Why I am a grumpy Horse right now. Do you find that people talk more than they listen?

I've noticed this trait for a long time. We had dinner with another couple a while back and we just marveled at how normal they were! Everyone had a chance to talk and all seemed interested without hogging the conversation. Sure wish they didn't live five hours away!

What aggravates me is when my husband dominates the conversation for 20 minutes at a time and will not allow me to interject a comment or question. If I do, he gets really mad and accuses me of interrupting him. I'm supposed to sit and listen and wait until he's through. By then I've forgotten what I had to say/ask.

I`m the same as you. I`m a good listener

No not that I am aware.If so will shut them off.I love the group.

There are a number of people in my life who don't participate in conversations. All they are doing is waiting for me to stop speaking so they can say what they want to say. It's quite clear they haven't listened to a word I've said. As the old saying goes, we were given two ears and one mouth and they should be used in those proportions.

I get tired of people who interrupt when I am trying to say something. I don't talk a lot but once in a while I like to express a thought that I had. I have gotten to the point that I talk even less than I used to, and if someone takes over the conversation I usually clam up and slip into my own thoughts. I'm even worse about people that I'm not comfortable with, I get "hello" out and then they get to take over the conversation and babble their heads off. I discovered long ago that people who dominate a conversation have a tendency to not get all their facts straight and they don't want someone correcting them. They often miss out on important facts that make a big difference in what they are trying to do. By then the other people involved in the conversation have become lost in their own thoughts so the person dominating the conversation is mostly talking to him or her self. I remember once when a group of us new mothers were gathered together for coffee one was complaining that her daughter was cutting teeth and had diaper rash something awful. I told her about an old remedy that one of my friends mother had told me about, which was giving the baby weak, unsweetened decaffeinated ice tea. The next week we met again and the other new mothers were commenting on how great the unsweetened iced tea worked that the diaper rash cleared right up. A few minutes later the conversation hog showed up and wanted to know what we were talking about. When she found out about our discussing the diaper rash she threw a fit. She expounded on how the baby wouldn't sleep from drinking the tea and the diaper rash was worse from the baby drinking the sweetened tea. She went on and on about the subject until one of the other mothers pitched a fit about how she was dominating the conversation. Then the questions were asked: What kind of tea, how strong was it, did you leave the sugar out? It turned out that she made the tea extra strong since a weak tea was supposed to be good then a stronger one had to work twice as fast. Then because the tea was so strong she had to add a tablespoon full of sugar to the 10 oz bottle of tea so the baby would drink it. Finally she didn't have any decaffeinated tea so she used what she had on hand, figuring that the reaction to the caffeine was all psychological anyhow. After hearing all of that, I decided that I would hold back on adding to conversations with know-it-alls participating. As much as I want to add to a conversation, I hold off and let the know-it-alls do all the talking.

I think a lot of people are lonely now, which makes them particularly vulnerable to the over talking thing. You could be a bit snarky and say, "Well since, you asked, I am doing quite well over here." Maybe they will get the hint.

I know both kinds of people. I prefer to listen. Thanks for explaining your myLot technique. I do the same.

My husband talks and talks. And he is hard of hearing and loud. I mind that he interrupts me so much. I get quite grumpy about it.

I mostly listen.

Every day.

Funny, I also think of music while talking or listening to others. Most conversations involve me listening. Others have told me that I am a good listener, but we need to talk sometimes as well. Love the song.

Too me a conversation is supposed too happen between two people not one one person listens then responds and vice versa the other person listens and responds a conversation too me includes both parties not just one if they have no respect too listen too you after they have talked they might as well have not called you and just had a conversation with themselves.

It is really annoying talking to someone who's only concerned about his story and doesnt show interest on yours thats too selfish I think. I avoid conversation with these types of people

You surely know that here in myLot, I listen more than I talk... this seems to be my destiny also in real life. I called my mother twice a day during 47 years and I was like when I could say a couple of words, while she talked all the time. My niece is the same, my favorite cousin even worse.

I am bad about rattling on myself

Some people are like that and have to talk, talk, talk. I find them very wearing but it's difficult to do anything about it.

@TheHorse I like Garfunkel. Yes, I hate those that do not give me a chance to speak and are very rude to me also.

This is also the case for me. My family and friends usually do the talking and interrupt me mid-way. Also, when I begin to talk about my children, my single friends will just say "oh, that's nice. Me, on the other hand, blah blah blah". It always comes back to their issues, concerns, etc. I sometimes grow tired of that. No need to apologize. myLot is a wonderful place for venting your frustrations.

Not at all. You are a nice mylotter Always a gentle man here