Signs From The Dead

By Jabo
@jaboUK (64354)
United Kingdom
March 27, 2019 3:16pm CST
After my husband died but before he was buried, the church where the funeral service was going to be held put on a charity concert. My daughter said "Come on Mum, why don't we go and show our support for the church?" I didn't really feel like going anywhere, but since I'd been pretty much confined to the house while my husband was ill, I agreed. While we were there we bought some raffle tickets. The first prize was won by someone sitting in the pew directly behind us, but we won the second prize. (A meal for two in one of the best restaurants in the area). I'm not one of those people who believe in an afterlife, but my daughter is, so she said it was a sign from her dad and that he was watching over us. I countered this by saying that if that was the case he would have made sure we got first prize, not second! She came back with "He was getting his aim right and just missed us at his first attempt". When we decided on a suit for my husband to be buried in, I went through the pockets just in case there was anything in them. I didn't find anything, but my daughter went through them as well - she found a £5 note. She insists that her dad put it there especially for her. (I'll admit that it was odd that I hadn't found it). Since then she's seeing these 'signs' from her dad everywhere, and as they bring her comfort that's fine by me. However, I'm far too down to earth to give them any credence myself. What do you think? Photo is of my daughter with her dad.
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@rebelann (112770)
• El Paso, Texas
27 Mar 19
I probably would have thought the same as your daughter, I like thinking they are somewhere in the cosmos looking out for us. Your daughter looks exactly like you in the picture you posted of you and your husband when you were young. Beautiful photo
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@rebelann (112770)
• El Paso, Texas
28 Mar 19
And some have reincarnated @jaboUK I think the spirit world is vaster than anything we can imagine.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
@rebelann Ok, you think your way, I'll think mine
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
You really believe that? All the billions and billions of people that have ever been in the world are all 'out there'? Yes, my daughter does resemble me
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
27 Mar 19
I believe they are looking over us from above in so many ways. I've had a lot of "signs" from my mother and father. They give me such comfort. I'm with your daughter on this one!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 19
I thought you might be Dianne
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
27 Mar 19
@jaboUK The stories I could tell!
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@Fleura (30338)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
@DianneN Go on then, we're waiting!
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@allknowing (135930)
• India
28 Mar 19
I am with you on this. Anyway if your daughter has those thoughts you should let her have them.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
Oh yes, she's entitled to her beliefs, I certainly wouldn't mock her for them. I'm pleased that they comfort her, she adored her dad.
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@Juliaacv (51045)
• Canada
28 Mar 19
I buy what she is saying because I've been thru it just after losing my own Dad. Daddies and daughters have such a special and unique bond, there is no other like it in the world. They both look so happy together in the photo.
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@Juliaacv (51045)
• Canada
28 Mar 19
@jaboUK And that's just it. I feel the same "special" way when I have a dream with my Dad in it or have something happen that makes me think that he is thinking of me.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
Yes, they adored each other, and it makes her happy to think he's looking over her.
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• United States
28 Mar 19
I'm with your daughter on this one.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
Most of the commenters so far agree with her too, just like you
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
@Marilynda1225 They are connected in our hearts
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• United States
28 Mar 19
@jaboUK even if it's not true I like to believe our loved ones are still connected to us somehow
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@JudyEv (339433)
• Rockingham, Australia
28 Mar 19
I don't really know what to think about these kinds of things but certainly if it gives your daughter comfort, that's a great thing.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
That's so true Judy - her belief is helping her get through her grief. She and I just have different ways of dealing with it.
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@snowy22315 (180361)
• United States
28 Mar 19
I do think I have a guardian angel, as I have been in quite a few scrapes that might have had disasterous consequences. My deceased grandfather's were super people..and I like to think the angel I have on my shoulder is one or both of them.
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@snowy22315 (180361)
• United States
28 Mar 19
@jaboUK Everybody has to go sometime. No one is immortal. Both of them were in their 90's when they passed.
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
27 Mar 19
I do not want to be in the after life.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 19
Well nor me Alfredo - not yet! But as I say, I don't believe there is one.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50179)
• United States
28 Mar 19
Your daughter favors you. My dad sees my mother and it gives him comfort.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
29 Mar 19
@Tampa_girl7 Exactly.
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
That's it - if anyone can get comfort from this sort of thing, that is fine.
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@Tampa_girl7 (50179)
• United States
29 Mar 19
@jaboUK I totally agree. Any way that he can get comfort is great. Who's to say that he doesn't really see her.
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@Poppylicious (11133)
28 Mar 19
I'm more inclined to believe as you do, but if it comforts and supports your daughter in her grief then it can only be a good thing. What does your son think?!
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
My son thinks exactly the same as me - he's very like me in character, my daughter is only like me physically. My son adored his dad too but he's had no 'signs'.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
28 Mar 19
Well I am a believer, I have had many signs from my son since he passed and his brother before him. Some people don't believe but I do. I am glad she is finding signs from her dad, it is comforting when it happens.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
I'm glad that you have been able to get some comfort too Cindy. My comfort comes from holding him in my heart, though of course I know that you do that too.
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@cintol (11261)
• United States
29 Mar 19
@jaboUK I will always hold them in my heart, what made me a believer was when my first son passed. Derek and Jered were identical twins, Jered passed at 8 wks from SIDS. When Derek had children, his son at around 1 1/2 was sitting with me one day and he was looking off and put his arms up for someone to pick him up, he called out daddy. Ashton and I were the only ones home. When his daughter was born, she was playing peek a boo with someone around the corner, I asked who she was playing with and she said daddy. She and I were the only ones home, I knew it was Jered and that he had to look just like Derek for them to say that. Now that Derek has passed at 31, I know they are still both with me as they give me signs all the time.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
29 Mar 19
@cintol That's lovely for you to have those beliefs Cindy, I'm happy for you.
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@nela13 (58592)
• Portugal
27 Mar 19
I believe they help us sometimes, so I am with your daughter
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 19
On this site I think there are probably more people who agree with you and my daughter, than not.
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@nela13 (58592)
• Portugal
29 Mar 19
@jaboUK yes, it looks like but all are welcome
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@responsiveme (22926)
• India
28 Mar 19
I agree with your daughter. They look so happy together...Very stylish. I too believe Baba,as I called my father is watching over me.it makes bearing the loss easier
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
I know you are in the same situation as my daughter Arundhati, interesting that you feel the same as she does. I'm glad that it's helping you to deal with the loss.
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• India
29 Mar 19
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
27 Mar 19
I think my comment has disappeared from earlier today! I will try again. I believe in things like this. They get me through the pain and loss of my loved ones. Great photo and memory.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
If that belief helps you then I'm happy for you Carol. (Sometimes losing a comment means we've omitted to press 'comment' when we've finished).
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• United States
7 Sep 19
I have had signs that happen when I least expect them. They come in a thought, a song, a spoken word. They always bring a happy tear and a smile.
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• United States
7 Sep 19
@jaboUK some people see a cardinal or butterfly as a sign. I see them as nature in its lovely glory.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
7 Sep 19
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
7 Sep 19
That's nice that you enjoy getting those signs. My husband often pops into my thoughts but I regard that as only natural and not as a communication from him.
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@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 19
I must say I am with you in your thoughts too but I think it is a comfort for your daughter and it is helping her come to terms with such a great loss. I guess we are just older and wiser. Mind you I laughed at the aim sentence. Brilliant! Glad you were able to get out. It is so difficult to be around people when you want to be on your own with your thoughts. It probably did you good though Janet.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 19
Glad you think on the same lines as me Gary. Yes, it did do me good to get out, made me realise that I shouldn't sit around moping.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 19
@garymarsh6 I agree with all you say Gary.
@garymarsh6 (23404)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 19
@jaboUK True Janet as it is not going to bring him back but you can have your special moments together with your thoughts. You have to force yourself to see other people. I guess we are just more worldly and grounded than your daughter is but it would be cruel to take those thoughts away from her!
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Mar 19
You have a lovely daughter. I believe in the afterlife, as in heaven and that I will go there one day. However, I don't believe in signs from those passed on. I'm glad your daughter does. I'm sure it gives her comfort with her father passed on.
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Mar 19
@jaboUK She has to be. She has a mother who is beautiful inside and out.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 19
@just4him What a sweet thing to say, thank you
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@just4him (317040)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Apr 19
@jaboUK You're welcome.
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
28 Mar 19
Yes I believe in ghosts and the afterlife.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
28 Mar 19
We can't all be the same, otherwise life would be boring
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
16 Apr 19
I would love to be a ghost and leave signs but I would NOT want any ghostly signs from anyone.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
16 Apr 19
Aha - you want the best of both worlds
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
19 Apr 19
@Daljinder I'd probably be scared too. but that won't happen as they don't exist
@Daljinder (23236)
• Bangalore, India
19 Apr 19
@jaboUK Apparently! I am scared of ghosts.
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@NJChicaa (119514)
• United States
27 Mar 19
I would have a hard time believing that they were signs but it is good that it gives your daughter comfort.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 19
Exactly. Obviously we both miss her dad terribly, but I just keep him in my heart. She thinks he's still out there somewhere.
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