How do you feel about people who brag a lot?
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
Perth, Australia
August 4, 2019 7:33am CST
There are so many situations out there where someone will say or do something that is totally unforgivable. I have forgiven people for some pretty nasty things I can admit that. I have been ( still improving on it ) a doormat and maybe a little bit too understanding for how I've been treated. But there are still a lot of behaviours I deal with or watch and take the time to wonder why they said this or why they did that.
Only time I cannot be forgiving and understanding is when someone has harmed a person or animal in a very inhumane way. That I will not accept an explanation for. People like that automatically get the "Go screw yourself" thoughts from me.
But one behaviour from people that I get mixed feelings for is constantly bragging. Every time I hear or read someone bragging, I always think to myself the possible reasons as to why they are doing it. Maybe they want reassurance. Maybe they didn't get much acknowledgement as a kid or for things they do in their adulthood. Maybe have been / are being bullied and just want someone to tell them they are worth something.
These types of thoughts cross my mind. But I do admit, I have a limit of thinking up excuses to one who brags a lot. Eventually my mind wanders into "Can't you say something nice about anyone else?" or "Do you really think this highly of yourself?"
I have known a few people personally who just constantly bragged while putting others down at the same time. That sort of bragging is irritating. But I do get annoyed with people who constantly talk about themselves. Like you really want to talk to these people about something in your life but somehow always end up back to them. Like they HAVE to be the topic of every conversation.
Do you know the type I am talking about? Does this sort of behaviour annoy you straight away?
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@JohnRoberts (109846)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Aug 19
I have no patience for bragging. BTW, isn't this the greatest comment you have ever received if I do say so myself lol!
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@TiarasOceanView (70022)
• United States
4 Aug 19
Uh huh y brilliant comment John lol
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@GooglePlus (3831)
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4 Aug 19
Honestly, the way you respond always makes me smile. @johnroberts
Great sense of humor. 
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
6 Aug 19
Sometimes they do give but in other places, but can’t give for everything. You have to pick and choose where you can give to.
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@LadyDuck (471456)
• Switzerland
6 Aug 19
@CookieMonster46 This is true, but to waste money and not help is not a good thing.
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
6 Aug 19
@LadyDuck to some point, most work hard for what they earn, and choose where it goes. I have people asking all the time. I am not rich. I have friends that have birthdays asking for donations for charity, and others with go fund me for all kinds of things . I only helped one, and have other things I take care of . Just can’t help them all.
The worst is asking people and getting mad if they don’t help. You may not know how much they do on a regular basis that you don’t know about.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
4 Aug 19
It depends on what they are bragging about. I have Sister in law that will talk about how they did this or that and it gets old like she is rubbing it in that she is younger and already has this or that. But she has never worked for it so it kind bugs me. I just try not to say anything do the smile and leave it alone. Anything I say wouldn’t be good and it wouldn’t be something nice either. So I hold my tongue.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@ShyBear88 That is the bragging I do not like either. I wouldn't mind at all if someone is showing me their achievements or anything like that but bragging to try to make others feel bad is annoying and disrespectful to me.
I'm sorry she treats you like that!
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 her most recent let me try to run it in was saying she spend $70 in school supplies because she doesn’t have time to sharpen pencil for her oldest. I flat out told her well I do, have time to sharpen pencil to save me $1 or more when it would costs me $110 on school supplies for 2 kids. Next year it’ll be 3 but half of there stuff is reusable so there is no need to get new new stuff. I have to get new crayons, marks, pencils, glue sticks and note books but it’s cheaper then the $110 I would hand to pay. Who wants to pay $110 every year for the same stuff?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@ShyBear88 She didn't have time to sharpen pencils? wow. What a lame excuse! You are obviously level headed then. I would be like yourself. If the school supplies were literally damaged and couldn't be used, I would understand the need to buy new ones but if the ones you already have, have enough life in them left, then just use them. Such a waste to just buy new ones!
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@CinnamonGrl (7084)
• Santa Fe, New Mexico
4 Aug 19
I do know what you're talking about. If a person is really confident in themselves, they don't need to brag, they just need to go on doing what they're doing. Some people really are narcissists; others I think aren't really that confident They need to brag hoping to hear others agree with them about how great they are.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@CinnamonGrl Very well said! Actually I feel as if I didn't explain myself well in my post. Narcissists are actually the type I am talking about. Not people who share their happy stories or anything like that because I adore those sorts of conversations. It's the narcissists type of bragging that I find hard to deal with. You said it exactly the way I am trying to explain on here thank you.
@andriaperry (116936)
• Anniston, Alabama
4 Aug 19
I wrote a discussion something like this one not long ago but mine was about someone who bragged about things he did not have. In other words he was as poor as a church house mouse but bragged to family and friends that he owned the world, know what I mean.
I brag about my accomplishments, I do, because I am so ... so elated that I MADE IT! ME?!?!? So you`ll have to put up with it 
I am blessed by God.
But....
When I think about bragging I notice music also using rags to riches stories a lot. So, I cannot condemn anyone for bragging because I never knew their situation before money or things, they could be so happy that they have no one but us her on mylot to share with.
I brag about my accomplishments, I do, because I am so ... so elated that I MADE IT! ME?!?!? So you`ll have to put up with it I am blessed by God.
But....
When I think about bragging I notice music also using rags to riches stories a lot. So, I cannot condemn anyone for bragging because I never knew their situation before money or things, they could be so happy that they have no one but us her on mylot to share with.4 people like this
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@andriaperry I understand what you mean. I wouldn't mind that sort of bragging though it is lying but I understand as to why he would do that.
The sort of bragging you are talking about is not the sort of bragging I get frustrated by. I really feel like I didn't explain myself well enough. 
If someone is talking to me about something they have achieved or something good that has happened / happening in their lives then I am happy about that! I've actually cried many times with good news like that lol
The type of bragging I am talking about that I do not like is people who speak and act like they are better than everyone else while talking to people as if they are peasants. People who constantly say they are good at this, better at that than others type of talk while putting others down as well.
Like I said to someone else in this post, actually you were tagged in it too, my ex boyfriend would say things like "I am better looking" "People are jealous of me" "I am the best in my class all the others don't have the potential like I do." That is the sort of bragging I am talking about that makes me angry.
If someone is talking to me about something they have achieved or something good that has happened / happening in their lives then I am happy about that! I've actually cried many times with good news like that lol
The type of bragging I am talking about that I do not like is people who speak and act like they are better than everyone else while talking to people as if they are peasants. People who constantly say they are good at this, better at that than others type of talk while putting others down as well.
Like I said to someone else in this post, actually you were tagged in it too, my ex boyfriend would say things like "I am better looking" "People are jealous of me" "I am the best in my class all the others don't have the potential like I do." That is the sort of bragging I am talking about that makes me angry.1 person likes this
@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
4 Aug 19
I suppose it depends a lot on the subject matter of their bragging but yes, it can be annoying when it is the majority of what comes out of them. People have a right to "toot their own horn" when something big happens in their lives. Having a baby, having a grandchild, getting a huge promotion, those kiinds of things, but two years down the road, hopefully their lives have moved well beyond that point. Some people never seem to.
When it comes to talking about grand kids, I brag A LOT. Mine constantly surprise me with their accomplishments. But I do try to tone it down. I think a lot of people just don't believe me, but that is their problem not mine.
A key, I think, is to allow the other person to have a say in a conversation, let them boast if they will, listen to what they say, pat them on the back for their accomplishments. The world is never about just one person, me, you, or the gal next door. Everyone has something of value to say, and I believe that everyone, no matter their station in life, has something they can teach me. So, I always try to listen to their stories as well.
Wow, that's kinda rambling I think.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@cperry2 I agree with you. I don't mind if someone is speaking about something they have achieved or speaking about their family like you have done in your response. That sort of conversation I love very much. The type of bragging I am talking about is where someone is constantly talking about how good they are and say they are better than everyone else and literally won't allow anyone else to speak about their own success.
But as for what you're saying I completely agree. Everyone has a right to share their accomplishments and it's even better when people are around them cheering them on. That is always so wonderful.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@cperry2 I feel like people have misunderstood how I meant it and it's making me feel bad. I feel like people think I meant that I don't like when people talk about the positive things that are going on in their lives. I didn't mean that at all.
He is doing good thank you kindly. He has an appointment tomorrow with his surgeon. Thank you for asking.
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@cperry2 (5608)
• Newport, Oregon
7 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 We are on the same page here. BTW, how is your dad coming along?
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
4 Aug 19
Yes, it's totally annoying. I've seen it with my posts and the comments I get. You can't get them to focus on anyone but themselves and what is happening in their lives. It's almost a oneupmanship contest. I do my very best to avoid that.
You're not a doormat for anyone to walk on or rub their feet across to get the dirt off their shoes. You are a worthwhile human being and one I enjoy interacting with. Don't ever put yourself down. Put your head up and look the person in the eye and don't let them take over your happy spot.
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
7 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 There's room for improvement in me too, and I'm sure everyone else would agree. Have a great day!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@just4him You're actually inspiring to me lol But yeah I think everyone always has room for improvement for one thing or another.
Thank you kindly. You too!
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@just4him You are right as I see people here who are like that. I try hard to make excuses for them and wonder why they do it but eventually it does become very annoying as that sort of attitude makes them appear quite selfish.
Thank you so much Valerie. You saying that really made me feel good. Thank you very much. I am getting better at standing up for myself but still room for improvement.
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@lovebuglena (44553)
• Staten Island, New York
5 Aug 19
Some bragging can be tolerated but non-stop bragging cannot.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@lovebuglena I can understand that completely!
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@Hannihar (130218)
• Israel
4 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13
I either trust or do not trust at all. If I trust I may regret it because the person turns out to be scum. I hate those that brag and you know they have nothing to brag about. I guess they feel they have to brag about themselves because no one else will.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@Hannihar That is very well said! So true!
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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4 Aug 19
Yep, quite a lot of discussions have bragging on them. But they are just being human..
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@ihasaquestion Yeah I have seen some people on here who brag. And of course it is a human behaviour but I can't tolerate ones who speak so highly of themselves as if they are better than everyone else. I just don't like that.
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@ihasaquestion Apparently nothing. Or bring it to people's attention that their behaviour is making people feel bad ( if other people feeling bad was the case )
@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@CarolDM I do not blame you for that! Usually better to stay away from those types of people if they are causing too much distress.
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@profree2019 (1218)
• Barquisimeto, Venezuela
7 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 That is the friend formula. Stay away from what hurts or bothers you.
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@LowRiderX (22903)
• Serbia
5 Aug 19
I can only say that to people I know well, then I can judge whether or not he/she is bragging. I know such, I know quite extreme cases
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@LowRiderX I would love to hear about those stories if you wish to share. No worries if you don't want to but yeah I have met some people too who are just so up themselves. I don't like when people think or act like they are the best and really believe it while putting others down in the process.
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@LowRiderX (22903)
• Serbia
9 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 To understand this, you need to know the mentality of my people. A very specific people. 
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
4 Aug 19
couldn't have said it better myself. Only thing I am guilty of is bragging about my family and very good friends. yes it annoys me when people brag about what they have that others don't etc.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 thank you. It comes from my pogo club games. my mini I made on there . cause it has been doing nothing but rain here
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 I am Wildthing29fl on there if you are able to look me up. Been so many years 15 in fact I can't remember what all is allowed for guests
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@bunnybon7 oh that sort of bragging is harmless and so very sweet! By the way, your avatar there is so cute! Thank you for answering!
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@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Aug 19
I think we all have our own imperfections, and that's what I have to remember personally. There are some things I do that annoy many people too-I'm as imperfect as anyone else. I try not to focus on other's flaws as I know mine are no better than theirs and I wouldn't like mine pointed out.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@LovingMyBabies I honestly agree with you. That is what I mean when I say I sit back to think about why people are the way that they are but I still believe some people's actions are unforgivable. I mean people who murder or rape who are just unforgivable.
As for others who brag while trying to hurt people along the way, I try hard to understand why that is being done but it is still something I find hard to tolerate as I don't like bullies. There are people out there who get such joy by putting others down and I don't like that. 
@smileyhema (4606)
• United States
5 Aug 19
Yes, I eventually end up getting annoyed by those people who brag a lot. I would definitely give a chance to myself, if I can tolerate that to some extent. I can't take too much of it.
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@smileyhema (4606)
• United States
10 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Thanks, Dani! Yes, few people from that list are really okay. Just that they want to vent out their achievements or whatever through us. That brings some special joy for them. But, yes! We cannot take it if they put down others and call us for judgement.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@smileyhema That is very fair enough. I'm sure we all have a limit of how much we can handle something.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
11 Aug 19
@smileyhema So true. And hope you're doing well. Sorry I haven't been doing a lot on here lately. But wanted to give you hugs anyways. 
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
6 Aug 19
I think if some good happens to people they share it. Unless I really know the person can’t say if bragging a lot. Maybe a lot of good things don’t happen to them and when it does they share..
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@CookieMonster46 (13454)
• United States
7 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 Yes, I get it now , I saw your post below, so yes, makes sense.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@CookieMonster46 Thank you for understanding. I feel like I want to do a post to explain myself better as I really do not want to come across the wrong way. I know people shouldn't worry about how others feel about them but I actually really do hate when people misunderstand me and get the wrong impression of me.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@CookieMonster46 That sort of bragging is something I am totally fine with. Like you said, maybe they haven't been having much luck and for something wonderful to happen to them, they just want to share. I am not bothered by that at all.
I'm talking about the sort of bragging where people think, act and actually say they are better than everyone else. The sort of bragging where they literally try to makes others feel awful about their lives.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@ramapo17 I am curious too why no one put him in his place. I do wonder why your Uncle was like that and if he ever thought that his attitude was actually quite off-putting.
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@ramapo17 (30441)
• Melbourne, Florida
7 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 I asked my mother that same question and the answer was they were afraid it would upset my aunt, (his wife).
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
8 Aug 19
@ramapo17 ah ok. I can understand it being a tough one but I also believe that some things are worth being said. It could very well change things for the better but yeah, it's a hard situation I reckon.
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@Starkinds (32712)
• India
5 Aug 19
People have different to commit something or to do something I don't know why this is the one thing is two end.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@Starkinds I am so sorry Jaya but I don't understand what you mean but I'd really love to know what you are saying. Could you please rephrase it?
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
7 Aug 19
@Starkinds oh ok I understand you. Thank you for answering me back as I was curious. I understand you now and I agree with you.
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@Starkinds (32712)
• India
7 Aug 19
@VivaLaDani13 I am sorry if you don't understand by comment I mean some people are say something or they do something else.
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