my gf has bone cancer

My condolences to you and especially your girlfriend. My father has a friend that was dating a woman who came down with cancer. He stayed with her through everything, the chemo, the hairloss, etc. What happened is that their relationship grew stronger. I guess the real question is do you care about her as a person and truly love her?

why in the world would you break up with her? You should be there for her, let her know that she can count on you.

At first, I thought that you should support and comfort your girlfriend. But as I read through your answers to your replies, I had a change of thought. I now believe that you should break up fast with this girl because you are too self centered. She will be better off without you. She will need alot of attention and solid support in the future.

Never premeditate yourself into a decision. It's her honesty which made her tell you this debilitating fact. This is the time when she needs you the most and lo, you think of breaking up. Why do you see her untruth only in the negative way, it maybe because she didn't want to see the smile wiped off your face. It's afterall your life, but why do you restrict yourself only to the Materialistic Relationship? See it from a humane point of view, would you do the same if it was some kith or kin?? Hope this helps. I'm really diappointed with your plane of thinking, disappointing indeed.

You need to comfort her but if your questioning yourself it makes me wonder what type of guy you really are! I mean your considering breaking up with her just because you found out she had bone cancer? Yeah sure, the distance might cause a problem, but to be going out with her you must still speak to each other somehow... She's going to be scared and need love and support and as her boyfriend you need to be her rock at a time like this. If you really love her then you wouldn't even be asking this let alone, considering breaking up with her!

She might have been afraid to tell you because you would break up with her. Exactly what you are considering on doing. I would stick it out. If not a relationship, then at least as a friend. She really needs someone right now.

First tell me what if you were in her position and she in yours. Then what you would have liked her to do. C'mmon be a man if you really love her this is the time to show it. That you really care for her. I know it is easy to say. But it's true. So go and comfort her.

Comfort Her and Both you pray to God to heal her . And Ask God to Have a extended life. Just be on your faith I believe that God Will listen to your Prayer and I God Knows Her health status, you know right now God is Waiting to you talk to him. In God All things Are Posible..

if you really would break up with her im not sure that you totally love her. Do you love her? Why would you leave her?

hello dear, i would like to answer your question.. all you have to do is to care and comfort her... because at this time she felt pitty for herself... if you really love her... take care of her and do your best to make her happy, coz you dont know? God will take away her life, at least you showed your love to her. Dont break up with her, she will might be hurt. It is better to make someone happy..

COME ON!!! You cant break up with her just because she has bone cancer. You should be the first person to console her. If possible support her in her treatment and dont ever break up with her

try spend some more time with her ask about her cancer

I almost choked when I read the sentance should I comfort her or break up with her... Why even consider breaking up. I know that she lied, but imagine how scared she must be.. I do think u shuld break up with her because in my point of view.. If u ask this question u don´t love her the way she needs and deserves right now. Good luck!

i think its curable.. dont worry..evrything will be fine..!!

I hope your reaction is due to shock and not a measure of who you are as a person. Your reaction seems very selfish....this is not about you. She may have chosen not to tell you because; a) she didn't know for sure b) she was still trying to come to terms with the news c) she didn't want to upset/worry you d) she thought you might act negatively (like now) e) the list goes on and on She will need someone strong, if she has to worry about you as well, she is better off alone. So, I would say "shape up or ship out" for her sake and not yours. I am sorry to be harsh, but I can't believe you are actually asking this question. She has the cancer, not you. Try and put yourself in her position.

Do you truly love her? If so, then love her unconditionally, and until the end of time

it seems like you are just looking for justification to break up with her anyway, so why ask waht everyone else thinks?

I am pretty sure that this is a decision that you need to come up with on your own... If you can't make this decision by yourself you need a lot more help than what you will find here on myLot.

i do undestand that she kept it from you, but have u thought that she might have done that because she was afraid u would break up with her? i think u should talk to her and say that she shouldve told u before, because, seriously, so what if she has bone cancer? she needs your support and love, not a heartbreak. so tell her theres no big deal about it :)

As someone who has a lot of health problems, all I can say is talk it over with her. Have a discussion with her about the situation, where you both stand on it, and decide what would be best for both of you. It's very, very difficult to be with someone who has health problems. I know some people are probably saying you're cruel or something, but I've been on the other side of the same situation. I wouldn't expect anyone who couldn't honestly handle being with a sick person to stick it out. So talk to your girlfriend, and see what's best for you both.