Second hand ring.

Anna

@LadyDuck (471541)

• Switzerland

30 Jul 18

@Kandae11 Selling the old one and purchasing a new one sounds as a better option. I would prefer no ring at all if he cannot afford, than a ring owned by a previous girlfriend.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

@LadyDuck Same here.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

If it was owned by an ex-girlfriend , he should try to get it sold, then purchase a new one. It would depend too on if he can afford a new ring.

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@Daljinder (23236)

• Bangalore, India

30 Jul 18

The one who proposed had put in their hard earned money into it so respecting / keeping that in mind and also that sentiments matter more than the gift / ring, I shall say that it doesn't matter whether the ring is new or second hand. If engagement has fallen through, the ring should be returned unless the couple bought it together then they can share the cash after selling it. Also if the ring is inherited / a family heirloom then the meaning behind it carries more weight as well so...

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

Quite a lot of ifs to consider.

If I was the one breaking off the engagement I wouldn't keep the ring - I would give it back. Only if he broke it off would I keep it. I would consider it a honour to be offered a family heirloom ring.

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vanny

@vandana7 (100288)

• India

31 Jul 18

Not always...I would never take it if it belonged to Mary the Queen of Scott...

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@Daljinder (23236)

• Bangalore, India

30 Jul 18

@Kandae11 Family heirloom is an honour!!!! I agree.

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Hope

@1hopefulman (45120)

• Canada

30 Jul 18

I think that the ring like the relationship should be new. If the engagement is off than the rings should be returned. I think I'm being fair.

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Hope

@1hopefulman (45120)

• Canada

30 Jul 18

@Kandae11 I don't think it matters who breaks it off. It is off. There is no more engagement. Return the ring. That's the way I see things! But if she insists on keeping the ring, fine and good riddance. Now I can see it was a good thing to do.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

But shouldn't returning the ring depend on who is doing the breaking off?

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

@1hopefulman

I suppose if the breakup was what one would call a "clean breakup" - no hard feelings, then she would return the ring gladly.

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Always smiling

@allknowing (136448)

• India

31 Jul 18

An emphatic no

When an engagement breaks everything including gifts should be returned in my opinion

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Always smiling

@allknowing (136448)

• India

31 Jul 18

@Kandae11 Wise thing to do. Imagine things being there in your cupboard and each time you opened you think of those bad days.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

@allknowing What I know hangs around for a long time is the scent of his cologne.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

I would return everything if I wanted to forget him faster.

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Courage7

@Courage7 (19633)

• United States

30 Jul 18

I am not sure about that. But I am sure there are many nice rings that are second hand perhaps antique.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

@Courage7

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

The problem will arise if it was previously worn by his ex girlfriend.

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Courage7

@Courage7 (19633)

• United States

30 Jul 18

@Kandae11 I would ignore the scoundrel if he were to dare give me an x girlfriend ring lol

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Jessa Bumagat

@Jessabuma (31700)

• Baguio, Philippines

30 Jul 18

I don't like second hand ring also, I will also feel uncomfortable if I wear it.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

Imagine if you happen to meet the ex and she says "that's my ring you are wearing".

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Jessa Bumagat

@Jessabuma (31700)

• Baguio, Philippines

31 Jul 18

@Kandae11 hehehe that's my point. Haha!!! Its good to have new ones

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Jessa Bumagat

@Jessabuma (31700)

• Baguio, Philippines

31 Jul 18

@kepweng hahaha!!!!

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vanny

@vandana7 (100288)

• India

31 Jul 18

I would be ok...unless Queen Anne Boleyn wore it...or Mary the Queen of Scotts wore it...then it would be too dangerous to be wearing...my neck...very precious.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

Ann Boleyn knew the dangers she faced, but being a queen or king was of great importance in those days.

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Alfredo Rossi

@amadeo (111938)

• United States

30 Jul 18

I would not accept it.Give me the real thing and no second hand.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

It could be sold and a new one bought with the money.

James Higgins

@JamesHxstatic (29413)

• Eugene, Oregon

31 Jul 18

Heavy questions. It is such a personal decision, but it would make me feel strange to give or to wear one.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

I know what you mean.

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DianneN

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

30 Jul 18

If the ring was passed down from a grandmother, I'd consider it. However, If it came from a former fiancee, no way. A woman should return the ring if she breaks off the engagement.

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DianneN

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

30 Jul 18

@Kandae11 From what I've read, it IS the right thing to do, unless the man breaks it off. In that case, it's a gift, but I sure wouldn't want it at that point.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

@DianneN I doubt that I would want it either. Unless I plan to sell it and buy something else.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

That would be the right thing to do - even if it may be considered as a gift.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317089)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

30 Jul 18

Interesting question. I don't know if I would feel comfortable knowing the ring was originally for someone else. It would also make me feel like second best. I think I read or heard that the proper thing in a breakup is that the girl keeps the ring.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317089)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

30 Jul 18

@Kandae11 I think that's how it goes, then the girl keeps the ring.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

Yes indeed - that is, if it is considered as a gift. And especially if the guy is the one who calls it off.

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Darcy Nemo

@YrNemo (20255)

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31 Jul 18

Plenty of people gave their intended the family heirloom ring, passing down from their greatgrandma, to grandma, to mom, & finally to them for their intended. I would love to have an old ring like that (especially if it is pretty

.). Rings should be returned if the engagement is no longer there. (I think.) Would be funny if a guy gave his new fiancé a ring he had given to his ex.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

That is the theme of my post. There are guys who give the engagement ring which was returned ( after the engagement fell through ) to their new intended wife. The question is would you want a ring which was cast off from his ex. Heirloom rings are quite okay.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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2 Aug 18

@YrNemo I suppose if the ex sees her and says "You are wearing my ring"!

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Darcy Nemo

@YrNemo (20255)

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2 Aug 18

@Kandae11 Doesn't sound right... Glad that I was not offered one. And if the girl was offered one, she wouldn't know would she?

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Arunima Singh

@arunima25 (87806)

• Bangalore, India

31 Jul 18

I have never faced that situation and it is a little tricky for me to answer. My engagement ring came from my Mother in law. It was her ring and so it came to me as a blessing and I accepted it.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

I will have one handed down from a mother or grandmother with pleasure.

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Arunima Singh

@arunima25 (87806)

• Bangalore, India

31 Jul 18

@Kandae11 Yes it comes like a proud family legacy

Muhamad Yasin

@muhamadyasin82 (656)

• Jakarta, Indonesia

31 Jul 18

I think that's something that's an inappropriate thing to do. I myself once gave a bag to someone I would tell her about my love to her, but although eventually she refused my love, i still gave the bag for her, because i bough the bag just for her, not for anyone else

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

You're a kind and thoughtful person.

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Muhamad Yasin

@muhamadyasin82 (656)

• Jakarta, Indonesia

1 Aug 18

@Kandae11 yes thank you, it's been so long gone. the point is sometimes we do buy something just special for certain people, not for others

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marguicha

@marguicha (223028)

• Chile

30 Jul 18

I would not accept a second hand ring. The bridegroom can sell it and buy another one. As for the second question, the ring should be returned.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

If the ring is expensive and he can get it sold - that would be the best route to take. If he was the one who broke up with me I would keep the ring and probably sell it , but yes, I would return it if I broke up with him.

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marguicha

@marguicha (223028)

• Chile

30 Jul 18

@Kandae11 I agree to that.

marguicha

@marguicha (223028)

• Chile

30 Jul 18

@compslick I understood that the ring had belonged to a previous bride the groom had

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Go Crossbones

@crossbones27 (49463)

• Mojave, California

31 Jul 18

Yay My Lady got a top rated discussion. Proud of you miss lady. Unfortunately I am the wrong person to ask about this discussion. Women hate me.

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Go Crossbones

@crossbones27 (49463)

• Mojave, California

31 Jul 18

@Kandae11 You awesome. Are you trying to tell me I am doing it wrong? Its all good, as my sister says we all have our roles to play.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

@crossbones27 You should know exactly what you are doing. You should also know when the time is right to sing a different tune or dance to another number - that is of course - if you really want to.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

I don't hate you.

You might think they hate you , but they don't - women do not always show their true feelings immediately.

Now about the top rated - at the risk of sounding less than humble - I nave been there countless times.

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Arthur Chappell

@arthurchappell (44998)

• Preston, England

31 Jul 18

I think it depends on economy and if the partner can afford an exclusive engagement ring

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Arthur Chappell

@arthurchappell (44998)

• Preston, England

31 Jul 18

@Kandae11 that would be an option

@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

I suppose he could try selling the old one and buy a new one.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37355)

• Toccoa, Georgia

30 Jul 18

I would be offended to get a second hand ring that had belonged to an ex. About whether to return a ring if an engagement falls through, the woman should not have to return it if the guy is the one who broke up with her. But, if the girl breaks up with the guy, then she should return it.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37355)

• Toccoa, Georgia

30 Jul 18

@Kandae11 She should keep it because then she could sell it and get money for it.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

I agree. He could sell the ring and buy a new one. Yes, if the guy breaks up with her, she should keep the ring - that is if she would want to.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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30 Jul 18

@LeaPea2417 That makes sense.

Melanie Marie

@Melanie_Marie (1871)

• New Baltimore, Michigan

1 Aug 18

I still have my engagement ring even though I didn't follow thru with the actual wedding - my ex-fiance told me to keep it, so I did. Well, it's at a pawn shop right now but I'm getting it back in 5 months. Anyway, I wouldn't want a ring that was bought for someone else, but if it belonged to the guy's grandma or something....then that wouldn't be too bad. (If it didn't look old and stupid.) I love THIS RING at Costco. I'm gonna buy it for myself one day. I don't wanna be married to anyone, I'm too scared.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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1 Aug 18

@Melanie_Marie Wow! - it is indeed lovely. You might change your mind about getting married someday.

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Melanie Marie

@Melanie_Marie (1871)

• New Baltimore, Michigan

2 Aug 18

@Kandae11

I don't think so. But thank you anyway... I knew you'd love that ring. She's a beauty!

Melanie Marie

@Melanie_Marie (1871)

• New Baltimore, Michigan

1 Aug 18

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Jim Bauer

@porwest (90917)

• United States

31 Jul 18

I suppose if one is superstitious. That being said, I am not sure I would GIVE someone an engagement ring intended for someone else. Just seems tacky to me.

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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6 Aug 18

@porwest It is a better idea,

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@Kandae11 (55036)

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31 Jul 18

Doesn't seem right somehow.

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Jim Bauer

@porwest (90917)

• United States

6 Aug 18

@Kandae11 I liked one idea someone mentioned which was to maybe sell the ring and use the money to buy something new and special for the current significant other. Seems like a much better idea to me.

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