Severe depression

I'm sure that's true. It's a real good reason for us to never judge another person. We can't know what it's like to be anyone else. I wish you the best! If you're struggling with this, be sure you have some professional guidance.

It truely is a dreadful place to be. I hope you overcome your obstacles.

i understand,iam even crying now..

Nanna I am sorry to hear that your in this situation, it does break my heart to find out about people who are suffering from severe depression, I've worked as a residential carer for people suffering with depression and it does hurt to see them suffer, and bring themselves down, some people do not believe that depression is an illness but thats because they do not understand. Just wanted to send you my wishes and keep your chin up.

You're absolutely right. I've been the victim of that myself. Alot of people don't understand why you can't just "cheer up". There is no cheering up. It ends when it wants to. The good days come sometimes few and far between. I've been there. It's terrible. Like a huge black cloud over your head and you hear nothing but the negativity in your head. You end up making yourself more and more depressed because you can't stop the thoughts.

i too suffer from depression and have since i was a child. mine isnt nearly as bad as yours is but it is still hard. and especially harder when those around you dont understand it. i know you said you dont really leave the house, but do you do things at least online so you have some sort of social interaction? even having online friends and socializing that way is very helpful. please feel free to email me if youd like to talk about anything, im online almost all the time.

Depression whether mild or severe is a serious and life debilitating illness. If you suffer from this you need to take medication to help keep it under control. Also some over the counter vitamins such omega 3 fish oil is a natural helper and plenty of exercise to help the release of seritonin into your brain is also helpful. However. neither are a total substitute for good medical care. Good luck with your treatment!

I completely agree, and when you can not snap out of it then you need to do something about it. Like take medication or talk with your naturopath.

Nanna we are all with you, you may not see us physically at your side, but myself and all the other myLotees are with you. Whenever you fell getting depressed just try to communicate with us. We will be there with you. As we are from different time zones I guess you will always find at least one of us there. If I say I can understand what you are going through I will probably be lying, I guess only the person who has gone through this type of situation can only understand your problem. But I can just tell you to be among the childrens, you will get peace. We are there with you Nanny, don't worry.

i too under severe depression...

it has become part of my life since i was 12..now it has stick with me for 10 years..most ppl would suggest counselling or psychiatrist for me..but it's not dat easy ..this is something dat they wouldn't understand..i wished i am not exist in this world coz it really has affected my daily life..my studies,work,friends especially..when i hav stress, dats when things are the worst..i would cry and yell and cry or sometimes sleep whole day without eating.. ppl would just dun't understand...but now ...it's becoming under control since i hav bf..he's been understanding and he always comforted me and teach me how to see things optimisticly...n it really helps..as the same sufferer like u...i hope dat u would also give urself a chance to b more open minded and see things positively...it won't cure the illness but at least it would lift up some of the burden...

im sorry to hear about your disabilities and depression, i truly hope and pray that it will get better for you. Its a hard thing to live with and hard to see someone you love deal with this. I personally believe the longer you live in "lockdown" (depression) that harder it is to come out of it. I personally sufffered from it for a little while and can relate to how awful it can make you feel. I grew up being physically and mentally abused and lived a very awful childhood, so i constantly used that as my source of depression, and my mind constantly kept going back there, especially whenever anything went wrong. My mother has suffered from severe depression all her life and has gone on every medication there is on the market, some sent her loopy, while others seemed to turn her into a zombie with no feelings, and others (main cause of all the abuse) made her angry .. very very angry and psychotic. I personally didnt use any medications while being depressed, ive always been one to do alot of research about things going on in my life, and studied as much as i could about depression, different ways of dealing with it and the many causes of it. Im happy to say i havent been depressed in several years and live a very happy and wonderful life. there are many harships in my life, im a single mom, on low income, no contact or help from family or my ex, so i do it all on my own. also have a son who is ill with aspergers and dyslexia. so to say my life is picture perfect would be an illusion and a lie. But if i have learnt anything about depression, i learnt that i am human, i have limits. I cant handle high stressful situations so i avoid them or take time out from them and then with a clear head, break it down. I also learnt i cant change things that have already happened to me, i just have to accept them and try and learn something from them. Alot of meditation and relaxation therapy helped me, (doesnt mean it would help others. )Also making time to do something for myself helped alot, to make me realize that i am human and i am good enough to live in this world as well. But the most important thing for me, was positive thinking. I had to start out by telling myself every day im beautiful or im a good person, or i can be happy to.. at first it was very hard an di would break down crying, but i think in the end, it truly helped me, cause i began believing it (or realizing it..is a better word.. because you already are beautiful and you already are a good person) As for your husband, i can completely understand it, because for a short time i had the opinion with my mom "I got out of it, why cant she??" and i got fed up with all the emotions and it stressed me out. Unfortunately sometimes, when there are things we cant change or fix, we feel useless and we get angry or upset at ourselves, at the situation and at the person. This might be what your husband is dealing with. It may also be, that after someone has had to live with someone who is depressed for a long time and seen them go through the various moods, emotions and medications, it gets very frustrating. Depression doesnt just affect the person who is depressed, it affects everyone in that circle. Sadly, when i was depressed i never realized this. Anyway, il stop my very long life story post :) and i truly hope that you find some new ways that may help you. Smile a while :)

I totally agree with you, and people who state that do not realise that is the worse thing in the world you can say to a person with depression, as it makes them start believing they can snap out of it and feel like a hopeless failure for not being able to do so, and then start beating themselves up, and then get more frustrated and more depressed... I live with a family full of people who mainly are alot of bipolars and none of them seem to understand depression, and I am the only one in my family willing to lend an ear but I go on burn out... doing this... takes 2 hrs to calm someone down and then 5 minutes of 2 seconds with the words "Snap out of it" To get them all worked up and feeling worse than before... It is upsetting, and it hard for us living with this, even harder for those who do not understand it, and think we are just being "moody" to "Get our way" I get tired of being called a selfish snot. I finally blew up at my Dad one day, and said if I was so selfish, I would have moved out by now, I have friends all over the US willing to take me in.....To get me out of this situation..... but some of them a worse off than I am, and I do not feel right moving in with someone who is barely able to keep their head above the water, even though I feel I could help them, I know that when I move I will be more depressed for a long time, in some ways but in other ways happy .. very very happy. I'd miss my pets, the marsh the sandhill cranes the geese, the local nature spirits. And as bad as rotten as my family is I would miss them too Dad the most. He wants to help but mom controlls him to much... Mylot is giving me hope on that. But when my SAD depression kicks in or Post Traumatic STress anxieties. I get tired of being told to snap out of it, pull yourself together. Ya know what if I could do so I would... and my Mental image when I hear those words is picturing my hand crossing their face... that is how much it upsets me.. and I am not one to advocate violance. People do not realise how healing a listening ear and a caring heart is to those of us who deal with depression... And that is what is needed the most, is the caring loving supportive friend. Who will stick with you, and recognize and remind you that this thing is not you is it your depression talking. - DNatureofDTrain

it is the worst sickness that easily ruins u try not to fall prey

Yes, and telling people to do so is the worse thing you can say to a depressed person, as no one wants to be truely depressed like that, and those little attention getters that pretend to be depressed, they are the ones who really need to snap out of it and realise the depression is a serious illness... and not something to play or joke about... just as serious as cancer, or aids.. etc.