I am really depressed
By Nancy Zink
@ramapo17 (30441)
Melbourne, Florida
August 22, 2018 9:33pm CST
This has been a bad month for us. My next door neighbor on one side had fallen last week and her daughter and her husband were away on vacation. My husband happened to look out the window and saw the rescue squad there. Of course I went right over there. She was taken to the hospital and being her daughter was away, that left me to be the one to take care of her 3 cats. Luckily they never go outside.
My neighbor on the other side was the lady I wrote about awhile ago that fell while walking her dog over a month ago. Her son came down to Florida from New Jersey and when she finally got out of rehab her son stayed for 2 months. She is my adopted mom as my mom is long gone.
Her son said he had to go back to New Jersey as he has a big farm and he knows she was alright and she kept telling him to go home to take care of things. He got everything packed and he cleaned out her whole house to make sure it was safe for her. He was loading up the car and something told him she didn't want him to go and they both decided she would go with him.
The house he was going back to was the one he was raised in and still his moms. They left yesterday very early and I am missing her already. I do not know if she will ever come back as it is a 24 hour drive and she is 90 years old. A very spunky 90 year old lady!!!
Now we sit here between two houses without my good friends. I don't know when the first one will ever get out of the rehab as she had a knee replacement a couple of months ago.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
23 Aug 18
Do you live in a 55 plus community? We do when we are in Florida and we have an elderly gentleman on one side of us and the other is a rental. Our neighborhood has more older people than many of the other neighborhoods in our resort.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
23 Aug 18
@ramapo17 Yes I did know about your husband, we have my husband's brother and his wife and our three nieces and their families in other parts of Ocala. We do meet some of our neighbors at the pool but we are not here enough to b really make friends.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
@compslick Thank you. I know things will get better and I am very grateful that I can be here for both of them if they need me.
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@Marilynda1225 (82840)
• United States
23 Aug 18
That is very sad Nancy and I hope your neighbor with knee replacement comes home after rehab.
Hope you'll keep in touch with the other that went home with her son.
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@Marilynda1225 (82840)
• United States
23 Aug 18
@ramapo17 hope you keep in touch with your neighbor lady and it would be nice to have some new friends as well.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
@Marilynda1225 I really took a liking to her as she is like a mother figure to me.
A very spunky lady.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
@compslick I know it will and I am famous for telling everyone else my favorite saying and now I repeat it to myself a lot,
"this to shall pass".
@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
27 Aug 18
@YrNemo She didn't do the driving, her son did. She does drive though and would always drive my other neighbor and myself to our horticulture class every week, we both offered to drive and she liked to do it. I think she is trying to hang onto everything she can, while she can.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
23 Aug 18
It is difficult when you lose two friends at once. Making new ones is not easy either. At least there is the telephone. I'm sure they would appreciate a call from you. 
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
23 Aug 18
@MACQUUNE It means "Beautiful Light".
My friends and family call me "Lucy" which also means "Light".
Thank you.
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@marguicha (223346)
• Chile
23 Aug 18
Sometimes it seems that every bad thing comes at the same time
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
That is so true @marguicha. I think it happens this way to remind us what we really have going for us.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
23 Aug 18
It was sad. I think one of your neighbors will be home after she recovered.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
She can't wait to come back home but she probably not be able to walk around. The daughter went out and bought a ramp so they can bring the wheel chair in and out when needed.
@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
@compslick Thank you so much. That is very kind of you.
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@LeaPea2417 (37357)
• Toccoa, Georgia
23 Aug 18
I am sorry to read this. I hope you can stay in touch with the one who moved away.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
@LadyDuck Luckily I do not know many people here. My neighbor on each side and that is it. If we go to the dances or parties I recognize some but don't socialize with any after we leave the party. The little lady next to me feels like family. She is 90 and I am 76 but I feel very close to her. I hope I will see her again but I do not think she will ever come back and live alone again.
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@wolfgirl569 (106685)
• Marion, Ohio
23 Aug 18
Hope the one gets home soon. I understand the other one going home with her son.
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@wolfgirl569 (106685)
• Marion, Ohio
23 Aug 18
@ramapo17 Thats good and hopefully you get another nice neighbor on that side as soon as she decides what to do.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
23 Aug 18
I can understand it to. Luckily I have both her and her sons phone numbers so I can be in touch. She looked happy to be going home with her son.
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
24 Aug 18
That is sad. but I am glad he took his mom with him at 90 she needs 24/7 care no matter what anyone says, because I have known many spunky 90+ year olds.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
@compslick I know it is and I loved having her for a neighbor. She is so sweet and kind.
@carolmill876 (45)
• United Kingdom
23 Aug 18
Good genuine friends are hard to come by and it sounds you guys have become very close. Hopefully the one in rehab gets home soon, that will fill abit of the void.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
You are right. I think the older one reminds me of my grandmother. She is so sweet and kind.
@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
24 Aug 18
I agree with you. I cannot see her coming back again. It is a 20 hour car trip or more, depending on traffic and weather. I am surprised her son drove right through from Florida to New Jersey in one day. We are also from New Jersey and whenever we go up to visit the family and friends we stay overnight in a hotel half way there.
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@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
27 Aug 18
Sorry to hear another neighbor, and friend, fell.. and very sorry the other one moved.. but it seems it was best for her.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
23 Aug 18
You are right. I never wanted to leave Pennsylvania and New Jersey but my husbands health said he had to get out of the cold. I finally have these two friends and now they are both not here. There is plenty to do down here but I need some "ME" time with my friends.
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