Is it important that you're friends first before you get into a relationship?
By Jan manaloto
@Temptress888 (157)
Davao, Philippines
February 11, 2019 9:19am CST
I think that this depends on the situation. Others would say that you should marry your bestfriend because eventually, love will fade but the friendship wont. Some would say that you should not get into a relationship with your friends because that is when you risk your friendship to "all or nothing".
How about you? What do you think?
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11 responses
@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
11 Feb 19
According to me, friendship is the basis of any relationship
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@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 19
My father tells me that very often... he said.. someday, romantic love fades but the friendship remains
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
16 Feb 19
@playertwo you mean never rush in any relationship
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Feb 19
I agree it depends on the two people. My husband and I where friend we had the same friends in the same circle for years. We never dated because we already enough each other because we had spend time with each other as just friends it was like skipping all of those awkward steps of dating and meeting someone. We just naturally felt nice to be around each other comfortable. Thinks just be going right for us because we have been married almost 10 years and have 3 children together.
@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 19
Wow. Congratulations! Nobody could ever question the words that came from the mouth of those who experience such. 
@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 19
@ShyBear88 still you're blessed
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@jobelbojel (35648)
• Philippines
11 Feb 19
Get to know each other. Be friends to him/her. And eventually, we can marry our bestfriends.
@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 19
I believe in the process. You can become friends while in a relationship. By the way, i have an interesting question... why do most long term relationship fail?
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@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 19
I agree... it really depends... if it's worth the try...
@karibe (686)
• Venezuela
11 Feb 19
It is not easy to respond quickly to a question as delicate as that which you formulate in this discussion. To answer it requires reflection because it presents several edges. I will try to respond as if the answer is urgent: Yes it is important if what is wanted, what is sought, is a serious relationship, a relationship that lasts, formal, that leads to marriage, which would be ideal. On the other hand I think another issue is the courtship that occurs between people who are friends. I explained myself well?
@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 19
Perfectly! I just think that it shouldnt be one-sided (friends case) cause it will really change the status quo.
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@JoMwash (1)
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12 Feb 19
Listen to vibrations that both of you produce. One is a subset of the other
@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
12 Feb 19
In accounting, there's conservatism principle... we should never assume unless otherwise stated. Sometimes, just listening to vibrations gives the other false assumptions. Others doesnt give any malice because they think what they're showing is just normal. Example, my friend told me that his bestfriend confessed to him. When he asked him why, the bestfriend answered 'because you are very caring, esp when im sick'. My friend IS touchy but the bestfriend took it as 'caring'. Haha
@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 19
That's right... each person's point of view differs...
@judithml (405)
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23 Feb 19
Does not matter. Lot of people say it is better if that person is someone you're already friends with. That happens, yes. But it does not always need to be that way.
@Nana49 (3399)
• United States
11 Feb 19
I think it depends on if you are in love with that person and you would want to spend the rest of your life with them.. I would recommend that a person does get to be friends first as they date and get to know that person as in all there sides they have before they get married .. That way you dont get any surprises later when your married and they do show all there sides
Everyone has different sides to them and when dating a short period we don't always see this .. Just make sure you know how they will react when your upset or when there upset .. And see all there habits good and bad and see if you can live. With that.. Its not just about friendship its being around this person every day and night. And them you ..being friends is the bonus.. But remenber if you date a. Close friend that afterwards everything does change .. It may later become awkward if you break up ..
@Temptress888 (157)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Feb 19
Very well said. I think some people might be afraid to date there closest friends because they might be afraid to lose them when things get out of hand.
@yovanayv (7)
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11 Feb 19
I think if you have feelings towards a friend u should just tell them if you are important to them that won't break your friendship.
