Does love hurt?
By Hope
@1hopefulman (45120)
Canada
March 29, 2019 9:46am CST
After reading a discussion on love on myLot, the song "Love Hurts" came into my head.
It raises the questions: Does love really hurt? Can love really hurt or does it only hurt because that kind of love was never the right kind of love?
I'm going to take the side that real, deep and genuine love can only hurt temporarily but ultimately it will heal us and make us a better person.
So, real, deep and genuine love can't really hurt us and in time, in the long run, real love is healing and it will leave no pain, no hurt and no scars!
What do you think?
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@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
29 Mar 19
No. No love should hurt. If someone tells you they love you but hurts you with lies, beatings or abuse, that is not love. That is a bad relationship and no one, I mean no one should have to live like that, even if they "think" its love.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
30 Mar 19
I gre with you, that is not love and we actually feel better and are better off when such people are out of our lives.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
4 Apr 19
@db20747 Yes, love is a many splendored and wonderful thing! It is better to have loved and lost than to never to have loved at all!
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
3 Apr 19
@1hopefulman Dessert? Oh WoW!!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
30 Mar 19
That's what I was thinking too! If a love hurts then it was not love and there is no need to let them hurt us. We are better off without them.
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@LadyDuck (471337)
• Switzerland
30 Mar 19
@1hopefulman If you love and you are loved there is no place to pain, there is something wrong if one of the two feels hurt.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
30 Mar 19
I think that one can hurt the ones they love by not loving and not by loving.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Apr 19
Manuela, I'm so glad that you have such a wonderful loving husband. That is what love is. Love does what is good for other people and does not do hurtful things. 
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@nela13 (58665)
• Portugal
1 Apr 19
@1hopefulman of course sometimes we have our issues like any other couple but we could never do something that may hurt the other. We are together for life and we must love and respect each other.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
30 Mar 19
Exactly! It is not love that hurts but when one doesn't love which causes the hurt.
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@arthurchappell (44998)
• Preston, England
30 Mar 19
love hurts especially when you doubt your ability to love enough or love goes wrong and a relationship ends
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
30 Mar 19
That may be so! I have always appreciated the old saying that it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all. So, even the relationships that hurt when they ended fill me with pleasant memories that can never be taken away from me.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Apr 19
Can you share a scenario where love hurts?
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Apr 19
I get that but it is what they said that hurts us and not love. I'm looking at things from a different perspective.
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@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
6 Apr 19
@1hopefulman people can say a lot of hurtful things out of anger.
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@wolfgirl569 (105945)
• Marion, Ohio
29 Mar 19
The only time love should hurt is when one that is loved passes.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Apr 19
That is exactly the point that I'm trying to make. When someone hurts another person, it is not because they love the person that they hurt them.
I was married twice and I can tell you that neither marriage broke up because they loved me so much.
Neither said to me,"Honey, I love you so much and so I slept with another man because I love you more than I can say." 
Yes, I can laugh about it!
Yes, I can laugh about it! 1 person likes this
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
7 Apr 19
@DianneN Thanks! It was not a walk in the park!
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
6 Apr 19
@1hopefulman I’m glad you can laugh about it now. I’m so sorry. It must have hurt like hell back then - both times. 
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@skydream (1445)
• Agate, Colorado
29 Mar 19
No i dont think it does. I used to but when I actually think about it no. Love doesn't hurt it heals and makes you feel safe things that come along with relationships hurt like trust issues, disagreements, break ups etc but its the side things that hurt its not the love that hurts
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
30 Mar 19
I share some of your thoughts! When love develops trust issues, when there are unpleasant disagreements and when there are breakups, that is no longer love. Love is like a warm coat on a cold day. Love is like the pleasant sun on one's face. Love heals the pain and not causes the pain.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
31 Mar 19
I think that sincere love is healing and not painful.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
1 Apr 19
@Nevena83 
I don't understand! Explain how true and sincere love can hurt?
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
31 Mar 19
@1hopefulman I agree with you, but she can hurt.
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@mynameiskate (2574)
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4 Apr 19
I used to listen to Roy Orbison, listening now. What I get from the song is in the first few lines "..any heart not tough or strong enough.." says to me if we love someone we will endure any pain from life connected with that person because we do love them. "It holds a lot of rain.." and so does life. And "..love is like a stove; burns you when it is hot..". Some say they love someone but not strong and break up at the first obstacle. The love here being described will endure regardless of what comes next?
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
5 Apr 19
I don't agree with the song. Love doesn't hurt, it is a blessing no matter what the other person does. However, if someone hurts us then that is not love.
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@mynameiskate (2574)
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5 Apr 19
@1hopefulman You don't need to agree. It is only one persons experience with love, the writer expresses what he feels and like all artistic works open to our own interpretation. Someone else might listen to the song and get a different meaning.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
7 Apr 19
So true, love is healing and it is hatred that hurts us and that's why Jesus commanded us to love our neighbour and even our enemies.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Apr 19
I understand that point of view. I'm looking at love from a different perspective.
In each situation that you describe, I don't view that it is "Love" that hurts but something else is causing the pain.
"Not only if they don't return your love" I see that it is that they don't return the love that hurts and not love itself.
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
3 Apr 19
This is love we crave!! But it can only last a while!! Sometimes a long while and sometimes a short while!! But one thing is certain, never let it drive you crazy and when it fades don't go crazy!!! It will sprout again like flowers in the spring!!
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
4 Apr 19
Some flowers only last a season and they have to be planted again but they give a lot of seeds so that you never run out.
She drives me crazy and I can't help myself!
Fine Young Cannibals - She Drives Me Crazy (Official Video), 1989 From the album The Raw and the Cooked. http://smarturl.it/therawandthecooked --- Lyrics : I...
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
31 Mar 19
It is a good question. I can't think of any humans who love each other who haven't at least occasionally hurt each other. Though God's love is perfect. But even God gave us his son on the cross.
As a bit of trivia - Roy Orbison did a cover of "Love Hurts" too. I guess the song was originally by the Everly Brothers
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Apr 19
Yes, I think that The Everly Brothers were the first to record that song.
Yes, but when two people who love each other say or do something that hurts, is it love that hurts or what they said or did that hurts?
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Jump to navigation Jump to search This article is about the song written by Boudleaux Bryant. For other uses, see Love Hurts (disambiguation). "Love Hurts"Song by The Everly Brothersfrom the album A Date with The Everl
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
11 Apr 19
@FayeHazel Yes, hurtful speech or actions hurt. I have no doubt about that.
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
11 Apr 19
@1hopefulman Good question. Even if they weren't in love - the hurtful thing would probably still be painful. But I think there is extra pain when the subject is in love with the person saying or doing the thign
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@dgobucks226 (35574)
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6 Apr 19
Love is a choice. It's a very positive thing to be in love. Being able to find someone who attracts you not in just a physical sense but in a personal one as well. You don't feel any physical pain when your in love or lose love. You just feel empty like you lost something valuable to you. No scars are left on the outside but they can remain on the inside the same as when you are unloved. Those scars can heal in time or not depending on the individual.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
6 Apr 19
I hear you! I have lost a few loves but when I think about it, they all left me with something precious even if it was a good lesson.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
3 Apr 19
@CarolDM Isn't it the fact that they didn't love us back that hurt?
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Apr 19
@1hopefulman What else could it be? The feeling we have in our hearts for another person. Our hearts get broken, and that is painful. All because we love someone.
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