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I wanted to ask for a little.... or big opinion. Of course won’t take no response personal, especially since I understand that it’s long or just don’t have anything to answer lol. So what can you advise me. So my brother has a business and everyone is on my back about the business my brother has. The business is construction. They all tell me to stay but in a way I don’t want to since I hate construction. A lot of people talk me into staying but I just hate it lol. In the work site its only my parents and a worker who is above 40 years old and me who is 31 lol. People do point out, “why do you want to work making someone else money when you have your money here. Basically you’re turning down an opportunity of a business where you can already be up here being yours and not start down here working your way up challenging til you get your business and if it makes it.” I don’t know, I mean I see a lot of places of jobs where there’s workers laughing with others because the workers are the same age, in the business are my parents and a guy at 40--something. So I don’t have that but again they point out, “look at the vacations you have (when we travel it's more than 2 weeks), if you work for others, say goodbye to vacations. You will only have vacation when they tell you and when they do, it’ll be annually and only for 1, 2 weeks tops and you have to work at least a year to get them. You'll have to get up when they tell you and give you the days off when they tell you, none of that 'I'll have weekends off, or there’s relatives over that I like to spend time with at my house,’ you have to work weekends and any day whether or not you have your favorite relatives over if they say so.” When there's relatives I love to spend time with and they go over the week when we work, my dad says to stay if I want and go to work the next day. There was one house we were working during fall/winter season and there was a holiday during that time. You know how some works and pretty much 98% of schools closes on those festivals day? Since one my brother is a teacher he obviously had that day off since he's in the 98% school who has those days off and my other brother is a real estate agent (the one with this business), he chooses his days off which it’s Mondays mainly and rarely Sundays or Tuesdays. One of my brothers invited us as a brother night out to a bar or something but it was on a Monday so obviously I couldn’t go but if it was after shift over and they’re still be there I’ll Uber it (since I don't drive). I don’t remember how a conversation at lunch at work started, I guess it was just the worker pointing it out, “people better be careful this weekend because of the holiday Monday.” It’s just an example to my point, I don’t exactly remembered what he said. My dad was like, “oh that’s right, a holiday.” Without trying to point out anything or say a hint of something, I was like “my brothers are going out that day lol,” just to continue the conversation. My dad was like, “oh you’re going with them?” I said no and he was like “why didn’t they invite you?” I said “they did but well, what we’re doing here. They’re gonna hangout on a Monday.” He said, “don’t you worry, go tag along with them, I’ll give you your day off. You can work Tuesday.” I told my brothers I was going. My mom who supports me staying at the business goes, “see, what work lets you do that?” In April there was another house we were working on with the similar story. My brother hasn’t seen his university friends for the longest time and my brother started his spring break since, again, he’s a teacher and out of coincidence his friends had vacation that week, so they took advantage and plan to have a sleep over at my brothers then go out to casinos and bars and all. A few days before they had it planned out, I went to my brother’s just to hang out. He had mentioned it to me about the sleep over. My parents picked me up afterwards that night and my dad asked just to start conversations, “so, what did you guys do over there?” I remembered telling him, “we were watching a Mighty Ducks movie,” and again just to say it without pointing anything out or hinting, I added, “they’re gonna have something this week with his university friends because everyone has vacation that same week of the spring break, so they took advantage to get together.” My dad was like, “oh yea I forgot he has spring breaks, and what about you, did he invite you?” I again said “yea but I can’t go.” And after he asked why, I was like, “well, because of the house we’re working on. The sleep over is only for the week.” My dad then said, “don’t worry about work, I’ll give you your spring break.” My mom again, “see why it’s best to work for your dad? The only time you'll get lucky if that job gives you the week of, which I doubt they will.” I really didn’t have anything to say but thought, “I just hate it,” lol. When my dad mentioned to me about my age and the years it’ll take me to finish college, not including university, which is + more longer, he also mentioned that just because I have a degree, doesn’t mean I’m just gonna work in what I like, I have to look for that kind of work. He mentioned the age I might be by then. Well I had started college at 18 years of age but I didn't take it seriously and since I have meningitis that affected learning disablility, it's my fault that I didn’t took/take advantage of the benefits I had as a disability student which was more time in tests, having someone take my notes while I was able to listen to the instructor calmly, and tape recording since, again, my disability is learning problems. I thought since beginning college I didn’t need it. Also, I was undecided on my major. After I made up my mind and accepted my benefits about disability and accept that I needed it, my dad realized that I was taking long and got desperate. He told me about the business, to stay in it because it could be mine. He also mentioned that what if I don’t work in what I studied. He also gave me examples of his diploma on what he studied that he didn’t work on that job. He told me I had cousins who don’t work on their major they got a degree on. What if that’s me he said to me. I didn’t know how to response but I started looking for technical schools at least since it takes months not years and there’s jobs I can work that’s a big company according to their commercials. My mom told me my dad felt bad and felt hurt that I kind of didn't take the business option. She mentioned to it to people and told a caring relative that she didn’t know what to do and to talk to me about the fact that I hurt my dad so that relative talked to me and mentioned that what I’m doing is wrong and that I am messing up a big opportunity. I told him the reason I hate it, cold on fall/winter and heat on spring/summer and that if I were to work on a place I like, on a hot day there's air conditioning, on a cold day they have a heater. He mentioned that he’ll warn me that I was gonna struggle out there (since I have trouble with speech and learning) where in the business, I’ll be with the family. He added that if it were him, he’ll take it without thinking it twice and screw the heat and cold. I added about his kids doing what they love and responded that it was because he didn’t have anything to give them. He kept telling that to remember that I’ll struggle out there believing it or not. He was like “it’s all that construction? So? I’ll take it.” I just think that they’re trying to make me feel better since they know I regretted it on failing college by not accepting my needs. Probably I’m really one of the bad examples, which he may even use it, to why to go to college like they probably say, “look at this guy (me) taking years in college and not go anywhere, you don’t want to be like him. Look at him miserable and working at a job he hates and waking up all sluggish. You want to want to get up with energy working at a job you can consider like a game with pay. Looking forward to do your job.” I know he'll say that since when I was younger, he'll tell me that. Other relatives told me the opposite, that I need to challenge myself and that stop taking it easy with my family since that’s all I’ve been doing in all the jobs I had, well, one I worked with relatives of my aunt’s (my mom's sister) husband’s lol. I told him that I had my cousins told me to challenge myself and not just work easy work. He responded the same thing, “I don’t know but if I were you I’ll stick with the business. Tell them yea I work with my family and what?” Some do tell me I’m stupid and dumb for letting this opportunity pass. There was a long ago show, Full House that’s about life lessons and this episode was one literally the same, a dad build his termites business for his sons but the son mentioned, “what about my dream, dad.” The quoted words...that's what I want to say. Also, since my dad has his little cranky for little things problems, I prefer having him as my dad than a boss because when we’re at work, there’s scolding involved, home, stress and scold and let me say that we take the stress at work home. Like sometimes is like "ugh" to see that he's calm and talks great with my brothers and others than me because I work for him and the mistakes I make at work, we argue and the arguemens comes home with us. My brothers don't work for him so there's no reason for him to be mad at them. I don’t know I just feel like I could’ve done something more (and I failed on that). So what’s better, working in something I hate but getting benefits or work I love but with challenges? Everyone do say that the benifits in my case is wrong that I'm like this because its bad to work like whenever I want. So it may same those benifits is wrong anyway. Almost everyone mentioned it to me that I was still considered young for someone to go back to college. Not to mention some mentioning about working and making new friends that I might be able to make...my age lol and maybe hangout outside work. Or am I really like that stupid that I’m really letting this go, well, or not saying it in a mean way, dumb (or do deserve to be called stupid here lol?) Or is this situation mostly saying of me being lazy because of physical work? You think that my dad felt bad that none of his sons followed in his footsteps or is this no reason to why a dad should feel? PS: I’m still working with them and up to date, I’m still going. Thanks