Not My Cup of Tea
@mlgen1037 (29886)
Manila, Philippines
June 22, 2018 7:16pm CST
Hi everyone! Just something I need to share before I go.
I am here simply to earn and along the way, gain more friends and be honest about myself as much as possible. Even in this virtual world, being honest about who I am is what I hold on to. I admit I made a mistake of lying once but I realized that ”Honesty is the best policy." Being dishonest is not my cup of tea.
I am not the type to steal someone else’s bubble just for the sake of getting attention. I am not the type to act so sweet and innocent just to grab people’s spotlight away from them because I think I am much better. I am not the type to deceive people and be so overly nice so I can get a few pennies with a few flirty moves. I am not even the type to pretend I know everything and copy others and make it my own - I give credit where it is due. I know what plagiarism means, just so you know. I am not even the type who gives humility a bad name. Flaunting myself believing that I have a “face (and a body) that can launch a thousand ship” just to get tons of praises and compliments is not my cup of tea.
I cannot contain myself anymore for I see people so engrossed with fake people. These fake people will constantly make you believe that they are an angel, but beneath that angelic face is a horrible monster lurking on people who would fall prey to their outward beauty, when in fact they are more devious and cunning. They will continue to pry on your naivete. How many times did it occur to you that you were fooled by people who thought you are stupid? Remember the saying, ”Sometimes you need to play the role of a fool to fool the fool who think they are fooling you”? Please spare me (us). Living a lie is not my cup of tea.
I weep because the world has become so shallow when in fact there are more beautiful people with beautiful souls and character but people chose to give their time on someone who is only worth less than your $30. I guess that pays for someone’s future. Though that is still not my cup of tea.
Okay I get it, who am I compared to someone who is need of constant attention and admiration? I am a NOBODY but that is fine as long as I have my INTEGRITY intact. Now that is my cup of tea.
How about you? What is your cup of tea? Your answers are highly appreciated. Thank you!
Now I need to get back to my sleep.
Image: From Google. Credits to the original owners.
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@marguicha (222989)
• Chile
23 Jun 18
I feel that there comes a time in life when you have to throw away all masks and be honest with others and with yourself. Some people reach it before and some after, depending on their life stories.
I have been lucky so it hasn´t been difficult for me to have my integrity intact.
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@marguicha (222989)
• Chile
23 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 Thanks for your answer. I try to do my best.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Marguicha. Thank you. I think some people who have been thru a lot (or at least that is what is being said or portrayed here), wearing masks is not their thing. They would have realized that being yourself is more liberating than hiding who or what they really are. And that is where integrity comes in. You are of those few people who are lucky to have that. 
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
23 Jun 18
I don`t need constant attention...... Oh wait! Is this about me? 
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Andria. Thank you. It is not you. I would have not made responded to your discussions if it was you. I would never do that to you. 
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
@andriaperry @peavey me, three. it makes me wonder if i said anything to anyone that unintentionally upset them.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Peavey. Thank you. I do understand that people need to be assured in order to feel that they worth something, but not to the extent that I have to fool people just to get the attention they think they deserve. Does it cost to be yourself that you have to wear a mask and boost your self-esteem by being someone else? I guess being true nowadays is just a thing of the past. You do not go far if you do not hide your true self.
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@Shavkat (139933)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 I will never fool other people. I am honest, promise.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Shav. Thank you. I agree with you, but I am sure you are very honest and not the type to fool people just to get a few compliments.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@Shavkat hahaha. I know you are. Maybe that is why we are friends. Wait, are we?
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@Juliaacv (51190)
• Canada
23 Jun 18
More often then not it seems that this is not a website so much as a stage and members seem divided. Some of us make up the audience, but too many make up the cast.
I like being in the peanut gallery of the audience, I get a lot of laughs, I think that I've seen you snickering too, its easier then being the fake up on that stage.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Julia. Thank you. I like your analogy. It is like mylot is a stage overall and there is so much drama. Yes, that is me because I want to belong there than be there in the middle of the stage when a lot of people want to be the main character. 
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
the way i perceive with your discussion hija, it seems you are full of angst. i hope i am wrong.
well, if that is the case, may i suggest that you keep your cool the persons you are referring too might become the underdog and maintain their being the underdog to gain sympathy.
as what a local actress would say, "kalma lang" (calm down).
or maybe somebody pricked you with a needle and your ego was hurt? hmmm.
let it go, hija.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 a word i can connect: KSP (kulang sa pansin). they want the limelight to be focused on them. if that is what interest them, then let them have the floor.
we know ourselves, right? so, i hope you will look into the brighter side of things here.
your wrinkles might get deeper. hahaha. just kidding
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@ridingbet hahaha. I am too young to get those wrinkles po. I feel much better now. Too bad, attention was not given to them while they were growing up perhaps. They are not KSP anymore. Too much of it can make one think too highly of themselves. Better that way for us than think of dubious ways just to get what they want.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi po, Ingrid. Thank you. To be honest, I am really angry. Imagine these people making the rounds to get other people's attention and dulling the stars of other people. What is worst, they made other people believe that they are so nice and friendly. But behind those masks are ugly features that they do their best to hide themselves thru those attention and admiration. They move "pailalim" just to get ahead of other people and own the spotlight. We are just spectators.
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@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
Good morning my friend. It's always good to read your post. (Hugot ba yan?) I always love to read from you. Just be yourself all the time and I'm sure you will have many more friends, real friends online and offline. We may not know each other long enough but I am sure you are someone that has a good heart. And yes sweet too. Don't change the way you are because it's a nice feeling when we are loved and accepted the way we are. I hope you have a good weekend. See you around... but don't worry if I am still on and off. Take care and take these 
. Enjoy your day Louise.
. Enjoy your day Louise.3 people like this
@chavezrmc (6095)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 I am sorry you're feeling this way Louise. I hope you'll feel better soon. I have my share of negative things too and sometimes just need to stop and think. Well, I go back and do things my way. If others don't like it, it's not my problem anymore. This is my life and I want to live it my way... Take care my friend. I will always be here
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Emerald. Good afternoon. Thank you. Honestly, I am not happy about something. You know that I do my best to my as honest as I can be here in and offline. That is all I have, being myself. Even if I earn a lot here but not being true about myself will be for nought. Earning here for a few bucks of lying about myself and fooling others is not what most of us sign up for. I am sorry, my friend, I had to say this or I will unable to have the chance anymore to share how I feel. I appreciate those hugs. Made me feel better. Take care and enjoy your say as well, my dear friend.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@chavezrmc It is okay, my friend. That is why I am glad to have you as my friend because you are honest and you do not have to fool others for the sake of being liked. You are you and and I love you for that. I appreciate it a lot, Emerald. You have been good to me. 
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@allknowing (136369)
• India
23 Jun 18
I am famous for being robbed of my sunshine. It used to bother me when I was younger but now I have learnt to move on. I can write a book on my experiences within my family, office, neighbours and even in the virtual world.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi @allknowing. Thank you. You should and I will be the first person to buy and read it.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
23 Jun 18
Every word you say is true, dear friend. From your previous post, I feel you are a righteous, sunshiny, friendly person. I hope everything is all right with you.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Caopaopao. Thank you. I am fine over here. I am a friendly person but I am honest about how I feel. I do not pretend if I feel a certain way. I had to express myself or forever hold my breathe.
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@caopaopao (12395)
• China
23 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 I will express myself like you. You did the right thing.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@caopaopao Thank you, my dear friend. I will always support you in whatever you want or wish to be. Remember that always.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Judy. Thank you. That is what I always out in my mind. I cannot live being someone else I am not.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
23 Jun 18
You are so right about people wearing masks. They make you believe they are honest, friends, ready to help, while the are the opposite of what they want to appear. I do not feel to be important, or smarter or anything great, but I am what I am.
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@LadyDuck (471500)
• Switzerland
23 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 It is true, there are people who want to appear more important than they really are.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@LadyDuck I feel so sorry for those people. They seem to think they are much better than others.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Anna. Thank you. They hide themselves from those masks because they are afraid that if people will know the real them, they wont be able to get the same attention they receive or crave for. That makes them feel so important. I really like people who are honest with themselves and for being them.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
i'm surprised, too. it feels like it's been a series of things that have built up.
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@rakski (122901)
• Philippines
23 Jun 18
@hereandthere oh yes. I felt that too. I hope @mlgen1037 is all good.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Rakski and @hereandthere: Thank you. I perfectly fine. I just had to say it or else I will blame myself that I did not do anything about it. I just wish that I can say it straight to the point but that is as subtle as I can be.
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@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Jun 18
You got it right and wrong at the same time. You're not a Nobody. You're a somebody whose opinion is valued. I also know you love Jesus, and that makes you a child of the King. You're somebody, and don't tell yourself you're not. You're only fooling you when you do.
The best thing a person can have is integrity. There isn't a lot of that going around today as everyone chases the almighty buck. Don't let anybody tell you you're stupid. You're not. Believe me, I listened to that lie for far too long. Among many others.
Lies don't originate where there is light and good, only where evil lurks. Be proud of the Somebody you are. God thought you were worth it when he sent his Son, Jesus, to die for you and be your Savior. Hold your head up, and look all those lies in the eye, and tell them they are history. You live in the land of Integrity, and Somebody is who you are.
Now, pass me a cup of that tea, please.
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@just4him (317041)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
25 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 Thank you. It's brewed perfect.
You're welcome. I just didn't want to sit by and read the lie that you're a nobody. Nobody's do exist in the world, but none of them belong to Jesus. They too have the opportunity to become a somebody, and I hope they take the opportunity.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
25 Jun 18
Hi Valerie. Thank you. Those words mean a lot to me and yes, I forget that I am a somebody because Jesus loves me. And Integrity is what I would rather have any other else.
Here is your cup of tea, My dear friend.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
25 Jun 18
@just4him You are always reassuring, Valerie. Your words are comforting that I am more than what I think of myself. Thank you very much.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Xavier. Thank you. Being a NOBODY for being yourself is much better than being SOMEBODY whose INTEGRITY is on the line.
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@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
23 Jun 18
I like to more or less stay in the background. Right now, I am up with a case of insomnia and found your discussion. No, you do not seem like someone who has to be the center of attention.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Heather. Thank you. That is also I like to be in and not step on other people's sunshine. I just like to be on the side and observe.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
24 Jun 18
There is enough pressure to be something we're not. People will put on a mask to gain peoples love. sad. If they just give themselves a chance, they'll meet people who love them for who they are
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
24 Jun 18
Hi Shasta. Thank you. I find it funny how others have to try so hard just to be noticed and get attention. They would say they love themselves but they continue to ask for people’s attention and admiration.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
25 Jun 18
My cup of tea is also being me as well and it does not go down well with a few around me over here.
However I cannot be false and they don´t like it they want me to be another way just to please them and I cannot and they have both got annoyed.
I put the gloves on the table and told them straight no is no.
Like a certain someone who is now President kept saying no es no no is no.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
26 Jun 18
@mlgen1037
I think when you are small you have a great sense of who you really are and it sort of gets twisted a lot of times along the way.
I have a greater sense of me and being me more than before and my kids do not understand it they think that I don´t care and am being selfish when in all truth I am not.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
26 Jun 18
Hi Lovingangelsinstead. Thank you. Society says be yourself but in reality they want you to be someone else you are not. You have to be this and that which is really annoying. Some just do not get it.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
26 Jun 18
@lovinangelsinstead21 That is true. There are people who tell you that you should be this and that, or those who think it is better to be like the rest.
But your children do understand that now? Eventually they learned to be who they really are.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
23 Jun 18
I think no one questions your integrity but you must stop being so hard on yourself. Accepting you as a nice open and honest person is no problem for me. IF people put you down then they are not worthy of your friendship. Move on enjoy your life and who you are.No one has the right to judge you! You know it is funny because you do change as you get older and wiser. We rebel against our parents to a certain extent then a few years down the line you notice that you have the same ideals and morals as they do. It is a shocking revelation when that happens but in a good way! It shows that your parents brought you up right.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
27 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 Good I am glad to hear it. Remember you are a lovely open friendly person but never let people take advantage of you.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
27 Jun 18
@garymarsh6 Thank you for those comforting words. I will remember that always.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Gary. Thank you. This piece is for me to finally let go of the feelings I have inside about certain people. This is actually not about me but I intentionally put this discussion based on how I feel. But I appreciate your response as I think I have been hard on myself. I am finally able to breathe now that I have written this.
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Jun 18
I have tried my entire life, to fit in with other people, to be accepted by other people, to be liked by other people, to make other people happy. In the process, I seldom fit in, was rarely accepted, quite often disliked, and I was very unhappy. I finally gave up trying! I'm not in this world to make other people happy, it's impossible anyway:( I'm learning how to be 'just myself' and with God, that makes me good enough
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
24 Jun 18
@mlgen1037 We are suppose to just be the person, that God created us to be! Unique and different, from all others:)
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
24 Jun 18
@kobesbuddy Exactly but others do not like to be unique, hence they need to copy others and take credit for it as if it is their own. Lies and all.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
24 Jun 18
Hi Kharla. Thank you. I would like to have you as my friend have we met earlier and I am there. And do not worry, you dont need to try hard just to fit in. With God, we just need to be ourselves.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
@Ladanger I appreciate it, my dear. Lets have fun here instead and earn.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
23 Jun 18
Hi Christina. Thank you. I am kind to people who are honest with themselves and no patience with people who try so hard just to fit in and get all the attention they can get.
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