Discussing Money matters.
By DINNERLADY
@lazydaizee (6735)
United Kingdom
January 21, 2020 3:18am CST
No, I am not going to start chatting on about how much money there is to be made on myLot, because the `money matters' that I am thinking about has nothing to do with this site.
Let me explain, I went to visit a friend yesterday and we were chatting about life in general when the subject of money came up. She told me that she had discussed her personal money problems with all sorts of people including the people she works with. I said that I never talk about money to anybody other than my husband because I think it is a private subject. So she said that she talks to lots of people because they may be able to give her some advice.
Do you think that money is a private subject ?
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@pumpkinjam (8767)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 20
To me, it's a personal thing that I'll discuss with my husband and my sons. Nobody else needs to known my financial circumstances unless there is a reason for it. It wouldn't bother me if someone asked, though.
I think it depends on how we're raised, and it would be different in different cultures. I don't think there is anything wrong with talking about money but I wouldn't talk to all and sundry about it as your friend seems to have done.
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@pumpkinjam (8767)
• United Kingdom
27 Jan 20
@lazydaizee My ex was funny when it came to money. He expected that all of my income was 'ours' while his income was 'his'. It often meant he'd be out wasting money while I was just about managing the bills. My mum has always controlled the money between her and my dad but that's because my dad's terrible with it!
Now, I'm happy to talk about money with my husband. We have separate incomes but it gets shared as it's needed. We're sort of in between about it. We're not private as such but we trust each other to spend sensibly, and we'll pool money together when it's needed.
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@lazydaizee (6735)
• United Kingdom
29 Jan 20
@pumpkinjam I think it is best for couples to pool their money because then you know things will get paid for. Sounds like you had a bad time in the past.
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@lazydaizee (6735)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 20
It does depend on how you were brought up to think about money. Maybe it depends on how parents and grandparents treated their money , if they were careful and private about it then their children would probably do likewise. I have know of husbands who would not even let their wife know what they are worth or how much money they earned. Another friend of mine had a husband like that. He would give her so much for housekeeping and keep the rest for himself. She was normally short of cash while he seemed to be living a great life spending money on things that he enjoyed.
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
21 Jan 20
Of course it is a private talk
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@amitkokiladitya (171927)
• Agra, India
21 Jan 20
@lazydaizee not every one is our friend and they may make fun of us
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@lazydaizee (6735)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 20
@amitkokiladitya Very true, we do have to be careful who we speak to. Not everyone can be trusted.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
21 Jan 20
If someone ask a question about it yes then I talk about money I don’t see it as being private since you know banks already see it and stuff. I don’t give out person info but around income or wha it might spend weekly on food and such. Nothing wrong with it because your friend is right someone else might have better advise for you or experiences in area that couldn’t help you.
@Writingghost (5196)
• United States
22 Jan 20
I think each person has to make that decision for themselves.
@Gamershen (8)
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21 Jan 20
Money is a private subject.. in our society its became acceptable to talk about money and compare to others as a way to evaluate their status.. personally i think it will be best that people dont know how much you earn..
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@lazydaizee (6735)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 20
I think so too because some people think they are better than you if they earn more.
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@lazydaizee (6735)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 20
I agree, it is a private and personal subject. For people to admit they have money problems would make them feel like they were begging others to help them out. Most people would sort this kind of problem out for themselves.
@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
21 Jan 20
This is quite interesting because like me you are from the UK and I think we are more private about money matters than some other countries. My partner is from Austria and he says that money matters are discussed quite openly there and it is not unusual for people to ask each other how much they earn but here it would be considered rude.
I don't have money problems but even if I did I would never discuss them with other people. I would never tell anyone how much I have in my account. It's completely private to me.
@Tampa_girl7 (50262)
• United States
21 Jan 20
I have a very small amount of people that I talk Money with. My husband mostly.
