On a Quest to Forgiveness

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They say that forgiveness is a decision and not a feeling. Yes, I've decided to forgive that person, I want to let go the heartaches, but I don't know what step to do after that. I always pray to the Lord to make this pain go away and I just want to live in peace. My ex-bestfriend is a colleague from work. We are in the same department. Our misunderstanding happened two years ago. Before our misunderstanding, she's showing signs that made me feel inferior, she always gave me that feeling that I'm dumb and she's always right, and she knows everything, that kind of feeling. The turning point of our friendship happened one day and I realized, she's giving me the cold shoulder. I felt that she kept her distance to me and I didn't know why. She made me feel that I'm not important to her, only notices me when she needed something from me. I did confront her once asking her what did I do wrong, and responded with alibis that are not connected to each other. She never told me the truth why she kept acting like that. I've also heard some news that she was saying nasty things to me behind my back. I've confided with my friends to help me analyze what's going on, They all said the same thing based on the behavior I saw, and that is envy. They said she envied me and treated me as a competitor. She did say "sorry" but in a sarcastic way. That point I realized that she was never really sorry for what she did or was she just unaware that she hurt me? She even unfollowed me on instagram. She did the same with the other colleagues. Then as the years passed by, we drifted apart from each other and she would still do things that upset me and still not changing her ways on manipulating other people to gain their trust and sympathy to side with her not knowing I'm the who's really the victim here. I felt even more betrayed but I let that slide. I continued to be civil and professional at work and now I just want to forgive her, wholeheartedly. Can you give me tips or ways on how to forgive her? It's still bugging me until now. It kept me stranded on the same ground and hasn't moved on ever since.