How good is your memory for your early days?

@TheHorse (223387)
Walnut Creek, California
September 1, 2018 5:44pm CST
A recent discussion with one of my favorite MyLotters reminded me that we vary widely in the extent to which we remember our earliest days. I can remember being lost in a famous Plaza in Venice Italy when I was 3- or 4-years-old. I can remember being clever and knowing how many feet were in a mile in first grade. And I can remember thinking my second grade teacher was "nuts," before she was replaced by another teacher. How good is your memory for your early days? Am I weird for remembering so much?
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
1 Sep 18
My memory is often too good for my own good.
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@GardenGerty (162252)
• United States
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse For me, I believe it was anxiety. I was in a constant state of anxiety as a child that I would be wrong, do things wrong, not understand things I should.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@GardenGerty Do you have a sense of where that anxiety/pressure came from? Was there external pressure on you to do things "right"?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
I find it fascinating (as a psychologist and as a "lay person") that some have incredibly detailed memories of early childhood experiences and some have virtually no memory of early childhood experiences. What differentiates the two groups?
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@JudyEv (346634)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Sep 18
I remember a few things from when I was 4 but mostly my memories start later.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
My parents told me I had a memory from when I was before one.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@JudyEv I was in the hospital and wanted my mom. But I didn't have the words to express it. I still have a mental image for that memory and how I was feeling.
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@JudyEv (346634)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse Wow, that would be a bit unusual.
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@sallypup (62900)
• Centralia, Washington
1 Sep 18
My memory- lack of- scares the pea green out of me. Especially when hubby starts up with remembering his kindergarten teacher's name etc.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@compslick I don' remember my preschool or Kindergarten teachers' names, but I can remember specific evens that happened during those years.
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@sallypup (62900)
• Centralia, Washington
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse Way to go. You should write a book.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
I cannot remember my Kindergarten teacher's name. But I remember the layout of the classroom and some of the things I enjoyed doing.
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@HazySue (39267)
• Gouverneur, New York
2 Sep 18
My memory of my early days is terrible. My hubby however can remember things for his early years crystal clear.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Have you ever wondered "why"? I wonder that all the time. I remember things from early childhood that my brother (one year and two weeks younger than me) can't remember at all.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@compslick Oh, I remember specifics from my college days. I can remember what I was thinking when a particular picture was taken.
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@HazySue (39267)
• Gouverneur, New York
3 Sep 18
@TheHorse my sister-in-law is always wondering how in the world he remembers things that happened when they were kids.
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
2 Sep 18
What a handsome little boy! Yes, my childhood memories are pretty clear and some are very pleasant:) While others, I've tried to block them out, but it didn't work. I wish that I could forget all of it!
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
My early days were some of my best days. Things got rough later on.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@kobesbuddy The teenage years can be like that. I couldn't figure out whether to be brainiac, a jock, or a "head" (early language for stoner). In the end, I gave up trying to figure things out and had the most fun with the kids on my block. That was in the days when kids still went outside and played.
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse From 13-18 I thought I was living in the Twilight Zone.
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@Starmaiden (9311)
• Canada
2 Sep 18
I have very vague memories of being an infant, but none of them pleasant.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
That sucks. Were your parents "troubled" during your early days?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@compslick Where did you travel to? Did you have to move a lot? As an academic brat, I had to move a few times.
• Canada
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse It's complicated. It concerns what was happening to me, not them.
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@BarBaraPrz (48596)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
2 Sep 18
My earliest memories go back to when I was a year and a half old. And they're captured in black and white photos. In one I'm scowling because I'm wearing a buttoned-up wool coat and hat while my sister has on an open bolero jacket and my brother and father are in shirt sleeves. I didn't like being all bundled up but of course didn't have the words to voice my objection. That would have been in late spring. Another memory in photo I have is not wanting to have to wear a diaper under my sunsuit in the summer. I tried to tell my mother that I wouldn't poop but she wasn't taking any chances. I also have a photo of us standing outside the chicken coop. I remember wanting to pet the hen at the fence and putting my finger through the mesh. The chicken thought it was a nice juicy worm and bit it. Of course, there are other memories, but those are my earliest.
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@BarBaraPrz (48596)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse Is that your Grade 1 photo?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@BarBaraPrz It is! Could you tell because I still have all of my baby teeth?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
That's quite early! I have one of being in a doctor's office or hospital and wanting my mom (usually I wanted my dad). I didn't have the words to express my desires, so I must have been pretty young.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
3 Sep 18
I remember when I was 5 year old, we would be travelling on a plane to another far province, me and my 3 siblings all girls, together with our mother to have a vacation at our grandparents's house. I remember, that they have a hotel on the second floor and a department store on the ground floor.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
10 Sep 18
@TheHorse Not much anymore. ButI remember our picture at the airport, we are just 4 then.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
7 Sep 18
That's excellent detail! Do you remember the airplane rides?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
10 Sep 18
@SIMPLYD Do you remember what you were thinking at the time?
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
Modesty aside my memory is very sharp, I could still remember my 3rd birthday that my dad had it celebrated in the summer capital of our country. We have a Facebook group of our grade school class from kinder to grade 7 and every body in the group asks me names of teachers and past classmates and I can name all of them in almost all the class pictures. I was a chess player in college and tried blindfolded up to the 7th or 8th move. I think I inherited this from my mother, she's 85-86 but could still tell us the names of her playmates during the pre-war and Japanese occupation. She studied bible school at age 70 and even became ordained as lady pastor, so many other feats with her memory but it would be too long to write here.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse looks like it although I had further boosted mine with self help books when self help was a fad.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
It sounds like good memory runs in your family.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@louievill Did they help?
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@mesbakh (2284)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 18
i do still remember my school day. i miss them so much
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@mesbakh (2284)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse if i have got a time machine, i wanna back at school age
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
3 Sep 18
@mesbakh I'd enjoy being a kid again as well.
@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
I liked school days because every day brought something new.
@koopharper (7601)
• Canada
2 Sep 18
I remember being lost at Expo '67 in Montreal at five years old. I followed the wrong pair of pants and discovered that the owner was not my dad. I got taken to this place for lost kids and got to talk to my mom on a picture phone before we got reunited. My dad was astonished at how much I remembered about the other details of that day. Later on, I was even astonished myself twenty plus years later when I realized I remember the interiors of some of the subway stations and the sounds everything made.
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• Canada
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse I'm glad they decided beforehand that I would remember enough of the experience to take me along. My younger brothers got to spend the day with my aunt and uncle.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@koopharper I bet they missed a good time.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Yep, kids remember things differently from adults. And I think that we always remember things that have an emotional charge to them.
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@LadyDuck (472500)
• Switzerland
2 Sep 18
I remember very well something that happened when I was a little more than 2 years old, not many things from that memory and my 4 years when I started to go to kindergarten.
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@LadyDuck (472500)
• Switzerland
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse I only remember that I refused to take a nap after lunch and I did not like to eat my lunch.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@LadyDuck Were the teachers frustrated?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Do you remember much about Kindergarten? I remember being really sad when my preschool teacher got mad at me for saying that "cottage" (perhaps Heidi's house?) sounded like "cottage cheese" (which I loved) during circle/reading time. I meant no harm.
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
2 Sep 18
My memory is photographic from when I was a child.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
What are some of you most salient early memories?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@Courage7 Those sound like good memories. Did the sheep crap mostly at the bottom of the hill?
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@Courage7 (19633)
• United States
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse One of the earliest memories is pulling along my little wooden ducks behind me. I can see them so clearly. I also recall my dear Mother RIP lifting me up to the window to see the birds in the tree near the house. Recall rolling down the hill of green into sheep crap too in Ireland. lol I will always remember my Mothers lilting Irish brogue the best tho. RIP
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@Janet357 (75646)
2 Sep 18
i can still remember when i first stepped in school and when the bell rang for recess, i went home. i thought it was the end of the class.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@Janet357 Did she walk you back to school?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Heh. That's a good one! Were you quickly returned to school?
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@Janet357 (75646)
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse my mother sent me back and I was just 7 years old then lol
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@GardenGerty (162252)
• United States
2 Sep 18
I remember my second grade teacher making fun of me or correcting me when I suddenly realized that I knew s-k-i was ski, not sky. She thought I was making fun of the other kids in reading circle, but I was just joyful to have that aha moment. Did you grow up with reading circles? Our classes, led by one teacher, often had forty-five students in them. She would divide the class by reading ability, give desk work for the day, and pull the "circle" to the front that she wanted to work with. It is a wonder anyone enjoyed school. I remember getting lost at the school after riding the bus to the first day of kindergarten. We had a coloring page that day, a duckling. I colored it purple. I thought I had to finish or bring it back as homework. The "clean plate club"--did you have them? My older sister was nine years older than I. She was a challenged learner, but she loved imparting her knowledge to me. I often knew more than my classmates. I remember a lot about my early school days. Not all of it pleasant.
@GardenGerty (162252)
• United States
3 Sep 18
@TheHorse My daughter, starting at about two years old, would often say "How do you know." Thank heavens I realized she honestly wanted to know how I knew things. She is still one of the very smartest people I know.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Good one! We had smaller reading circles (about 10 kids) and I remember getting in trouble for saying "Whay do you think...?" to my teacher. I didn't realize it was rude. That was in second grade. I have others...
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
3 Sep 18
@GardenGerty I love the question "Why?" even when it's repeated by an early 3-year-old many times. I always give a response.
@May2k8 (18466)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 18
I remember when I was in elementary school, I was lost and did not know the direction of the way to go home and was confused about finding my parents because there was no public telephone.
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@May2k8 (18466)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse I watched the sky, then I watched a few buses and I walked far enough maybe 10km to find my parents house. I see buildings and I remember a few turns, in the end I was able to find them.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@May2k8 10 km is a long way! I would have been scared. How old were you, again?
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Do you remember how you eventually got home?
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@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
2 Sep 18
I have some very vivid memories of certain things that happened when I was very young but there are big holes, too. I remember being 4 years old and watching my Grandfather leave for the dump with one of my favorite toys, a small plastic wheel barrow, loaded with the other stuff for the dump. I never found out why he decided it needed to go to the dump but I remember the pain and betrayal I felt.
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@DWDavis (25805)
• United States
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse He was on his way out the driveway when I spotted the toy in the pile of stuff he was dumping. My mother might have asked him why, but I wasn't allowed to question the decision of an adult.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@DWDavis Sigh. Things sure have changed.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Oh, that's sad. Were you unable to ask him? Working with kids, I know that things that look "old" or "useless" to grown-ups can have tremendous value to the younguns.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
2 Sep 18
I remember a few things from my past, when I was 3 I was playing with the lock on the card door and it opened and I fell out while my dad was driving. I remember him backing up the car to come back and pick me up on the road.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Why do some people have these early memories and others totally forget them? It's a mystery to me.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@cintol I think we remember things that have an emotional charge to them.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse I have no idea, I can remember a few things when I was little
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@andriaperry (118294)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 18
I remember the lamp post, I was told it is where I always went crawling to get up and walk. My mother in the rocker with another baby, my little sister that is 1 year 8 months younger. Jumping up and down in the baby bed with my little sister, yes it broke. Walking the porch railing, it was iron and I was good at it but got spanked for doing it. Going to school. Yes I remember lots. But my little sister remembers more than I do.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
@andriaperry Heh. I've had some babies take their first steps to get to me. It's a real honor.
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
2 Sep 18
Oh, those are good ones! And it's cool that you can remember learning to walk!
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@andriaperry (118294)
• Anniston, Alabama
2 Sep 18
@TheHorse I asked my eldest brother and he told me, I also took my first steps to get to him.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
3 Sep 18
Great. I remember so many things of my childhood too, even some are bitter which I don't want to remember but can't help
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@TheHorse (223387)
• Walnut Creek, California
5 Sep 18
We were discussing "repression" in class last night. Some people "forget" unpleasant memories. But most remember them.
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@ShifaLk (17817)
• India
6 Sep 18
@TheHorse ohhh okay. I do remember.. I wish there was a delete button for the bad memories