REUNION with friends
By ingrid
@ridingbet (66854)
Philippines
December 29, 2018 3:23am CST
My son asked permission from me this morning to go to a mall to make his online work. He prefers there because my sister is the ever-ordering auntie that he cannot concentrate on what he is doing. I said ‘’yes’’. So it was only the 2 of us who had lunch.
Several minutes ago at 5:10 PM, my son arrived but he did not park the car inside. He asked permission again that tonight he and his schoolmates (his batchmates in the university paper/organ where he was the literary editor) will have a reunion in one of their female batch mate’s house, just less than a kilometer away from our house.
My sister is once again sighing; she asks me questions about why my son will go out tonight. I told her the reasons. Again she sighed:” We will be only 2 again for dinner”.
All I can say is, my son is a 27 year old adult male and he needs to be with people of his age. He should have his own ‘’me time’’ and not always staying at home--- something that my sister resents. I do not know how to explain this to her, because you might not be aware that she has the condescending personality and she ‘’is always right’’!
My son will inform me when he arrives in the place where he is going.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
sometimes i ask too many questions to my son and sometimes he answers in a moderate voice (not shouting) especially if i stress a point and he assures me of his answer.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
i am a single parent, so the advice my sister gives to my son is somewhat an additional concern since i might not be able to tell everything about how i feel for him
and he is my only son, and the only man at home. i understand her.
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@Shavkat (139942)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
@ridingbet In this sense, your sister has the best concern to give advice to him. It is also normal for parents to do this. I understand where you stand about this concern.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
@Shavkat but still she has the attitude kabsat. Hahaha
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
my son always asks permission from me, if it is a sleep-over, all the more he informs me.
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@jobelbojel (35646)
• Philippines
29 Dec 18
I have never heard my aunt sighing. Only because after college, I moved to Pampanga to work and lived with my sister in an apartment. And when she had babies, I moved to Manila and lived alone. And then my brother enrolled in PUP.
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@jobelbojel (35646)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
@ridingbet Yes. But was with her when we were younger. She used to tell stories and sigh on their situations when they were younger.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
well, it is because you did not live with her, right?
my sister sighs most of the time when my son's plans are unscheduled and he leaves after a few minutes of asking permission from me.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
1 Jan 19
@jobelbojel well, we cannot blame your auntie. maybe she was in total recollection of events when she sighs.
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@LadyDuck (471459)
• Switzerland
30 Dec 18
@ridingbet I hope that he has good friends who do not make too much noise so they do not take risks.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
1 Jan 19
@LadyDuck he has good friends and i know them all. now, he has co-teachers as additional circle of friends.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
yes he should inform me. he is my only jewel and i trust him, but i do not trust the people around him.
by people around him, i mean, those people who he bumps into; the unknown people, because crimes can be made when my son and his friends ''make much noise'' when they have their reunions.
(knocking on wood)
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
i agree. the reunion he has with his former batch mates in the university organ in college, is sometimes unscheduled though. they communicate through chat message so suddenly my son would say,''ma, we will meet at ___'s house''.
@aureliah (24316)
• Kenya
30 Dec 18
@ridingbet Its good they learn to plan in advance for everyone's convenience
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
1 Jan 19
@aureliah which should be the case but sometimes he goes unannounced that i have to condition myself to wait for him at night. hahaha
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
29 Dec 18
it's actually admirable he can juggle all that, so he definitely deserves "me" time and social time.
after all, he contributes financially and he also consistently makes sure to inform you of his plans and whereabouts.
he's actually a very good son compared to what other parents and siblings go through.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
i agree with you. he informs me if he cannot come home, and greets me ''goodnight, i love you''. and he should really have a life outside our house and with his friends.
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Dec 18
@ridingbet I'm glad he has ME time. We all need it.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
1 Jan 19
@just4him yes that is true. even my sister has that. hahaha
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
yes, my sister won't understand, but she has 2 daughters and my son is like her son now, so she also calls the attention of my son when he is unmindful.
yes, my son should always have the ME time and not always glued at home.
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@resukill22 (25050)
• Las Pinas City, Philippines
29 Dec 18
Everyone should have a right to go in a reunion.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
hahaha! yes she is, but i totally understand her. she wants my son to be careful, and she might have conditioned herself that my son will have his dinner with us two.
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@KOLAMsegaran1 (4137)
• Bekasi, Indonesia
29 Dec 18
I think everyone must have the right to participate in such a reunion
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
30 Dec 18
i agree. have you attended reunions too?
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
1 Jan 19
@KOLAMsegaran1 maybe you should so you will enjoy meeting up with your friends.
@KOLAMsegaran1 (4137)
• Bekasi, Indonesia
30 Dec 18
@ridingbet Not yet, I have not attended
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