How do you react when a friend ignores you?
By Phin2020
@Phinyf27 (82)
August 11, 2018 8:09am CST
We all have friends that we want to keep no matter what and I had one who goes way back almost 7 years now as friends. We had a long distance friendship and it's weird that even how long we didn't communicate, he suddenly comes back and hangs out with me when he is in the city. I understand he had been going through a lot what with personal issues with his family and work issues. However, the real draw was when I needed him because I too had my family issues and he was not there. He just ignored my message and that was the real deal. I decided to move forward and cut off communication because it was clear to me that when he needs me, I am there for him but when I need him, he is not there. Also, I gave him about a month to at least give the benefit of the doubt but clearly it wasn't working. So, how you guys deal with it?
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
11 Aug 18
If this is the case, the person does not deserve you at all
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
12 Aug 18
@Phinyf27 yes...and I'm sure he will regret it some day
@BabeSays (8575)
• Mauritius
11 Aug 18
I'd do the same. If in hard time he wasn't there for you and has been ignoring all your messagez then he doesn't deserve your friendship. You are a nice person so please move on and make new friend who would care for you and treats you well.
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@LeaPea2417 (37351)
• Toccoa, Georgia
11 Aug 18
It is interesting you have written about this topic right at this moment because I am in a very similar situation. It is a long distance friendship and this person has always been there for me to at least say hello to, until recently. This person is Muslim and I am really thinking the reason I can't get in touch at the moment is because he is going to the Hajj that is coming up later this month. But, I don't know it for sure, it is just what I think. I am so hoping that by next month when all the religious festivities are over, he will be back to conversation.
So, the relationship is not over yet. I am just hoping and praying that religious obligations are being focused on at the moment, because I have known this person for a long time.
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
21 Aug 18
@Phinyf27
I had a friend that we were best friends in high school. When I came to live in Israel I went back only two times. One was the beginning to bring things here and the other was to make some money and then leave and not go back. My mother passed away and I knew I could not mourn her there so I did what I was suppose to do and mourned her here. Well, this friend sent me a letter and the obituary and was angry and when i wrote back and asked what was going on she never let me know. So, I let go of the past and moved on to my life here. I may never know what was going on with her because the only way I would see her now is if she came here and not so sure I would want to see her.
@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
11 Aug 18
Life happens and people change. Sometimes our paths take us down very different roads than our friends and we become distant. It is best to not hold on and just let it go. 
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@Aiya2218 (54)
• Manila, Philippines
17 Aug 18
It was really hard for me when my friend ignores me, but when i think of maybe she has her own reason and i said to myself that maybe one day she will realize how important our friendship and then she can still come to me... i will be always her friend no matter what.
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@jvgomd (20)
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13 Aug 18
I have to say that your friendship sounds very one-sided. You're all ears for him when he needs you but when when the time came the YOU actually needed HIM ... he did not even bother. If I were you I would just cut this friend off completely, you have absolutely no use for someone who cannot reciprocate what you give to him. That being said. the blessing of your deed is the deed itself. You helped someone when they needed someone the most - it's pretty Mother Teresa like but that is the reward. Kudos to you!
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@Phinyf27 (82)
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14 Aug 18
It's even ironic because we had a long talk the last time he came back here in the city. He shared to me all his family problems and he also told me all about his childhood and how SELFLESS he is. lol I could just laugh it off. It's too bad he lost a friend due to being in fact selfish.
