Is Generation Gap A Natural Thing?

That is so true! Even I don't know who are those current folks! People find it difficult to part with their past experiences and the time they had and some times try to compare with the present time whicj in fact is not a proper thing to do!

Hi Dear @smileyhema ! I am absolutely Jhakaas ! My health is very good! Having about 5 kilometers of brisk walk! Ultimately in today's life both the person's in question are smart and they try to understand the mindset of each other, which we can get to see in many TV serials and also in movies also! Yes, like you said there are changes we get along with the evolution and we get adapted to those changes because without which we can't proceed further! It would be a foolishness if I ask some student to use Fountain Pen instead of a ball point pen as it gives good hand writing! I know what is the answer I can get from him/her! Thus this is a perpetual question that will stay in every generation and will have its prominence presence to make both the parties understand that life is like that only! I appreciate your thoughts!

@smileyhema , The change is ultimate truth! We need to accept it , either gracefully or by having a disheartening attitude! So why not to accept it and try to be part of it and try gto improvise if anything really if we can? Thanks a lot for the concern! Have a great time! Stay blessed dear!

@AKRao24 Oh! That's nice to hear that you've recovered now. Keep it going and yes, walking is the key. I completely agree with your points. The media plays a great role in inculcating both awareness as well as insecurities among the various generations. We've to accept this change and move on. We shouldn't think too much of the past(older generations) and we shouldn't wonder/ envy about the tremendous changes that are happening with the modern era. One who balances these two paths will stand as a genius. For others, time can only answer. Thanks a lot for your words. Take care of your health and keep smiling. =)

That is so true! With the evolution changes are must from generation to generation and it is very natural to adopt and adapt the changes ! Despite knowing all these things we still sometimes act bit adamantly to impose our views on them which is not fair!

@LadyDuck , Very true! That is the reason the younger people treat us like cavemen!

@AKRao24 I know it is not fair, but we tend to think that what we usually did and our habits are still what the young people should follow. The fact is that there is an evolution and we remain behind.

We need to compromise and it has been going on for generations together that is how the life is going on without much of problem in this society for many of us! Today the relationship between the children and parents is like friends because today we have a small nuclear family and most of us are better placed economically to take care of physical and emotional needs of our kids. Experimentation with life has been there in every generation and the pioneers are always there in every generation. During our time inter caste marriage was a big social taboo and our marriage was inter caste one then in 1985, there after the inter caste marriages have become common and today they are are as good as any other arranged marriages! So with the times things they change and we also must be ready to accept the changes!

@AKRao24 yes things are different now compare to past and we have to accept the change but we only have to accept good change which will help in life. children learn from their parents most of the thing and they will see and do what we do at home. if we learn very peacefully and calmly that what is good and what is not like a friend then they will definitely understand better but for it first need to be like them and support them which they want till doing for good.

@birjudanak , To win the hearts of your kids you need to practice what you preach others as they look their ideal in you!

That is very true! Nothing in thie life is permanent except the 'Change!' I can understand about your two intelligent daughters! While I appreciate their liberty, logic and reasoning they have and they present in front of you people, I sincerely appreciate you people also to providing them the required environment and opportunity to grow themselves emotionally and socially in today's society and learn the bare truths of the life in a efficient way! Yes, it is absolutely natural to let them have their own views about the life and we should simply leave them to take their own decisions in the life! In fact since most of us are having nuclear families which are small we get pretty good amount of time to spend with our children which makes them more like as our friends than the children, which is a big win in itself!

@arunima25 , Yes, the joint families have their own advantage and importance. A sensible individual can learn a lot from such family and as you say can coexist with a difference around! We used to visit some joint families during our vacations when we were kids and everything used to be a strange for us there then! Later on we could understand about the tradition of joint families when we have grown up!

@AKRao24 I agree to that very well. But I also feel that children in nuclear family tend to miss interactions with lots of people in family on a daily basis and get a variety of outlooks. This really helped to develop so many life skills especially respect for different views and sharing space with so many around. I would call it coexisting with difference around.

That is obvious! This is observed within the people of same age too! But the change of attitude because of generation gap is something different...like in India our grand parents never used to allow a teen aged girl to talk with a teen aged boy before the marriage as they used to feel it as a social taboo!

@Nevena83 , I feel sorry for you! I think every one should be given a breathing space and the privacy which is a must for every individual of any age or any gender! I always take care of that, though I am 60 today! Just be cool and have some patience ...things will be alright for you soon!

@AKRao24 I am 36 years old and experiencing hell from my parents. In this house, men are allowed everything, but I, as a woman, are not allowed to breathe.

I can understand that... you are lucky to have a father who always have a dialogue with you and keep you engaged! Most of the times the seniors they readily surrender and give us a guilty feeling as if we are dominating them or what! It is not a miracle if people are caring and loving each other, but it is the invisible rope of love and affection that always keep you people together!

@vandana7 , I can very well understand! He is really keeping you busy and also himself! Why don't you be happy that he is appreciating your views and implementing them though he is arguing with you about them! I think he is having his own way of dealing the life than yours. Please keep away from judging him so long he is not doing so with you! LOL! Yes, I can very well understand when you say about the dominating men...in fact this is the charm he is having with him which makes him different from others and that mkes him so close to your heart! You are really so lucky to get woken up gently in the morning even today by your loving father with so much of care and concern! Yes, elderly people are always the supporting pillars for a family! Their mere presence makes a lot of difference in the family!

@AKRao24 You don't know .. I feel I am always logical...he is not. LOL. Take for example dematerializing shares - it took me almost 6 years to convince him. I lost a certificate in the meanwhile. Now he is doing the same thing to my elderly aunt. I am begging with him to dematerialize her tax savings but he is not listening. She is a tad money minded. So she feels her money is gone when it is actually dumped into tax savings. If she sees it there, she will be happy I feel. But dad! Being the typical dominating man says she need not know. He is keeping her unhappy. What does he get? Then she had let her property out, and dad used to collect her rent. He was lenient with tenants. So they delayed rents and absconded with over six months rent. I must have nagged him a million times let me do it. He did not listen. I am at a loss how to tackle him on such issues. He does it even to my tenants. I am forced to be bad! I had saved for foreign vacationl about 5 years ago. He broke plates - give me that money. I want to help somebody for a brief period. That guy took the money and nearly absconded. I had to set the system right. Folks pity those who are family drunkards or gamblers. Dominating men who do not understand much about day to day living are a hell. Never the less, in many respects I wouldn't exchange him. LOL. I get woken up gently every morning even to this date. And I feel safe as long as he is around.

I agree! It is very normal! With the change of time from generation to generation things are also getting changed so are the social changes and social values also. So because of these things the young generation have teir own ideas and way of behavior in their lives which is obviously different from the people from previous generation! If your daughter asks how was she brought up when she was young...that is not her mistake...the things are like that!

@AKRao24 I didn't have a lot of trouble with her to be honest. She was always good and still is. My son was the biggest problem as he was very reckless at times.

@AKRao24 I can't imagine you as a goody goody

Yes, today the thikngs ahve changed and parents also understand the taste of their wards and also with the changing times they are also getting changed and they no more act strict with their wards!

Oh Yes! That is always there and that bridge of understanding get builds it self automatically with the time between the two generations and both the people have a hearty laugh when the kids from subsequent generation ask them not to disturb them!

Difference of opinion is a very natural thing as no two individuals are alike in nature! But then when it comes to comparing the generations and comparing them in general then the things become bit humerus! Wityh changing times it is a wise thing to change oneself as change is the part of evolution!

@AKRao24 I agree with you

Yes, this is very natural....we have to accept the fact that with the time things are also getting changed and we need ourselves fit into that!