Hubby refused to wash the dishes
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (44341)
Staten Island, New York
July 23, 2020 4:53pm CST
We had dirty dishes pile up from yesterday and the day before. The whole kitchen counter was filled with stuff to wash.
After dinner I asked hubby to do the dishes. Instead of doing that he went to sit in his car. Seemed he was there close to an hour or so.
Me having breakfast this morning added on a few more things to wash. I looked at the counter and couldn't believe how much stuff was there. I did not want to tackle the dishes. I wanted to do anything but that.
Thought of leaving everything as is and then asking hubby tonight to do them. But I couldn't stand all that mess so took a deep breath and went for it. It probably took about an hour to wash everything. At least that's what it felt like. Now everything is washed and the counter is clean. Just the way I like it. Of course, there will be more to wash after dinner.
Still, don't get why he couldn't do the dishes though. I wash them most of the time... It's only fair to let me have a break from dish duty if I ask.
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@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Jul 20
He sometimes does the dishes even if I don't ask. But it wasn't nice to not wash them when I asked him to do it.
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@sweetashoney (3594)
• United States
23 Jul 20
When I was married, my husband always said that he would do the yard work and I could do the house work. I thought it was unfair because I had a job just like him and you don't have to do yard work all the time like house work. He was true to his word to, he never did anything around the house, even on the days he didn't work and I had to.
@sweetashoney (3594)
• United States
24 Jul 20
@lovebuglena I agree with you, I felt that way to. Of course this was back when a lot of man were taught that house work was womens work and their job was just to support the family.
@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Jul 20
@sweetashoney Well, things are much different now. There are instances even when the wife works and the husband does not. But more so both work and it's crazy when the husband still expects the house cleaned, food cooked, the laundry done, kids taken care of, and he is of little help.
@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Jul 20
That is not right. Cleaning the house and upkeeping it is a lot of work. And it is exhausting. Everyone should take part in that. And washing the dishes (if no dishwasher) should be alternated. Sometimes the husband. Sometimes the wife. Or if the wife cooks, the husband does the dishes. Or vice versa. We have a dishwasher (that's old) but it doesn't work right and we only use it to put washed stuff when the dish rack is full. I pretty much always wash the dishes.
@moffittjc (121466)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 Jul 20
That was not very nice of him not to jump in and wash the dishes when you asked him to. I don't mind helping with the dishes, especially if my girlfriend cooks, because I look at it as being the least I could do to help her since she worked so hard in the kitchen to prepare our meal. I usually don't wait to be asked, I'll just jump in and do them.
@moffittjc (121466)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 Jul 20
@lovebuglena Haha, yeah, if you're going to rinse a few things, rinse them all!
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@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
27 Jul 20
@moffittjc He left a greasy pot. 
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@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
27 Jul 20
Sometimes he surprises me by washing the dishes, even when I don't ask but usually I cook and wash the dishes too. Sometimes he is nice enough to rinse. But I hate when he does selective rinsing. Like if you are already rinsing stuff why can't you rinse everything.
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@kobesbuddy (78884)
• East Tawas, Michigan
23 Jul 20
Our friend Paul asked this question, 'Why does all the dirt inside a home belong to the woman?'
@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Jul 20
Good question. Would be nice if he helped clean the house. That's very rare.
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@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Jul 20
@kobesbuddy That's nice of him to do.
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@kobesbuddy (78884)
• East Tawas, Michigan
24 Jul 20
@lovebuglena If I don't wash dishes right after dinner, Jay rinses them off and starts washing dishes:) His mother had all the kids(10) pitch in with household chores.
@LindaOHio (175823)
• United States
24 Jul 20
Sounds par for the course. He'd rather spend time in the car. Sorry about that!
@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Jul 20
He rinsed dishes yesterday and without me asking. However, he only rinsed some stuff and I had to tell him since he decided to rinse the dishes he can't do selective rinsing and should rinse everything. He rinsed the remaining stuff but still left one pot for me to do.
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@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
26 Jul 20
@LindaOHio I hate when he does selective rinsing.
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@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
24 Jul 20
Maybe he wasn't in mood to do it and that's why didn't even answered back.
@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Jul 20
I am not in the mood to wash dishes plenty of times and yet I wash them. No choice.
@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Jul 20
@Butterfingers He rinsed dishes yesterday and without me asking him to do it. Of course, as he sometimes does, he only rinsed some stuff. I had to tell him to do the remaining stuff. If he is rinsing he has to rinse it all and not pick and choose. He still left me one pot to tackle. And now I have to wash everything.
@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
24 Jul 20
@lovebuglena OK tell him to clean today, see if he does or not
@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
24 Jul 20
Will see how that goes. There won't be much to wash though.
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@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Jul 20
Of course, it is better to wash the dishes after every meal. Less to wash that way. But that doesn't always happen.
@Alexandoy (65308)
• Cainta, Philippines
23 Jul 20
When we have no housemaid we always wash at once the plates and other things that we used for eating. The ants might attack the kitchen.
@lovebuglena (44341)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Jul 20
I do not want them in my kitchen. Thankfully this summer they are rare. Before we had lots. Even flying ones. And washed dishes or not did not matter. They still came.
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