I've lost my Southern Card
By AmberLynn
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
United States
September 8, 2020 5:32pm CST
We all know the saying "Lost your man card". Well I seem to have lost my southern card.
I can't even remember the conversation now, but a friend and I were talking recently and she made that comment. I guess I've never really been whatever "Southern" is supposed to be, and I'm proud of it.
I can't fit inside a box anyway, so why bother?
Do you think you fit a certain sterotype?
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@nananathong_ (38)
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9 Sep 20
I’m half Asian and white. I’m not good at math and I cook with seasoning. I’m never “enough” for either side!! lol
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@Orson_Kart (6850)
• United Kingdom
10 Sep 20
Asians are typically good at maths and cooking with spice, so I don't understand your response? Whites neither. 
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
I always thought that the math stereotype was wrong. I'm sure plenty of Asians are great at math, but I think they've all had to strive to be. From what I understand, lots of Asian parents expect their kids to do well in all STEM subjects.
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@nananathong_ (38)
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10 Sep 20
@Orson_Kart That’s what I mean lol!! I’m an Asian that isn’t good at math, but a whitey that cooks with spice
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@RasmaSandra (80909)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
9 Sep 20
I have no idea what I fit. I was born and raised in NYC and lived there for 30 years and then moved to Riga Latvia and lived there for 20 years and now I am in Florida. I guess if I was a dog I would be considered a mutt or mix of different breeds 
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
When you were preparing to move back to the US, did you ever consider moving back to NYC?
I don't know about the cost of living in FL, but I can assume it is a lot cheaper than NYC.
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@RasmaSandra (80909)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum that is just it NYC has become terribly expensive and even though I want to see my hometown again I don't know when that might be. My friend in Florida had an empty apartment just for me so I made my decision. Time will tell.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
11 Sep 20
@RasmaSandra Maybe one day you can go back for a visit. You never know, maybe it will have lost it's luster for you.
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@GardenGerty (161006)
• United States
9 Sep 20
I am not familiar with either saying, but I agree, I do not fit the stereotype any more than you do.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
I've heard people say "You've lost your man card" in situations where women are doing something that the man of the house could be or should be doing. At least that is where I've personally heard it used the most.
I think stereotypes are dangerous.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
It was Germany, wasn't it? I think we might have talked about that before.
@1creekgirl (41780)
• United States
9 Sep 20
I guess since I've lived in NC for 50 years that I qualify for an authentic Southern Card. But I grew up in the military, so I'm not actually from anywhere.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
I don't know if there's even any such thing as a typical southerner.
I guess you would be somewhat multicultural because you would have been exposed to everything growing up on a military base?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
@1creekgirl Ah, I see. Well a lot of that also comes from the family and people you are surrounded by. My early life was spent surrounded by people from this same area. It probably wasn't until middle school that I was surrounded by a bunch of students from other areas of the country or from other countries.
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@1creekgirl (41780)
• United States
9 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum We never lived on base, so we experienced the local way of life. I lived in Virginia until I was 11, then we lived in NJ, California, and Hawaii. But I've always felt like a southerner.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
The man card saying?
I don't remember the first time I heard it. I don't even know where it came from, but it sounds like something we would have adapted from media.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
9 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum No, the southern card.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
@CarolDM Ah, well as far as I know it's just my friend and I that have said it.
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@Orson_Kart (6850)
• United Kingdom
10 Sep 20
I've never heard of either saying, is it an American thang?
I used to be able to fit in a box, but I am not as supple as I once was.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Sep 20
The Man card thing is, but really the "southern card" isn't. Its something my friend and I made up.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
I used to strive to fit a certain stereotype. That has been many years now.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
10 Sep 20
@LadyDuck It is strange to me that people here in the US thought you were British. Did you ask them why they thought so? Was it your accent? Your appearance?
I've been asked if I was British before.
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@LadyDuck (472124)
• Switzerland
10 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Some think I am French, some that I am Swiss, others guess right that I am a northern Italian, in the USA often they thought I was British.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
12 Sep 20
You aren't the only one who seems to have never heard of it. It refers to a man who either doesn't know how to do something that is stereotypical or when a woman does something that their man could have done. That is the ways I've heard it referred to the most.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
12 Sep 20
@TheHorse Well, I lost my "North Carolina Card" actually, because I happened to remember that I confused Chapel Hill and Duke
I've lived in NC my whole life.
There actually is a physical (gag gift) man card you can get. I've seen them before.
I've lived in NC my whole life.
There actually is a physical (gag gift) man card you can get. I've seen them before.@TheHorse (220442)
• Walnut Creek, California
12 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Oh! So if I scratch my head while Ms Horse changes her own tire, I "lose my man card"? How does one lose their Southern card? Have I lost my "city kid card" because I don't talk like a pretend thug any more?
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@LindaOHio (182145)
• United States
9 Sep 20
No. I don't fit a stereotype at all, except that I say pop instead of soda. Must be a Midwestern thing.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
I think the first time I heard the word Pop used to mean soda was when I was in middle school. I've always said soda.
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
@LindaOHio I remembered earlier what it was that made me "lose my southern card". It was actually my NC card because I said that Duke and Chapel Hill were the same team.
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@jvicentevalera (13671)
• Santiago, Chile
9 Sep 20
I have never heard that saying before!
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
I am not sure where it originated.
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@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
9 Sep 20
This is new for me. What is southern card?
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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
It sort of like a membership card to a store or country club. It isn't real, just a figure of speech. It's exclusivity. I'm sorry, I don't think I've explained that very well.
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
9 Sep 20
@Butterfingers The saying is about a man card.
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@Butterfingers (66583)
• India
9 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum no problem that's fine
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