Relationship

Nigeria
October 2, 2018 5:53pm CST
What would you do if you wake up one day and discovered your marriage of 10 yearswas a sham ( you have 3 kids also) * your hubby had 3 children from his first marriage and he is still married to her. I want to hear your opinions and advice.
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Arunima Singh
@arunima25 (87852)
• Bangalore, India
3 Oct 18
That is a devastating news for anyone. I am married for almost two decades now. I am taking a hypothetical situation. If it happens I will be broken. But I would collect myself and move on with my life with my kids. I will not be able to stay with my husband anymore and would seek a divorce.
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Swayamsiddha Dash
@Swayamsiddha (4354)
• New Delhi, India
5 Oct 18
So this is what you will prefer to do if you are in her situation...right choice. We must forget that person as he is capable enough to keep you happy.
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Arunima Singh
@arunima25 (87852)
• Bangalore, India
5 Oct 18
@Swayamsiddha I can't withstand any dishonesty in such a relationship. If trust is shaken, relationship will crumble.
Swayamsiddha Dash
@Swayamsiddha (4354)
• New Delhi, India
5 Oct 18
I'd prefer to chant for that person's peace and happiness who had his first marriage and let him go away from my life.
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Mavic123456
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
3 Oct 18
It's not my fault that my marriage was a sham even if we have 3 kids and 10 years. I will definitely ask him, whom would he want to stay?
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rakhee
@grakhee (70)
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3 Oct 18
When things are going wrong then think and take the right path .this is really a complex situation but every problem has a solution.
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Abigael Jerobon
@a_jerobon (2304)
• Eldoret, Kenya
4 Oct 18
I know that this will hurt me and I will be very devastated. However, I am one very resilient person and I know I will let go and move on. I will not associate with the man anyone but I will allow him every right to be with his children.
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DEBJANI BASAK
@debjani1 (7202)
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4 Oct 18
If possible I will kill that man.
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rsa101
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
5 Oct 18
Well I guess it’s just time to move on with life without your partner. I might pursue fir support though because he has a child that needs his financial support. Being on the side where there’s not much you can do since you’re not the legal wife. You can only demand what’s best for his children.
solxee
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
7 Oct 18
I’d ask myself how did I not know after all this time. I’ll cry, that’s for sure. But I’ll be strong for my three kids.
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@anya12adwi (9983)
• India
10 Oct 18
I will cry like there is no tomorrow.. I will find ways how I can survive individually and will rest the decision on my kids..
Simone
@Janet357 (75646)
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3 Oct 18
Why did you ask this?
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Miss Taken
@miss_taken (155)
• Philippines
3 Oct 18
Well, that would feel like heaven just dropped on you. :( But wait, how can you be married if he’s still married to his first wife? Was this something you already knew?
Miss plumpish
@Missplumpish (13)
• Nigeria
3 Oct 18
Noo...he married u pple at seperate cities..he did the customary court marriage with you but not with his first wife
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Miss Taken
@miss_taken (155)
• Philippines
5 Oct 18
@Missplumpish @Missplumpish Well that sucks. That’s bigamy. I’d feel devastated. But above anything else, I’ll preserve myself and my dignity. I’ll live for my children then. My marriage is void anyway as it was illegal so I will stop everything between us.
Govinda Blankson
@GovindaB (249)
• Accra, Ghana
7 Oct 18
Breach of trust. The laws of the land can best handle that if the legal firm isn't corrupt.