Write a short profile for dating sites, huh?
By Faye
@FayeHazel (40243)
United States
October 5, 2018 12:32pm CST
Alright My Lot, you got me. I will confess to you that a little while ago I was curious enough to try and sign up for an online dating site. I hadn't done it in many years.
Don't get me wrong. I'm happy being single. There are many advantages. But sometimes I miss being special to someone, or the thrill of going on a date. Advantages to being a couple or at least, dating, too.
So, I took the plunge and signed up at a popular site that I had used years back.
Stuff has changed though.
For the content of your profile you are recommended 60 - 75 characters. Characters. Not words. As of this paragraph, this discussion has 505 characters (not counting spaces), this is to give you an example of how brief that really is.
So how am I supposed to get to know someone, or someone get to know me - enough to tell if they want to content me- in only a handful of characters?
*groan*
I blame this on people's declining attention spans.
What think you?
As for my profile? I had it up less than a week. Apparently the trend is now to - instead of writing a longer message - to send short 1 or 2 word messages like "hey? sup?" . After 1 too many of those and some weirdness I decided to pull it down. I may try a different site or re-wording myself. lol.
Photo: Pixabay
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
5 Oct 18
60-75 characters?? Yeah that does seem way too short, especially for a dating site. There really is no way to get to know someone like that, people can edit their profiles and appear one way online while being totally different in person. I guess you just gotta keep trying. There are plenty of dating apps out there, hopefully you find one that works for you 
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@Orson_Kart (6775)
• United Kingdom
5 Oct 18
Bree?
You sound a bit cheesy to me. 
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@isweartokira (3460)
• United States
6 Oct 18
@Orson_Kart ??? I can't tell if you're talking about brie cheese or actually calling me cheesy...don't know whether to laugh or be offended lol
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@Orson_Kart (6775)
• United Kingdom
6 Oct 18
@isweartokira I didn't mean to offend you. It's me that's cheesy. 
I hope you forgive me. Nice to meet you.
I hope you forgive me. Nice to meet you. 2 people like this
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
5 Oct 18
Hope you find the right person who would make you feel special and enjoy a date with. There is always somebody out there we will never know, oh yes the perfect dating site too, good luck
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
8 Oct 18
@FayeHazel least expected you are right there, I did not look for it, it just came, it was like I closed my eyes and when I woke up I was married to the most beaitiful girl
Destiny, maybe, will never know.
Destiny, maybe, will never know.1 person likes this
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
9 Oct 18
@FayeHazel Yes this is true. I met my bf from a hostel.. imagine in a hostel not even a hotel. I didn't expect anything, now here we are. I met his family and he will meet my family in April.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 Oct 18
Thanks! I appreciate that. It is a real struggle to meet someone, especially someone I like talking to. Oh well, when you least expect it, that's what they say
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 18
To be honest, I think keeping it short is good so that when people go on dates they still have some things to talk about.
And if I may say so, avoid those “hey sup” guys. They can’t even make a sentence. It tells you the level of effort they are willing to put in into dating.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 18
@FayeHazel I think they want it to be like your Instagram description. I agree it’s a bit too short.
Research says that majority of girls are on dating sites not to date but to seek validation. But I think, “sup” guys are the one there for validation.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 Oct 18
Hm. That is an interesting point, too. I do tend to be a little wordy, a little lengthy. Nothing wrong with a little mystery here and there. Though I think the 60-75 characters (not words) - is a little brief.
I agree. Someone who puts "hey 'sup" , cannot be bothered to put much effort toward meeting someone
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
9 Oct 18
@flapiz Oh that makes sense. About the Instagram thing.
I think you're right. I wonder how many people on there are on there only for validation or because (some people) believe it is better to have someone, anyone, rather than no one
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@xander6464 (44250)
• Wapello, Iowa
8 Oct 18
"hey? sup?" seems very efficient but I can't see it leading to a date. The weirdness sounds good but if it isn't the kind you want, it's useless, too.
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@xander6464 (44250)
• Wapello, Iowa
9 Oct 18
@FayeHazel Honest! I'm not allowed to see those movies. It's a religious thing. I'm Orthodox Quaker, Mormon and Baptist. I'm not even supposed to have electricity. Don't tell God I'm the using the Internet, OK?
That would have been great if all both of them wanted was a friend with benefits but it hardly ever works out that way.
I'm still looking, too. It's not an easy search. You'd think it'd be easy with all the weirdness in the world but it's not.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
9 Oct 18
So true. Give me some content, something that tells me about who you are and why you picked me to write to.
Weirdness is as weirdness does lol
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
9 Oct 18
@xander6464 lol, I've never met a Quaker, Mormon Baptist before.
Ah yes - that was what my friend suggested - that the scale back the "relationship" into friends with benefits.... he didn't like that idea though.....
I wish you the best. You're right, it's tough....
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
11 Oct 18
Ah I always wondered about that if guys got weird messages from women too
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
17 Oct 18
@porwest True. There are those types out there too. All kinds of angles to be worked. Straight forward communication seems to be the best, but few do that.
Interestingly enough people seem to not attract what they want.
I have some female friends who want a friend with benefits - and the men they attract are searching for a long term relationship
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@porwest (90912)
• United States
23 Oct 18
@FayeHazel There are probably a lot of marriages like that. Not sure why people stay together if they are not happy, but that's just me.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
11 Oct 18
@Janet357 I think so too... In person is best but far and few in between
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@Janet357 (75646)
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11 Oct 18
@FayeHazel yes. But maybe you can find someone in your area. It is dangerous to date a man online. Just a piece of advice.
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@lrglara (1334)
• Philippines
27 Oct 18
I deleted dating websites / app in my phone after a few days, just doesnt work for me. Im not saying it may not work on you. I just think to get to know a person better, you should talk to them... be it chat or call.
This is why i prefer chatsites more. Unfortunately, it’s also full of trolls, bored people and perves. But after you past those, underneath most of them, there’s a decent person. It is still better to be cautious.
Goodluck! :)
@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
29 Oct 18
Hm, I never thought to try chat sites. Actually didn't know there was such a thing. You're right, it's a pity such places can become over run with weirdos, perverts and the like, but there may be some nice people, too
@Orson_Kart (6775)
• United Kingdom
5 Oct 18
60 - 75 characters, huh?
That's a lot! I could name a few Shakespearean and Dickensian, but I'd probably start with Disney and see how far I got.
Mickey Mouse, Donald Duck and Goofy. Ermmm, only 57 more to go.
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@Orson_Kart (6775)
• United Kingdom
8 Oct 18
@FayeHazel It works for me.
Actually, your profile words are a pretty good intro. I haven't counted the number of characters but it must be in the ball park. It could be fun looking for where you've spilled your popcorn.
Actually, your profile words are a pretty good intro. I haven't counted the number of characters but it must be in the ball park. It could be fun looking for where you've spilled your popcorn. 1 person likes this
@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 Oct 18
Lol! Well if you look at it that way.
Snow White, Ariel, Princess Jasmine, ... lol
That's actually a really good line....
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
9 Oct 18
@Orson_Kart Thanks! You have a point, we're not given a lot of room on many sites for those intro words... popcorn bit is just funny )(and true) lol
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@bluesa (15022)
• Johannesburg, South Africa
9 Oct 18
@FayeHazel , I think so. Good luck with it all. :-)
@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 Oct 18
Thanks! Maybe I should just try some different sites :-)
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
11 Oct 18
@DianneN never know might find Mr Right oh Mr alright anyway lol
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 Oct 18
I think you're on to something, different sites may have different types of people on them. That's cool to know it actually does work for some people
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
8 Oct 18
@FayeHazel It might be more difficult, but it's more honest.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
9 Oct 18
@just4him True. Never liked "Dates" for that reason. Seems artificial. Both parties want to make a good impression. Seems best to get together in a group of friends, though.... if a person's friends know no singles,... then it gets tricky
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 Oct 18
Lol, you are so very right about that.... face to face better, but more difficult...
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 Oct 18
That's a good thought. Actually yes. But the loophole is that it's for people who aren't married. There are many couples there - committed relationships/living together - just not technically married, and that seems to be the majority. I have made some wonderful friends though, just not many actually available singles.
There's one about 2 hours drive from me called events and adventures that sounds good... it's actually single people - they do all sorts of outings and trips and you can sign up for the things that interest you. The bad part there is it's expensive to join, and then there are fees and driving on top of that to attend the things you want. But.... if it's a way to meet someone..... :-)
It's good advice though :-)
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@JudyEv (340118)
• Rockingham, Australia
9 Oct 18
@FayeHazel I'm sure it can't be easy.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
9 Oct 18
@JudyEv So true. People tell me my match is out there. I just say - he must be real good at hiding
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
6 Oct 18
I havent been on one since meeting my bf in 2010, but that is very short .hmm. Sorry you only got messages like that. Goodluck with dating 
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
9 Oct 18
@FayeHazel Yeah kinda. it was a mobile app.
I didn't write much in my about me thing for it, neither did he, but we did have a few things we liked and what not written to be conversation starters with people. like you're usually supposed to do.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
9 Oct 18
@Courtlynn Oh that's awesome! I'm happy you found someone nice
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
8 Oct 18
Thanks! I need lots of luck in meeting someone. lol.
How did you meet your boyfriend? On a site?
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