i want a relationship now

Hi, Welcome to Mylot. Are you not getting new faces? Oh well this is the high time to change the Bar Jokes apart, I have seen a few movies and seems like people do use dating apps a lot there. I am not sure how true these movie scenes are. Let me talk about my culture, here in the late 20s and early 30s one will start searching for their soulmate, match their profile, get their family involved and if all things matched up then they will get married. @daddyevil - @vandana7 - @topffer - @jlyn10 Any views on this

Its hard for sure. I am in a similar boat. I am using an online dating site called okcupid. But you have to weed out the losers for sure.

I 'know what you mean' (I sorta feel the same way). Before I go any further, I want to make it clear that I'm talking to you as more of a 'brother' than a 'possible spouse' (although ... Isn't that kinda 'what you're looking for' in a man? ) ... no, I'm in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, and that and a bunch of other reasons put me 'out of the running'---no income (certainly not one anywhere above the average ... and further & further BELOW average as wages increase---meaning you'd be the 'earner in the family' if you moved to OKC and handled all the legal stuff required to adopt me from the ... etc., etc.) Anyway, I saw this 'rather plain comedienne' (Katie Hannigan) on The Late Show with Stephen Colbert last night, and started thinking "That's the kinda girl I want to marry." Not one of the ones like another comedienne (Iliza Schlesinger) talks about, who're "out at the club" trying to attract men like animals-in-heat 'presenting themselves' in the jungle. Funny how they never talk about going out & 'looking for a man to grow old with,' though that's what you really want. No, the popular thing girls (and I mean 'girls' ... you could call them 'women' or 'young women,' but they're "girls" until they're married (as the root of the word 'woman' is 'Wife of Man')) say they want is ... just "a man"---they don't exactly "say" what they want 'a man' for, so we men "let our imaginations 'run wild' (though they don't get too far past the bedroom)" there. I feel like I've already been 'young'--37's not 'over 50'-old, but it's not 'all you can eat & drink & have a good time all night'-young either. I guess what 'girls' mean when they say they want to "grow old together" with a man is more like they want to 'find a young, wild steed and sap the strength of his youth (allowing him to sap theirs too)'---i.e. they mean 'they want a man to sacrifice himself to them (as they sacrifice themselves to him).' Maybe that sounds like I'm against marriage; but we're all 'losing ourselves' anyway; would you rather 'lose yourself' to a real person's keeping? or 'lose yourself' to some possibly-imaginary deity?

I think a bar isn't the right place to meet your Mr Right. The world is a very big place, you know.

I am not sure how to find a date. For me, it is best to socialize in some events and not in a bar.

You can meet quality people on myLot, but dating any of them can be really tough! Welcome to myLot!

To be honest I can´t think of anything to say that would be really good for you to meet someone. All I can do is to send you all best wishes that you might get to meet someone really special. Here´s to that.

You will meet someone but make sure you know them well, it will probably happen when you least expect it.

No clue re: finding good people for dating purpose. Good luck. (I have a friend who tried to find her soul mate by faithfully going to pubs and bars every Friday and Saturday nights. No luck there. In the end, she met her future husband in a work conference (she is a scientist). )

I hope you will find one.

Join dating.com hehe !! It's a dating site, maybe you can find good man there.. good luck

I can't really recommend any site but an honest relationship is just around the corner. Don't feel bad it might be best that you have more space for yourself. Give time it will surely come.

I use to work at a bar here in New York city so I know what u mean I use date men there and now I met a nice guy in school

A café or hmm a lounge type of place? Go to the park,

Oh we are so much the same, i think i had my last relationship about 2 years ago and though i am not craving to be in a relationship... i just thought it must be really great to be in one again and feel loved and cared for. I work 8 hour job and live close to the workplace so i rarely have the chance to meet people let alone my age bracket so it is kinda hard too. I hope you find the right person for you soon. =)

Maybe you are right about you working at the bar is the main reason why you meet the wrong people around. I strongly suggest that if you could find a different job could the start or if that is out of the question, then maybe try doing your networking to other places other than the place you work. One thing could be the church you are involved in, or an organization or clubs for single people could find a much better chance of meeting the right guy for you.

It varies from person to person but for me what's best is to always go out and socialize with the right people. . and to never ever be afraid to say No. Don't be deceived by the looks yet look towards the heart of a person. A kind person is worth to be dated.