Lending money to friends

Italy
September 5, 2018 6:02am CST
Dear Mylots how are you guys? A friend of mine send me a message today and asking if she can borrow a money because she need to send a money for her family she is married but her partner is not supporting her financially (to send a money for her parents) thats what she told me. A year ago she borrow a money because there is an emergency its 100 euro but until now she didn´t pay. She´s been messaging me 2x and asking if she can borrow money because she has delay salary but still i said i dont have money and now she message me again. If i will lend her money again and she will not pay its my lost because i work hard so that i can earn a money. It´s her conscience to pay me but why its very easy to borrow money but its very hard to get the money back?
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11 responses
@vsai2008 (11796)
• India
5 Sep 18
I would remind her of the previous amount to be paid back and leave it for now. We cant repeat the same mistake esp when money matters are concerned.
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@tech40 (23121)
• Philippines
5 Sep 18
If my friend is very close to me, I lend some money but not too big, but if someone that I really don't know or not my close one, I always say "I don't have money right now" Hehe It's so hard to lend money especially we don't know when they're going to pay for it.
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• Italy
5 Sep 18
hi she is close to me but im not happy that she is not doing her part ;(
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@tech40 (23121)
• Philippines
6 Sep 18
@ckciasigurl People said, when they need money they'll beg for it, but if they're going to pay for it, they'll be mad or hiding from you haha
@youless (112570)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Sep 18
It is always a tough question to lend the money or not. If you don't have the money, it is fine that you can't lend it. Even if you have money, you still hesitate to do so because she hasn't returned the money yet. Money never comes easily and I can understand it. If I were you, I may not keep on leading her money because she hasn't paid it back yet. This amount will just grow bigger and it will be harder for her to return it at last.
@skysnap (20153)
5 Sep 18
I prefer not to lend money. I keep distance on financial front. I have had my share of the bad days on lending.
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• Italy
5 Sep 18
i understand you and that´s a good point also
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@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
5 Sep 18
I have loaned money and so far except for one time I've always got it back. If I was you, because you have loaned this friend money in the past without it being repaid, I would just tell this friend you don't have the money to help. Personally I find it rude that the friend has approached you for money a second time when they still owe you for the first loan.
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• Italy
5 Sep 18
hello there yes i just send her a message and i told her that i dont have money and guess what she didn´t reply
• Lagos, Nigeria
7 Sep 18
Since she is yet to pay up the first debt and asking for another one, i think she is using you which is really wrong. She should have beg you and explain the reason she is yet to pay the debt and then ask if you can lend her another with a promise to pay back at so so date.
@velvet53 (22534)
• Palisade, Colorado
7 Sep 18
I wouldn't loan her one penny until she pays you back what she already borrowed the first time. I got taken a few times but loaning money to friends and I won't do it anymore unless I know that they are good for their word.
@cherriefic (10399)
• Philippines
6 Sep 18
Maybe it's better not to let her borrow again since she still owes you.
@redtesha (1773)
• Indonesia
5 Sep 18
Just dont. If she ever borrow money but never turn it back, it will happen again. So no no no from me.
@theend (2777)
• Gifu, Japan
5 Sep 18
Forget about borrowing, and checking out a bigger amount.
@melody22 (291)
7 Sep 18
People nowadays when they lend money or even to your close friends they will not pay you back. Well, not all but some of them forgot to pay you back or like they have amnesia until they not pay you back. Then when you remind them about the money, they say so many excuses until you forget it. But of course in second around I would not lend his/her again because of what he/she did. Cause you work hard to earn that money .