other people in the kitchen because I get so nervous. But if someone else wants to cook, I'll let them, but they do have to clean up the mess. Most guys do not clean up after themselves or halfass it.
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@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
30 May 18
@suni51 People just like things how they like them haha let them rule
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
29 May 18
I would gladly give my kitchen up to a few men I know who can cook. I prefer their cooking to my own. If your wife is the boss of your kitchen let it be known to her that you are the boss of the barbeque. ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
29 May 18
Women who behave that way tend to be more traditional types. I suppose they feel by having a man doing the cooking, it some how makes them less of a woman. Idk just a guess. Another way to look at it is by thinking of the kitchen as the garage. Men can be just as territorial of "their" garage and their tools as some women are of "their" kitchen.
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
Great Analysis! You read the point exactly as my wife thinks. She thinks kitchen is for women and men are only intruders who should look after the outside jobs. You will be surprised to know that she doesn't want to do anything that needs going out. By the way she is a lecturer.
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@Courtlynn (67094)
• United States
29 May 18
There should be no boss of the kitchen, or any other part of the house.
Though, I've never heard of men complaining about their wives cooking for them either, unless their wives suck at cooking. ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
My wife is okay with her cooking but I am not bad either so if I wish to cook some of the items I can do better than her she stops me. She thinks I will mismanage the things or put things in different places where she generally keeps them. I think she is suffering from superiority complex just because I am a simple guy ![](/Content/images/emotes/suspicious.gif)
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@Courtlynn (67094)
• United States
29 May 18
@suni51 I doubt its that, but then I wouldn't know since I'm not there to see. its your place, if you want o cook, then cook. if she don't like it, so be it.
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
@Courtlynn I do it whenever sh'e gone out and check my skills!
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
3 Jun 18
I don't think it's gender specific but it comes naturally! I am not a cooking expert but I love cooking couple of dishes of my personal choice and want to do them once in a while. My wife thinks I am no good for indoor jobs so I should mind my other things that she has no interest in!
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
29 May 18
Hi Suny. Usually, the kitchen is a woman’s domain and since women do all the cooking, they think it is their fortress. Hehe
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
@mlgen1037 Space but not the registry on entire property! After all I too have some claim on that kitchen!
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
29 May 18
@suni51 Because they think that it is their kingdom. I would do that too you know. Usually, women want space. hehehe
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
29 May 18
Yes, hehe!!! I am the boss in our kitchen because I am the one who cook foods .![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
@Jessabuma then you are the boss, whether you cook or eat out![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@Jessabuma (31700)
• Baguio, Philippines
29 May 18
@suni51 I actually living far from my family hehehe
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
29 May 18
so you get to enjoy his cooking when he's home on vacation?
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@Peach10 (1920)
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29 May 18
@hereandthere Oh yes but he doesn't cook much when he comes home. We are always out having our meals outside. He knows I am not a good cook. Only my kids love my cooking, of course, they can"t do anything aboiut it. I'm the mom![](/Content/images/emotes/rofl.gif)
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@everwonderwhy (7132)
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29 May 18
When I'm in the kitchen, I move very fast and quick. If they want to save their lives from being hit by my sudden turns, they'd better stay out of the kitchen. But my husband is most welcome to the sink to attack the dishes to wash. But I do all from start to finish. I can't wait for his dilly-dallies. ;-)
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
30 May 18
@everwonderwhy Tell him to cook as per your liking. Give hims some lessons and rewards if he does well and I am sure he will learn! ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@everwonderwhy (7132)
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30 May 18
@suni51 I'm sure you do. I do love my husband being around me in the kitchen for snap hugs or listening, washing the dishes. I don't like his cooking. He fries everything burnt. I don't like the smell of burnt cooking on my clothes and hair
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@redurnet (1798)
• United Kingdom
29 May 18
I do not like to spend time cooking but I enjoy good food. I think that people who enjoy the art of cooking spend longer in the kitchen and want to give their partner or family their creations. I know my sisters partner is one who you can't drag out of the kitchen!
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
I am neither a foodie nor someone that wants to show his skills but sometimes I feel like cooking myself. My wife thinks that I ruin her kitchen arrangements that's why resists my entry in the kitchen. I know she does it to save the kitchen tools in place rather than scattered here and there.
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@MashaVickina (2184)
• Russian Federation
29 May 18
Maybe because their husbands do not care about them, do not take them out and make gifts. They come to the kitchen, the only place where a wife spends her free time (poor she) and make a mess there.
My place is my huge dressing table with tonnes of expensive cosmetics and jewelry. I do not own the kitchen although I like cooking and cook well, and my husband respects my efforts and does not make a mess there.
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@suni51 (3429)
• India
29 May 18
@MashaVickina Haha, yes I want to change the situation for sure. I want her to allow me entry in the kitchen but otherwise we go along very well. And she is happy the way we exchange gifts on every possible occasions. I want to change her mindset that I am a good cook and handle her kitchen.
@MashaVickina (2184)
• Russian Federation
29 May 18
@suni51 Try to change something in you, ask yourself when was the last time you bought her favorite flowers? A new pair of heeled shoes? A new perfume? Two tickets to a theater/cinema? Be thankful for the meals and try not to make a mess. I am sure, you will solve this issue
If you created a discussion about it, it means that you worry, not indifferent, you love your wife and can change the situation. Good luck![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@morgoodie (2645)
• United States
29 May 18
Nope, I am not the boss. Just the only one in the house that will cook. Maybe it is just because it has always been seen that the woman is supposed to cook and clean and take care of her husband that she feels that way. I would love to have a man that wants to cook. I would gladly step aside and let him make dinner and do dishes. ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@morgoodie (2645)
• United States
29 May 18
@suni51
As long as she doesn't get mad at me. For now, you will just have to wait until she is out of the house then take over the kitchen. Or build another kitchen that is just for you. ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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