Lonely House

@flapiz (23148)
United Kingdom
July 23, 2019 7:31am CST
The thing about a big house is you can feel twice as lonely as a small one. Today my dad left for a seminar and my grandparents decided to go to their old house to tend to some matters. My brother is deployed and travelling around Japan while my sister is in Manila. So there are just 4 people in the house. My mum, me, our house help and our working student. It wasn’t so lonely around dinner as we were all in one table. But now that the 2 workers have retreated to their rooms my mum and I can feel the lonely vibe. I like the peace and quiet but I feel like it’s too quiet.
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@mrki444 (15149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
23 Jul 19
In small apartment people also can be lonely.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
That is true but seeing so much space where people used to sit and laugh is a bit disheartening. Unlike in a small apartment where you are used to not having so many people fit in where you kind of expect it. Also a small apartment tends to bring people together in one area as there’s not much space so more human interactions in that sense.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
@mrki444 Well that is true I guess I’m just not used to seeing the house so empty and quiet at this time of day. I feel isolated. When I feel like this in Australia I go out and hang out with friends but here I can’t because we live in the mountains.
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@mrki444 (15149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
23 Jul 19
@flapiz Were small or bigger place, whenever people go, it looks very lonely.
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23 Jul 19
You still have us! your mylot family!
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
Yes that’s true I am passing the loneliness with mylot but then if I am so much on my phone my mum would be the loneliest.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 19
@kepweng Why so? Are you an orphan?
@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
23 Jul 19
With your big house, I guess there are other unseen residents hehehe!
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
Haha don’t even go there It’s a new house. We didn’t occupy someone else’s house we built it haha.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 19
@sunrisefan Hahaha I hope they are termites you are referring not white ladies
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
24 Jul 19
@flapiz Still they come with the lumber hehehe!
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jul 19
Before when I was a kid, I wanted to have a big house so that my Brothers and their Families can still live with us. But too bad we only have a medium house with two rooms, my parents room was given to my 2nd Brother for his family to live. They just live beside us. And we live where most of out neighbors are our relatives. So never a dull moments here around.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
It is a nice setup you have. It’s nice living with family but it can get chaotic and dramatic at times too. Living close to family is the best solution. You still get privacy and recluse but you can visit them anytime.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 19
@JustBhem But that’s how we Filipinos are. There was a documentary blaming our close family ties for our lack of financial stability. Because we tend to shoulder everyone’s burden. So we can’t invest for ourselves. Some even were unable to marry because too busy providing for the family even to the last niece and nephew.
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@JustBhem (70555)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jul 19
@flapiz That’s the disadvantages of the setup. Sometimes my 2nd Brother used to have his kids stay here to eat and knowing us, we sometimes have issues with food. Chaotic really.
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@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
24 Jul 19
I wish your boyfriend would stop playing video games and pay more attention to you especially when times get lonely...
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 19
Last night we did call but only for a while because he was having a movie marathon. I sure am glad he made time for me before he did so.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
25 Jul 19
@Bullshark It’s the time of week when he goes to Valence to watch everything in the cinema. I’d rather he does this than be always indoors playing video games.
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@Bullshark (3477)
• Netherlands
25 Jul 19
@flapiz If I were him, I would skip the movie marathon and have a chat marathon with you instead...
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@raveeen (3457)
23 Jul 19
Remember that you can always talk to us :)
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
Yep I’m mylotting the loneliness away. Also I’m torturing myself with Emi Wong’s arm workouts. When it’s too much I pause and mylot again.
@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
@raveeen This is a good site. With benefits too.
@raveeen (3457)
23 Jul 19
@flapiz I felt so lonely too before but when I found out this site it really removes all my negative thinking when it comes to being bored/alone :)
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@kareng (59161)
• United States
23 Jul 19
I hope your household gets back to normal soon.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
I hope so too. My mum gets too clingy like this a d is asking me to sleep already when it’s still too early for me.
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@kareng (59161)
• United States
25 Jul 19
@flapiz A lot of people go to bed early here in the country. I can't sleep when it is still daylight outside. No way. That's just too early.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
25 Jul 19
@kareng Which part are you from? And how early is early? Me too I can’t sleep when there’s light, much more daylight.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
23 Jul 19
I enjoy the peace and quiet living in a large house. I do hope your household gets back to normal for you very soon.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
Well my dad and the granparents are coming back on Saturday. I better enjoy my me time instead of complaining. Whenthey get back, I’ll be complaining. of how chaotic it’d get I am so fickle.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
23 Jul 19
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
2 Aug 19
it means you have a value of family and as we daily do dinner together and even one person missing still we feel their absence. lots of people live in your home and its great to see that taking dinner together. yes, we need space for relaxation but not much space.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
2 Aug 19
Yes we are the same we strive to eat our meals together. Specially during dinner time. It is a perfect time to reconnect and catch up.
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@birjudanak (14320)
• India
3 Aug 19
@flapiz it's really nice to take one of meal or dinner take together because that we can know each other well and daily update and it will increase our inner power for family more.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
3 Aug 19
@birjudanak Yep more cooperation and more understanding towards each other
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@JudyEv (339967)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 Jul 19
Maybe you need another working student to create a bit more noise.
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
That would be much heavy on the budget I suppose. I could just imagine how it will be more lonely when I leave for the UK.
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@db20747 (43440)
• Washington, District Of Columbia
23 Jul 19
Yeah there is a such thing as too quiet!!
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 19
I generally like being left alone but I don’t like the feeling of being alone in such a big space. The space puts emphasis on my aloneness.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
23 Jul 19
Being alone can either be solitude or loneliness. Pick one (wink)
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
23 Jul 19
@flapiz Ha ha yes. Just need a little getting used to.
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@rdcaruci (66)
24 Jul 19
Don't mention what you should hear after midnight
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@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 19
What should I hear after midnight?
@flapiz (23148)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 19
@rdcaruci You mean supernatural things?
24 Jul 19
@flapiz I work at home during the night and at that time many things are heard, but I have become accustomed.
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