When friends disappoint you, do you just let them be?

Yes there are friends that are obviously only on your side when they are trying to get something from you. If it gets to that point I would really not talk to them anymore.

I don't know anymore how to react to her but yes, i know true friends are hard to find and I have lost a lot of people in my lives the moment the water starts to boil.

I am trying i know she is going through some sorts but I hope she does not try so hard to ignore others too. we have feelings too and she is just so good at making you feel lost about everything

@chiyosan We do have moments in life. I think she just needs time to be detached from other people.

I remember always being there when she needs anything. I always find time to meet her if she feels she needs to talk or what or even whine. I kept up and stayed up late for her too. Not that I am counting it is just that maybe she is feeling uneasy or wanting a new life probably.. but the least she can do is let me know right? It is painful to just be left hanging like this.

@chiyosan I wrote a discussion about this. I have a friend who works as a DH in Dubai. Most of the time she will message me on Facebook, we talked endlessly, I sure have time for her just to make her not feel lonely. Her so-called boyfriend is our friend, they only have a relationship through texting before, and I was the bridge. I used to tell her things her boyfriend is doing because we live in the same place before. In short, I was her reporter. It was 8 years of communicating like that. Until this year, she went home for good. What makes me disappointed has she never let me know she was already home and that they already meet with her boyfriend and that they stayed in one place already. If not for her boyfriend we wouldn't know about it. I feel betrayed. I don't know how to explain the anger, what worse is, she talks to me behind my back and told one of our friends that after all those years, she didn't like to talk to me. After those sleepless nights, I endure just to be with her on messenger. I am really feel bad about it.

@JustBhem I am so sorry to hear about this from you... and I guess I can relate to it a bit because it is the same feeling that we have been there for them and sharing their pains and all only to know how little they see of us. =( We really cannot know everyone's intentions. People change, people can be so mean like that too. Have you also tried to reach out and well see if you still can chat or patch things up?

a lot of people do not know what they are missing out on especially on people who have been good to them sometimes we neglect their kindness and thought it will never end so we do not value those that stick with us. ihope she realizes how much i consider her my friend.

@chiyosan yes that's sad but true

I do not expect much, it is just that she always "runs away" or disappears and I am left hanging as to what happened to her. I will see her post on social media but totally ignore me and even if i tag her... she will not acknowledge those.

@chicnthin thank you for your response. I wish for her to be better friend if not to me at least to others she meet in the future. i swear not all would be so patient with her

@chiyosan well that kind of friend is toxic, and brings nothing good at all.

But i am just here all the time! she need not even tell me and i can feel something is wrong and when i ask she ignores me and is seemingly so happy with other people. But maybe that is just her. I hope everything gets settled once she is okay already.

@chiyosan I take those kind of people as they are mostly. Its true I can get puzzled as to why they act that way but that is life sometimes.

thank you sebastian! I guess i should really assess to which group she belongs in my life. I consider her as someone important to me already that is why i am hurt when she ignores me purposely. sometimes it is just so hard to accept the fact that people are so different.

seriously she is so hard to understand. i can't keep up with all the drama. ='(

it sure goes on. thank you!