She wants me dead.

I am sure she said that in a fit of anger and does not really mean it. Our elders do not appreciate being told what to do by the younger generations. I had someone who was older than me and would do the complete opposite of whatever you advised. I learned to tell the opposite of what I wanted so that I would get what I actually wanted. I am sorry she made you cry and I hope that she apologizes. You and your brothers are right, it is not nice to speak about other people. One day she may say something about another person to someone and it backfire on her.

Sorry to hear that. I hope time will come that she will amend her ways.

Oh, honey. She didn't want to make you feel badly. Some people just cannot take criticism, and they fire back out of defensiveness. The problem lies with her, not you.

I am sorry to hear that. That is very harsh at her. I do know at times Asian parents say things they don't often mean.

Is it your home or your mother's home? If it is your home you can ask your mother to leave. It is your mother's home you could leave. Your mother could say or do whatever she wants in her own home. It is very difficult to live with parents once you are an adult. ( I am assuming you are an adult) Parents always assume the role of parents and believe you are still a child when you still live at home and they treat you as such.

i feel you. she still your mom. just ignore her so that you wont argue anymore. let her do what she wants to do. afterall she is on a right age to determine if her actions is right or wrong. let other people criticize her. dont be affected by her.

From what you have said about your mother, the best thing you can do is not to argue with her. Her temper will hurt you too much if you do.

I am sure she was just angry and people who are mad say things they do not mean. Why is she like that though? Does she have some hidden problems you do not know of?

I am so sorry Bhem, you know how she is, do not get too angry. You are right asking not to badmouth and not to spread rumors, but she will always do.

Again, I am sorry to hear about this. You and your siblings situation is hard with her around. Parents does not want their children to tell them what to do. Well, not all. There are really some stubborn minds. I am sure what she said was half meant but it os hard to hear it from your own mother. Knowing that you are already sick and all, those were the last words you want to hear. But I believe you have a purpose. God gave you the chance to live to do that mission. And maybe your mission is your mom. What I can say right now is maybe do not meddle with her so much so you will mot have the negative vibes in you. You need to be calm so you can stay positive and focus on yourself. You have to be strong for your own good. Pray more for youself and pray for your mom. She needs it more.

I think I'd stop talking to someone who said that.

You should not take things to heart, you just concentrate on people who care about you

That is very difficult to hear. How she can say that? I hope she will realise what she is doing.

I don't like people who is gossiper. Just mind there own business.

Aww, I know how it can feel to be attacked unjustly by family members. It is her problem not yours! Try not to let her negativity and unhappiness get to you.

I'm sure your mom didn't wish it by heart and I know she uttered in anger , even no mom can curse their children by heart.

I'm sorry things are tense between you and your mother.

I think she is suffering from a kind of depression. Try to find out if people around her are really backbiting against her.

I am so sorry about this Why is she so mean to you?

Hi Bhem You should not allow yourself to feel like you want to die. You are a very compassionate person, your mother should not make you feel so bad. Parents sometimes forget that their actions effect their children. You voiced your opinion to her behavior. There is nothing wrong with that. I would suggest that you find a place to go to when your mother's actions upset you. You stay the caring, loving person you are. I would be proud to have a daughter like you!