Parenting with Grandparents
By Laureen
@BH0elmereen (826)
Baguio, Philippines
June 29, 2018 7:12pm CST
So I was in the grocery and I saw an older colleague with the largest pack of baby diapers for his grandson. I was touched, some grannies just don't care, some are mean, and some take the parent's responsibility. How about you, how do your parents treat their grandkids?
Photo credit to someecards.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
I am raised solely by grandparents, that made me independent and not so close to my mom.
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@rakski (123278)
• Philippines
30 Jun 18
@BH0elmereen I am also raised by grandma.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
@rakski Great to hear. I am fine with it but i cant ignore the what ifs.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
30 Jun 18
My mother was always good to her grandchildren but sometimes she crossed boundaries. Especially mine.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
I tried that with a very brief stay. They have tendencies to spoil the kids.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
@Starmaiden Isnt it a tough decision how to let them enjoy with these kids at the same time enforce discipline to the kids.
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@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
30 Jun 18
Both sets of grandparents have been very good to my children.
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@Freelanzer (10743)
• Canada
30 Jun 18
@BH0elmereen No never, I don't think they want the responsibility.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
@Freelanzer Lol so they just enjoy. How about school affairs, who awards on ceremonies?
@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
Kudos! Do they step out of their boundaries and overlap on yours?
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@DesirousDreamer (34776)
• Peoria, Arizona
30 Jun 18
My grandma was very sweet to me. Even though she is a very cold woman, she has changed over the years and she did help my mom and me a lot.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
Glad to hear that. Some are superficialy cold, its their defense mechanism, afraid that affection may not be returned. They really are great help if they know tgeir boundaries.
@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
Its an amazing view indeed. Especially when you get closer to their face and see the glow in their eyes. But there are grandparents who have favorites too. Its sad like that.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Jul 18
@BH0elmereen
Yeah, I am not my real Grandma's favorites but her sister whom I called Lola as well, I am her favorite.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
1 Jul 18
@JustBhem Actually i have an aunt lik that. She sees my kids more than my mom. Why is that? At least you got another grandma.
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@IncredKaren (275)
• Philippines
2 Jul 18
I never really had the chance to personally meet my grandparents but I guess having them around is cool. I mean, surely their way of expressing their love is different than the parent's.
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@IncredKaren (275)
• Philippines
2 Jul 18
@BH0elmereen I'm glad it affected you in a very positive way. ^_^
@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
2 Jul 18
That is sad that you werent able to have experienced it. Yes they are amazing. Mine are disciplinarians which i thanked so much i turned out fine.
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@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
30 Jun 18
My parents never spoiled my kids fortunately. All the spoiling is saved for my step moms biological grandkids who are also spoiled by their parents who were also spoiled as kids. Vicious cycle there.
On the other hand we did have some huge issues with boundaries when it came to raising my kids, especially with my step mom. And it's funny, they always hated people telling them how to raise us.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
Yes, ive seen some neighbors with that cycle too. And I pity their kids when they marry, they cannot stand on their own, and again the cycle expands.
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@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
That's good thing to know. Does she easily give in to your requests than you mom?
@BH0elmereen (826)
• Baguio, Philippines
30 Jun 18
Different styles though... Some just give money, some give time, some give both...
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