Are they using you for money?

July 5, 2019 2:44pm CST
Hey everyone.. I have a question for you all.. How do you know if someone is using you for money? It could be your best friend, a cousin, or girlfriend/boyfriend.. Some people don't think about this.. but it's very important to know..! what if they are just pretending to be broke so that you'd pay for stuff.. and they never talk about paying you back..! It might look great on television.. friends having each other's back in this type of situation like Joey and chandler.. but I don't think it really applies in real life..
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• United States
5 Jul 19
If you are the one always paying. You know they have expensive items or use designer products yet they claim not to have $.
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• United States
5 Jul 19
@Sedakabloom Once in awhile if you pay for stuff, then they pay for stuff (mutual back and forth is fine). Or offer to spilt bill that's good too. Going forward I would recommend hey, lets just spilt the check or something and see they reaction. But also who is inviting to go out. Are you? If so they think you are inviting them + will pay. They can use one, if they always ask hey lets go out but they don't cover any costs.
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5 Jul 19
Yep I think I'm the one who's always paying for stuff.. and they just never talk about splitting the costs..
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5 Jul 19
@infatuatedbby i gotta be very careful now..! Because I think it happens all the time that they make plans and they just say like.. oo I don't have money.. so they expect from me to bear the costs.. it makes me so mad..!
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
5 Jul 19
My best friend was like that!! One way to find out!! Tell them u dont have any money either!! If they still hang out, they're your real friend!!
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5 Jul 19
Wow.. it hurts when your best friend do that to u.. and you're right.. it will show their true Colors .!
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@kareng (61855)
• United States
6 Jul 19
My brother has been doing this to my mom for years. His girlfriend is also a moocher. I'm trying once again to put a stop to all this. She is sick and needs her money for her care.
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7 Jul 19
That's really bad. I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this situation.. Maybe you should talk to him.. make him realize how much your mother needs money right now.. and he should be a good son and take care of her.. not give her stress at this time..
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@amadeo (111938)
• United States
5 Jul 19
I have no problem.They are all gone.No on is using me but me
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5 Jul 19
Gone? Where?
6 Jul 19
@amadeo oh I'm so sorry.. I didn't knew..
@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
6 Jul 19
It did happen to me one or two occasions but I stopped him by doing to him the same.
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@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
5 Jul 19
I tend to agree, I don't mind helping someone out, if I can. But when the same person comes back a couple of times I will look real close. If I suspect they are using me, I will cut ties with them.
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5 Jul 19
It took me a lot of time to figure out that my friend was using me for money. I never minded anything.. for paying.. or driving them somewhere.. never asked for anything in return.. but then I realized how much I've spent on just one friend.. and she never tried to pay me back ever.. or even talk about it.
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@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
5 Jul 19
@Sedakabloom I've been there. I have asked for the money back, they usually show their true colors then. Making excuses and then they quit coming around.
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5 Jul 19
@cperry2 god.. that is so not fair.. ! I don't think if I can ever ask for it back..
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@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
5 Jul 19
There are people who can only remember you in times of difficulties; those who beg and follow you around just to get what they want. They go to you in every financial crisis but pretend not to know you when they need nothing. They are bloodsuckers. However, not everyone is like them. There are still genuine people who are more than willing to reach out.
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@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
7 Jul 19
@Sedakabloom Yeah, right. They make our lives more interesting. Lol
7 Jul 19
Yeah.. everyone in their life always have these type of people.. after sharing it here.. I got to know.. that almost everyone has a moocher in their life..
@LeaPea2417 (37381)
• Toccoa, Georgia
5 Jul 19
One way I know is if they call out of the blue , I know they are wanting something.
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5 Jul 19
Haha.. that's so accurate..!
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@andriaperry (117146)
• Anniston, Alabama
5 Jul 19
Stop paying, a real friend will stay by your side.
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