"Is it easy for you to initiate a conversation with others?"

@Shavkat (140110)
Philippines
April 29, 2020 9:58pm CST
It is a gift if a person can initiate a conversation with others, either offline and online. I must say that I am an introvert since birth. During my primary and secondary level days, I don't talk much in the classroom. I was even asked to stand for one class period while facing the wall by my teacher. But then, I turned to a new leaf when I stepped my way to university. It will not help me if I am not going to do something about it. So I learned to be more conversant and break free from being an introvert. I still have the persona but I tend to be flexible when dealing with other people outside my comfort zone. What kind of person are you in real life? Are you still seeking a better version of yourself? Image Credit: Shavkat
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@AmbiePam (93794)
• United States
30 Apr 20
I am an introvert, and growing up I was petrified of starting conversations. Now that I am older it is easier, but I am still often apprehensive when I'm in a new environment.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
I also have this episode of being apprehended sometimes, especially if being acquainted with a new crowd. The overwhelming moment of seeing them for the first time, I need to observe them before uttering any words. I don't want to be embarrassed on the spot.
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@AmbiePam (93794)
• United States
30 Apr 20
@Shavkat I understand.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
I have no problem talking with people, even to a large crowd but I sometimes revert back to my introvert side that wants to be alone or left aline especially when I'm working on something.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
When I was still working in my former jobs offline, my colleagues knew my persona. If we are not working as a team, they cannot disturb for doing my job's responsibilities. At some point, I am using my headset and mobile phone while listening to my favorite songs.
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@DaddyEvil (137504)
• United States
15 May 20
I have always forced myself to talk to people, whether I knew them or not. You gain nothing by being silent but can gain friends, help and success by talking to others.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
15 May 20
It is nice that you can easily engage with other people. I must admit that I am a timid young student during my elementary and high school days. I break free with this character when I went to university.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
16 May 20
@DaddyEvil I can easily talk with people. But I am picky about having friends. For the job's sake, I turned to a new person to deal with different sets of people.
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@DaddyEvil (137504)
• United States
16 May 20
@Shavkat Uhm... you didn't notice that I said I forced myself to talk to people? It took me years before I found it easy to do so and still find myself hesitant to engage in some situations.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
30 Apr 20
@Shavkat At times I am a homebody and prefer to stay at home away from people and at others times I do not mind talking to people. I am still trying to figure out things in my life to try and make a better life for Sophie and myself.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
1 May 20
I can understand what you feel, my friend. My family and I don't usually talk with neighbors. In fact, we don't have relatives anymore.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
4 May 20
@Hannihar I can feel you with this concern. My family and I are only in this world now. We don't need to keep in touch with my evil relatives anymore.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
3 May 20
@Shavkat I feel alone lots of the time because we do not have family here and then we have such nasty neighbors. It is very very hard and I wish Sophie had more than me.
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@YrNemo (20255)
30 Apr 20
Seeking a better version of myself? No way, I am the best as it is . (I am an introvert too!)
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
It seems we have our own world. I don't have a problem creating my own weirdness in the four corners of the room. It is my hobby to talk with myself sometimes,
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
2 May 20
@YrNemo It has been a long time that I am living in a simple life.
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@YrNemo (20255)
30 Apr 20
@Shavkat (we are just very contented with life and ourselves in general.)
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@sophie09 (34236)
• Indonesia
30 Apr 20
i am an ambivert, my friend haha
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
In this case, we are on the same boat. Both of us are ambivert. Cheers!
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
1 May 20
@sophie09 Enjoy the rest of the day.
@sophie09 (34236)
• Indonesia
1 May 20
@Shavkat wow heyy fellow
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@rajeev075 (1961)
• India
1 May 20
It depends on what kind of person I am meeting. If they are my friends or relatives it is very easy to start talking on any topic. With strangers I take some time to understand then decide to talk more or not. To colleagues it ok not ok like but sometimes it necessary as we have to work together so I talk with them only about work and other things.
@rajeev075 (1961)
• India
2 May 20
@Shavkat personal information is big things but here in India we often travel in public transport so talking to strangers are common even sharing personal information. People from same state City usually get to understand that you are from his or her place so they ask for it. When you confirmed that you and he she are from same place you will have conversations.
@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
2 May 20
@rajeev075 I am not sure about this. Perhaps it is a cultural thing in a particular place. If asking about areas, practices, or cultures, I think it is fine.
@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
2 May 20
I do agree that it depends on who we are talking with. I don't usually talk with strangers that much. Asking personal information is a big NO for me.
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
You hit the head on that one. Im an introvert too and figuring new ways on how i can converse with other people with no effort. I envy those people that are very outgoing and able to converse to other people effortlessly.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
I can turn to a new person when still working in my previous jobs. I had worked as a trainer and facilitator. During the period of working with different sets of people, I had proven that I can work with them as an extrovert. I will be back to my own self after working with them as an introvert.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
it's easier to talk to people i won't see again
@mysimplelot (1347)
• Calcutta, India
4 May 20
Most introvert become talkative after ages. Though I am also not so talkative. And have been an introvert in my school days. But yes still improving on what I am.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
4 May 20
I think we don't need to limit ourselves for improvement. If we do this, we can have a better version of our lives.
@renicemae (4883)
• Philippines
1 May 20
It depends. If I feel like the person is very confident I don't initiate conversations. Sometimes, if I feel like the person is kind I initiate conversations. I am an awkward person and I dont really talk much about myself or experience. It's a hard lesson I learned from my past.
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@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
1 May 20
I do agree with the part of telling about the personal information to a stranger. It's not a good idea. I never do this because this stranger might be my stalker.
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@Janet357 (75646)
30 Apr 20
I've got no problem starting a conversation with strangers only that when laziness strikes, you will.just see me in a corner in my own little.world.
@Shavkat (140110)
• Philippines
30 Apr 20
I also created a world that I can understand in the four corners of my room. Virtually, I am contented being here and on the other writing sites. I can express myself freely.
@LowRiderX (22903)
• Serbia
4 May 20
Yes, can initiate a conversation with others. I am absolutely the same person both in real life and here, I am old enough to not play online, it is simpler, there is no need to think what I told anyone when I am telling the truth. Probably, everyone strives to be better and better, I still try, I work on myself, on self-control
@aureategloom (11169)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
30 Apr 20
it's not that hard to start a conversation on the internet, but i don't feel comfortable starting a conversation in real life