I have some shocking news for you. :(
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
Perth, Australia
August 1, 2019 8:58am CST
This just may be the hardest post I've ever done on MyLot as I am about to shock quite a lot of people. This post doesn't apply to everyone. Only some.
*inhales deeply* This is a tough one. And again this only applies to some....and to those I am about to address...I am so sorry but....
....the world doesn't revolve around you. I know, I know I am so sorry. Please sit down so you don't collapse and hit your head.
I know we all have problems in our lives. A lot of things scare us, depress us, make us sad, annoyed, stressed....I know this is just too much to take in as I'm sure you thought you were the only one people should feel sorry for.
But turns out, some people, no matter what they are going through, still take the time to ask others how they are doing. Some like to randomly send a message to other people to ask about their life instead of only talking about their own. Some like to do favours for others without any expectations. Some, though struggling to get their own lives figured out will take time out to help others around them.
Now that you are aware that there are other people around you, please find attached some words / actions for you to research and practice.
*Common courtesy
*Common decency
*Care for others
*Sympathy & Empathy
I think that will do for now. Best of luck my young grasshoppers.
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Aug 19
Thank God most here do have and practice these things. If we all treated others as we want to be treated this world would be a very different place!
Speaking of those things, how's your dad doing? And how are YOU doing?
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 I'm glad he's doing well.
I will be praying for her and for your family. I know y'all have had so much lately. 
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Aug 19
@LovingMyBabies Thank you very much.
@im2brch That is very interesting! Thank you so much for that. It never hurts to learn these type of things. 
@im2brch That is very interesting! Thank you so much for that. It never hurts to learn these type of things. 1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@LovingMyBabies I agree. The majority of people here are just so brilliant and wonderful! And I agree with you even further in regards to how this world could be a better place.
He is doing good thank you kindly. Though, we are still wondering when his next surgery is. My Nan also had a full hysterectomy the other day and a growth was found so we are worried about that now too.
And me....I am just exhausted and stressed. Thank you very much for asking.
What about yourself?
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@FourWalls (67399)
• United States
1 Aug 19
I think most people have that. I’ve received responses and PMs asking if I was okay after Kentucky’s had natural disasters, and I’ve certainly sent PMs to people asking if they were okay.
But I have seen some “it’s all about ME ME ME” things here in the past couple of days, and it’s shocked me....and saddened me.
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@FourWalls (67399)
• United States
1 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 — that’s the same comments I’m referring to, and if that “situation” will affect their receipt of what’s in the upper right hand corner....
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@FourWalls I agree. I know no one is perfect. I don't even know what "perfect" is anyway but some things that people do or don't do, as much as I try to understand why they are the way they are, it can still bother me. Especially when they are showing clear signs of selfishness.
That was really sweet to receive concerning messages. I'm sorry I wasn't one of them as I didn't know anything about it. 
I'm wondering if you are speaking about the same comments I am venting about in this post. After a certain sad situation that has just taken place and was announced here on MyLot, there were some people who seemed more concerned about themselves.
I'm wondering if you are speaking about the same comments I am venting about in this post. After a certain sad situation that has just taken place and was announced here on MyLot, there were some people who seemed more concerned about themselves.4 people like this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Aug 19
@FourWalls I thought you may have been referring to that. And well said! It's just shocking with what some people say sometimes.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
1 Aug 19
I am not sure what inspired you to write this, but I have noticed that some people are helpful, caring and empathic despite their own problems, and some people are only able to see their own pain.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
2 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Yes, some people are amazing. They go through a lot, but they still manage to help and support others. It is so nice to see that some people manage to do that.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@Porcospino How right you are! Yes there are many amazing people who are able to see and feel for others around them but there are others who can't fathom that others are in pain while only focusing on themselves.
Nothing wrong with focusing on ourselves but when it's done in a selfish way, that bothers me.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Aug 19
@Porcospino I agree! It's always sweet to see people helping each other in general. But of course it shows more selflessness when people who are already struggling want to help others.
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
1 Aug 19
See trouble there Dani requesting sympathy and empathy from someone who feels no guilt and has no conscience does not work. I remember when I had to learn this difficult truth many years ago that there are actually people that feel no guilt that exist. Sad but true. They will never change for it is inbred into them. Evil lives.
Thanks for your conscience and love of humans tho Dani you are a fine woman. Bless xo
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@TiarasOceanView That is so very true! I have known people like that who just couldn't have sympathy or empathy. They were mostly selfish people whereas someone else I knew ( ex ) was probably just a straight up sociopath. All very well said and yep, evil does live for sure.
Thank you SO very much! Made me feel good. As are you!
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
1 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Thanks Dani you worried me for a minute with the shocking news glad it was not anything of your family xo
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@TiarasOceanView Oh no! 
I am so sorry that I worried you. I sometimes use sarcasm when I am annoyed so that's why I picked this title.
I am so sorry that I worried you. I sometimes use sarcasm when I am annoyed so that's why I picked this title.2 people like this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Aug 19
@LadyDuck Very true on everything you said. I am glad there are nice people on here too. It's what makes it feel more comfortable on MyLot.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Aug 19
@LadyDuck You are definitely one of them! 
You're always so friendly.
You're always so friendly.1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@amadeo That is very true. A lot of people just can't see that they lack some qualities. Some people are lucky enough to see and change but not all like you said.
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@GardenGerty (160491)
• United States
1 Aug 19
Part of the charm of myLot is the genuine friendships, that do include all these common little niceties. I know that the digital age is disruptive to some of those things.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@GardenGerty So true! Well said.
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@kareng (59050)
• United States
1 Aug 19
Kudos on speaking out. It is really a bit juvenile as to the actions of some. You just have to ignore it/them sometimes and go on with your life. We shouldn't dwell on the negative, but be happy and build others up, as well. If some don't live that way, we can't force them to. But we can all set an example. Take care and big hugs.
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
1 Aug 19
We are all self absorbed and selfish to some degree. Just human nature but we are now living in an extreme narcissistic look at me world.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@Sojourn That is VERY well said! Thank you for a great answer. I agree with you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@Ladanger That is very true! No one is perfect but I'm seeing more and more selfish and ignorant people around these days.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@Janet357 Those are some nice qualities to have for sure.
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@Michellekidwell (29370)
• Sonora, California
1 Aug 19
Common courtesy is so important!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@Michellekidwell I completely agree with you!
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@tammys85 (30050)
• Baltimore, Maryland
8 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Very true, unfortunately. And you're welcome!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Aug 19
@tammys85 Yeah these types of people are around and are spread out everywhere we go. And thank you so much. That is very kind of you to say! Appreciate it.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Aug 19
Very wise reminder how to treat others.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 better out then in
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@ShyBear88 Thank you. I had to let that out!
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Oops, meant I could not have said it better.@simone10 (54187)
• Louisville, Kentucky
2 Aug 19
@hardtimes1958 @VivaLaDani13 oops, could not have said it better!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@hardtimes1958 I think she meant that too. All good.
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@Loverabbit (3401)
• Karachi, Pakistan
1 Aug 19
Common courtesy.......Danny you're right but I don't agree
Common decency.......Hi Danny we need to pin someone would you do that for me cause I have to look good
Care for others...........Hey fellows Danny is a super helping person if you need help come to her not me
Sympathy and empathy......hey Danny your shoes are nice I should wear them to feel you
P.s: If nothing makes me courteous enough still I offer you all lunch at Danny's place
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Aug 19
@Loverabbit
Common courtesy - Don't agree with what sorry?
Common decency - What does it mean to pin someone? 
Care for others - lol well thank you?
Sympathy and empathy - I don't really want people to feel me lol
lol thank you for your funny answer!
Care for others - lol well thank you?
Sympathy and empathy - I don't really want people to feel me lol
lol thank you for your funny answer!1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@Loverabbit oh I see lol ok well I am not going to tease or disturb anyone. I'm not a b*tch. 
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@Loverabbit (3401)
• Karachi, Pakistan
6 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13
I don't know Danny I don't even know what you're right at I just am courteous 
To pin someone is to snap them or to tease them or to disturb them
Oh! but but but Danny I should empathize 
To pin someone is to snap them or to tease them or to disturb them
Oh! but but but Danny I should empathize 1 person likes this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
1 Aug 19
@CarolDM Oh I agree with you there. I believe some people can alter themselves if they really wish to while others pretty much stay the same forever. And thank you so much. I appreciate it. Really had to get this off my chest and of course, through sarcasm.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
1 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 We all have to vent sometimes. I understand.
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@profree2019 (1218)
• Barquisimeto, Venezuela
1 Aug 19
When I started reading, I told myself, damn what this girl wrote? because it seemed like you would say something horrible, but it wasn't like that. I finished reading and I think you only advise other people to understand that they are not the center of the universe. And that is not bad at all. I agree with you.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
5 Aug 19
@profree2019 Thank you so very much for reading, understanding me and answering. I appreciate it.
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@profree2019 (1218)
• Barquisimeto, Venezuela
5 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 I'm here for that. It is a pleasure to share with you.
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