Would you reveal a secret that happened before your marriage?
By duvaldiamond
@duvaldiamond (56)
United States
9 responses
@megs85 (3142)
• Australia
29 Nov 06
I think its extrememly important to be completely honest with the people we love. Their can be no relationship that will last built on dishonesty and deceit. I believe that you should be honest before you commit to marriage. A marriage needs to be based on love, respect, trust and honesty. Not lies.
Great topic bu the way, giving me hope taht there are some decent discussions out there worth responding to :D
@duvaldiamond (56)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Thank you so very much. I honestly respect your comment and thank you most dearly for that. I am 25 y/o, married, mother of four and everyone thinks that my life is just DOOMED. :)
@duvaldiamond (56)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Thank you so very much. I honestly respect your comment and thank you most dearly for that. I am 25 y/o, married, mother of four and everyone thinks that my life is just DOOMED.:)
@duvaldiamond (56)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Thank you so very much. I honestly respect your comment and thank you most dearly for that. I am 25 y/o, married, mother of four and everyone thinks that my life is just DOOMED.:)
@nobodyspecial (1011)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Depends on what it is...you can't change yesterday, but yesterday can affect tomorrow...
Someone who may be susceptble to HIV virus should disclose this information, someone who has a criminal record or addiction should disclose.
As to whether you had 1 or 100 boyfriends or girlfriends shouldn't matter, you had a life before you marry and a life after, the two aren't interchangable nor are they neccesarily connected.
Sometimes the skeletons should stay in the closet.
@duvaldiamond (56)
• United States
29 Nov 06
perfect answer. you hit the nail on the head. i was totally asking, like if you cheated while you were dating the person and now you're married. Should you tell them you cheated on them while you were just dating?
@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
29 Nov 06
Nobodyspecials answer is right on. Yeah, I believe in being honest, but you have to take into account, what's it going to accomplish? All it's going to do is make you feel less guilty(assuming you do lol) while making your spouse feel like crap, and he will probably not trust you(which will cause even more problems) and may end up leaving you over it. Why make him feel like that? It's not fair to him, and it's just not worth it in my opinion. Some things are best left unsaid.
@kristypants (305)
• Canada
29 Nov 06
I think that in a best case scenario you should tell them before you're married. If that's not the case though, I don't know what I would do. You don't want to build your marriage on lies or have some terrible secret eating away at you. I would wait for the right time and then tell him.
@srinathakarapu (3093)
• India
29 Nov 06
yes i would be honest to my life partner...well i think tat a sucessfull relation does not have secrets between the couples
@protectiva (687)
• United States
29 Nov 06
It's generally good to be honest, especially if someone asks you a question straight-up and they want to know the answer. If nobody asks, there is no need to tell, i guess, if you weren't faithful before you were married. If you plan on being faithful to your marriage partner, I don't think there's a need to rock the boat. Unless of course, you made children with somebody else before the marriage, I would not keep a child a secret.
