Kids and Privacy
@nanette64 (20364)
Fairfield, Texas
June 3, 2018 9:35am CST
I've been hearing a lot lately about kids and their privacy when it comes to their cell phones, computers, bedrooms, etc. That parents 'shouldn't' be invading their privacy. Are you sh*tting me?!!!!!
I don't give a rats behind if the kid is 18. If you are living under my roof and I'm paying the bills (which may include cell phones, car ins., car payments, etc); you can bet your sweet butt that I'm going to be paying attention.
Why do you think so many kids are in trouble today? It's because the parents are oblivious to what their kids are feeling (suicide) or doing (drugs, illegal activities, etc) because their kids need their 'space' or 'privacy'?
Then when the poop hits the fan, the parents are like, "I had no idea what was going on." Well duh!! A parent has every right to go through a kids bedroom, cell phone or computer, setting curfews and RULES.
If they don't like it, well too dang bad. You are the parent. Do something.
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@LadyDuck (471494)
• Switzerland
3 Jun 18
@nanette64 They have lost the sense of "reality", they all live like in a video game. They cannot understand what is important in life, they care of nothing.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
@LadyDuck That is a perfect point (reality). I think that's where a lot of the school shootings are coming from too,
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
I wish we could bring back some of the 'good ole days' for these kids @LadyDuck .
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
3 Jun 18
Privacy of kids is important but keeping a check on them so that they don't go on wrong path is parents" duty.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
Oh trust me @anamika161088 , if kids think they can get away with something, they'll do it. Kids are massive manipulators and it starts at a very young age.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
@anamika161088 And that is the truly scary part.
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@anamika161088 (11866)
• India
3 Jun 18
@nanette64 Yeah I know. We can't chase their imagination. They roll in the world full of fantasies and they are unstoppable.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Jun 18
I feel the same way about my children. You will get your space when you are old enough to pay for it and responsible enough to handle it! Until then I check every single thing at any time...for my children's safety. Their lives are more important than their "privacy".
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
Absolutely perfect @LovingMyBabies . 
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@hostessman (11871)
• Tucson, Arizona
3 Jun 18
i agree with you 110 percent, everything you said is true. my grandkids get upset with me but like i tell them ,your at my house ,,different rules apply here
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
Now you're talkin' @hostessman ; and that's the way it should be.
; and that's the way it should be.1 person likes this
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 18
Yes, that's exactly it @JudyEv . "Best Friends" don't cut it.
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@JudyEv (340278)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Jun 18
@galaxy2017 Children need guidelines and someone to set limits to their behaviour.
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@galaxy2017 (179)
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4 Jun 18
yes, I think parents's first duty is guardian before the kid is eighteen.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
3 Jun 18
Hi Nanette. Oh that is true. I guess parents are short of discipline nowadays and children are spoiled that they think they are entitled to everything.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
Oh exactly @mlgen1037 . I was on a plane 3 years ago and across the aisle from me was a Dad & son. The kid was on an Ipad. The pilot said to shut all electronics down. When the Dad took the Ipad away from the kid, he threw a fit and started screaming, kicking the seat in front of him and started hitting his Dad. Do you know how old that kid was?????? 4 Imagine what he'll be like at age 10.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
3 Jun 18
@nanette64 Really? I think the father had to teach his son a lesson or two or else he will have more problems than he asks for.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
5 Jun 18
@nanette64 I am imagining how you did it but that kid just got served. Imagine no one even do something.
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@GardenGerty (160713)
• United States
4 Jun 18
My mom always said "If you live in my house and are forty, I will spank you if you need it." Course that was way long before cell phones, etc.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 18
Yeah, my Mom wouldn't have hesitated either @GardenGerty .
@rebelann (112874)
• El Paso, Texas
23 Aug 20
Privacy is for adults and I'm not talking chronological age, if a kid at 18 or older still lives with their folks and is actually working for a living and contributing to the household then a that person is an adult deserving of being given the respect of privacy but if the kid is a freeloader and is always expecting to be supported then nope, they don't deserve that kind of respect.
I never had any privacy, mom always looked through my things to make sure I wasn't getting into any kind of trouble and I'm probably lucky for that.
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@rebelann (112874)
• El Paso, Texas
26 Aug 20
Yep, but she could've toned it down some once I had a job and was already 20 @nanette64
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
25 Aug 20
Our Momma's loved us @rebelann .
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
27 Aug 20
@rebelann 
Oh heck no. My daughters 50 and if she lived with me, I'd be all over her. As it is I chew her out for her motorcycle incidents.
Oh heck no. My daughters 50 and if she lived with me, I'd be all over her. As it is I chew her out for her motorcycle incidents.1 person likes this
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
Yes exactly @amadeo . Devices have become the new babysitter.
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
4 Jun 18
Thank you my sweet. I think parents need to go to Parenting Classes @1creekgirl .
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@nela13 (58667)
• Portugal
4 Jun 18
@nanette64 kids need rules and love to grow up and become people with a good heart, otherwise, they will be just selfish and think they are the center of the world.
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@divyamanojkumar (257)
• Kochi, India
3 Jun 18
Nice topic I think.there should be some parental control whatever their age is.thats what I think
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
Absolutely @divyamanojkumar . Kids think they know everything and that parents are dumb. And in some cases, it true.
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@notewise777 (247)
• Cape Town, South Africa
7 Jun 18
@nanette64 You make such a valid point @nanette64 - It's like they walk with fantasy blinkers on that somehow we were never their age at all.
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@notewise777 (247)
• Cape Town, South Africa
5 Jun 18
@nanette64 To parents like you I say: IF There's a million like button out there; I would give it to you a million times. This is why the modern generation is in such a state as too often parents fail to exercise their sacred duty to enforce proper parenting. If you have to pay for it; then by George, you will set the boundaries for usage.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
6 Jun 18
@notewise777 I think it was because my childhood was so screwed up. I wasn't about to let the things that happened to me, happen to my kids.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
5 Jun 18
Why thank you so much @notewise777 . What's kinda funny is that my daughter who is now 47, still calls me to ask for advice and information and knows she can tell me anything. Her daughter is 27 (raised right) and 'she' even calls me for advice.
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@notewise777 (247)
• Cape Town, South Africa
6 Jun 18
@nanette64 It says a lot about your parenting ma'am. You had to have done something right in the past if the bond can remain that strong.
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@popciclecold (38840)
• United States
3 Jun 18
This is the reason we have what we have today.
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@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
3 Jun 18
Exactly @popciclecold . It's gotten to the point where the kids run the house.
