Yesterday was my wedding day

United States
September 27, 2020 9:23am CST
I didn't get married yesterday.... Perhaps I should have said yesterday I would have been married 12 years had my ex husband and I not divorced after only two. Some years the day passes me by without me noticing it. I remembered this year because my ex husband came to my mind a few days ago. I didn't have any alcohol to celebrate my continued single status, but that's okay.
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@moffittjc (121612)
• Gainesville, Florida
27 Sep 20
You should feel proud of yourself for having the courage to get out of an abusive relationship. I think you are much better off now, even if you are single. And being single is not such a bad thing.
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• United States
27 Sep 20
No, it's not a bad thing at all. I've dated since, but never anything serious. I like being single.
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• United States
28 Sep 20
@moffittjc Yeah I rushed into a relationship exactly once, and decided that I wasn't doing that ever again.
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@moffittjc (121612)
• Gainesville, Florida
28 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Being single does have its advantages. I prefer the companionship of being in a relationship, but I don't rush into relationships just for that reason. Sometimes it's nice to stay single for a while.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
27 Sep 20
How do you feel now? Are you happy that you guys aren’t together?
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• United States
27 Sep 20
Absolutely, positively without a doubt in my mind. He was an emotionally abusive man. He stole my self confidence, and if I'm being honest, a little piece of that will always be gone.
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• United States
27 Sep 20
@Ladanger Thank You. We've been split for so long, and I've grown, ya know? Sometimes I get lonely, but I honestly enjoy being single.
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@Ladanger (14578)
• United States
27 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I am very sorry to hear this. Now you can have inner peace and one day you will meet someone special.
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@LadyDuck (471498)
• Switzerland
28 Sep 20
I also married on the 27th of the month, but in December. Will my husband remember??? He usually does.
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• United States
28 Sep 20
It was the 26th for me, and today (the 28th) is the anniversary of our first date. That was 14 years ago.
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@LadyDuck (471498)
• Switzerland
29 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum We met the 5th of February of year 1970, it was 50 years the past February.
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@LindaOHio (178869)
• United States
27 Sep 20
Be glad you're rid of him! And work at getting that self confidence back!
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• United States
27 Sep 20
I think it's about as back as it will ever be... There's a piece of it missing, a silent part that will always question first before jumping in to anything.
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@LindaOHio (178869)
• United States
28 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum You should always be a little cautious before trying something new! :-)
• India
27 Sep 20
That's ok you can celebrate with a cake maybe
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• United States
27 Sep 20
Oh no, I can't. Not unless it's a low carb cake.
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• United States
27 Sep 20
@Butterfingers That is what I would have to do. I don't like sweets that much though.
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• India
27 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum maybe you need to prepare your own then
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• India
27 Sep 20
No worries
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• United States
27 Sep 20
Not with him out of the picture.
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• India
27 Sep 20
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@anil02 (24688)
• India
27 Sep 20
Celebrate this day for good days which you were spend with you ex-husband
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• United States
27 Sep 20
No, thank you.
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@anil02 (24688)
• India
28 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum OK I respect your feelings
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
27 Sep 20
So you've no regrets on divorcing him?
• United States
27 Sep 20
None at all. He was emotionally abusive and controlling. I tried to make it work, but I'm glad it didn't.
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• United States
27 Sep 20
@jaboUK Yes. I was young then, and naive. I'm older now and know my self worth.
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@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
27 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Just as well you're rid of him then.
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@rakski (123483)
• Philippines
28 Sep 20
I remember you mentioned he chews something, right?
@rakski (123483)
• Philippines
29 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum oh yes, that is right
@thelme55 (77083)
• Germany
27 Sep 20
I am glad you are a happy single woman. Be proud of it.
• United States
27 Sep 20
I am proud of it. Admittedly, it took several years before I realized I should be proud of it.
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• United States
28 Sep 20
@thelme55 Thank You. I used to believe that men should behave like the fairy tales I grew up with. I still wanted them to be that way, even after the way my ex husband treated me. Now I know that when or if I ever get into another relationship, that I have to make my own happiness and can't rely on a silly fairy tale.
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@thelme55 (77083)
• Germany
28 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum I am glad you are.
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@nela13 (58668)
• Portugal
27 Sep 20
If you want to celebrate it means you took the right decision.
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• United States
27 Sep 20
Yes, I am happy to be single.
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@nela13 (58668)
• Portugal
28 Sep 20
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@arunima25 (87819)
• Bangalore, India
28 Sep 20
Some relations are not there to work. And if they become suffocating or toxic or take any sort of toll on you, it is better to come out of it. I am glad you did.
• United States
28 Sep 20
Yes, I am glad I did as well. It wasn't easy the first few years, but I am happy now.
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@arunima25 (87819)
• Bangalore, India
30 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum Happy for youTake care.
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@rhuenz (10643)
27 Sep 20
12 years of married yesterday you mean? Not divorced for two ? His gone, without divorce?
• United States
27 Sep 20
I married him in 2009 and divorced him in 2011. We were married on September 26th of 2009. I divorced him in the spring of 2011.
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@rhuenz (10643)
27 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum oh okay,sad to hear that,you might be missing him? I like that,you are still single.enjoy being single.
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• United States
27 Sep 20
@rhuenz No... I'm not missing him at all. That wasn't the point of this post at all.. I'm GLAD we aren't together anymore.
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@Luis11 (399)
28 Sep 20
Sorry that you both got divorced after two years 12 years is such a long time.
• United States
28 Sep 20
I am not sorry at all. Sometimes divorce is better than the alternative.
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• United States
28 Sep 20
@Luis11 I used to not believe in divorce, but now I don't really believe in marriage.
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@Luis11 (399)
28 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum that's true.
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@popciclecold (38855)
• United States
27 Sep 20
Sounds like you spell relief.
• United States
27 Sep 20
Definitely so.
@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
27 Sep 20
Sorry it didn't last, as it was a marriage. But glad you're okay with it being over.
• United States
27 Sep 20
It took me a few years before I was glad that it was over. For the longest time I hung on to the possibility that we might get back together. It wouldn't have been a good thing though.. If we had.
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@Courtlynn (67083)
• United States
28 Sep 20
@ScribbledAdNauseum understandable
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• Shenzhen, China
28 Sep 20
maybe you can live a wonderful life without him,regardless of single status or couple,living happily is the theme.wish you are going well.
• United States
28 Sep 20
Thank You. I am very happy.
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@Overflowing (3709)
28 Sep 20
I hope your just fine,have a good day always ma friend
• United States
28 Sep 20
Yes, thank you and you too.
@April90 (148)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 20
As long as you are happy
• United States
28 Sep 20
Absolutely, unequivocably.
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