The truth about Australian funerals

@JudyEv (340216)
Rockingham, Australia
September 30, 2020 9:49pm CST
MyLotter @xFiacre just posted wondering what Australian funerals are like. You can catch up here: https://www.mylot.com/post/3402749/australian-funerals. I couldn’t let his remarks go unchallenged so, being one of the few Australians on myLot, I thought I should perhaps assure Fiacre and others that we do actually have funerals. Cremations are very popular nowadays too. Many are conducted by a religious celebrant; others have civil services which are normally equally as dignified and respectful. There may be a service in a church or funeral parlour then everyone, or most, gather at the graveside for the interment, if there is one. Afterwards, there is usually a light meal or refreshments served in a suitable venue, usually with a good supply of alcohol so the departed can be given a ‘good send-off’. Certainly some funerals might be a bit ‘different’. The coffin of one elderly gentleman was transported to the church and graveside on the back of vintage truck that he had restored. After the ceremony, a keg (of beer) which happened to be conveniently on the truck was cracked and a good time had by all. Some funerals have a guard of honour for the deceased depending on their work/hobbies/etc.. So yes, we do have quite conventional funerals. The photo is from the time we took my Dad’s headstone to a stonemason to have my mother’s names added. Note the surname, my maiden name. Sweet by name and sweet by nature.
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@marguicha (223107)
• Chile
1 Oct 20
We have a plot that belongs to our family where my grandparents were buried. But from my father´s generation, we chose to cremate our loved ones.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
1 Oct 20
Some families have plots here too but it's the exception rather than the rule.
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@marguicha (223107)
• Chile
1 Oct 20
@JudyEv There are places in the cemetary where you can bury the ashes and add a very small headstone. But we spread them in a forest.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Oct 20
@marguicha Many graveyards here have gardens where ashes can be buried and a small plaque placed nearby.
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@wolfgirl569 (106397)
• Marion, Ohio
1 Oct 20
Sounds similar to here.
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@wolfgirl569 (106397)
• Marion, Ohio
2 Oct 20
@JudyEv That is a good idea But you would need to make sure if there are any regulations for them. We even told the kids not to have a service, Just have them shove us in the oven.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Oct 20
@wolfgirl569 It's okay to make your own coffin, but you're right. It's a good idea to check out the regulations.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
1 Oct 20
I would think so. Similar to any I've seen on TV, movies, etc.
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• United States
1 Oct 20
sounds similar to here'n the u.s., though 'tis rare i participate'n such. kinda like weddin's, jest aint a fan. 'tis wonderful though that they 't times 'f guard 'f honour. great way to show ones respect. learnt me somethin' new, yer maiden name :) most fittin' coz yer truly a sweet lady!
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• United States
2 Oct 20
@JudyEv aw, yer welcome! jest penned such coz i know't to be true :) she'd a beautiful name, but i reckon she felt 'candy' suited her best, eh?
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Oct 20
Thanks for the kind words. Many of my Mum's friends called her 'Candy' rather than 'Lena'. She liked to be called Candy.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
1 Oct 20
Ours are very similar. Beautiful headstone and love your maiden name. Reminds me of John Candy.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
2 Oct 20
@JudyEv I'm so glad you do. I was worried you wouldn't have heard of him.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Oct 20
@DianneN Haha. I've mentioned on here some of our really well-known (in Australia) artists and met with the equivalent of blank stares. But yes, I do know of John Candy.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Oct 20
I remember some of John Candy's films.
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@DocAndersen (54402)
• United States
1 Oct 20
that is a great surname. Sweet! you should start a band - Sweet and the Lollipops!
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Oct 20
Glad you like my maiden name. I was always glad I married an 'Evans' and not something outrageous difficult or odd!
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Oct 20
@DocAndersen I guess mostly it's spelt Anderson. We often spell out E V A N S as some, especially Asians, call us Mr and Mrs Evens.
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@DocAndersen (54402)
• United States
2 Oct 20
@JudyEv My wife traded a last name that people spelled the name wrong all the time (wrong next to last letter) for a name that people always misspell (the 2nd to last letter)!
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• United States
1 Oct 20
Thanks for this post
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Oct 20
You're welcome. It's interesting to read how other countries handle things.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Oct 20
@GeniusSoul Some of the customs are very fascinating.
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• United States
2 Oct 20
@JudyEv I like to know about other cultures and languages
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@RebeccasFarm (89873)
• Arvada, Colorado
6 Oct 20
What a great family name RIP all Judy xo
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
6 Oct 20
Thank you.
@RasmaSandra (79892)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2 Oct 20
That is very interesting, In Latvia Russians bury their deceased loved ones with plenty of vodka on hand and things to eat right at the gravesite, Latvians take their family and friends to cafes or restaurants
@noni1959 (10095)
• United States
7 Oct 20
I love your maiden name. We have similar headstones. I've been to cemeteries that have some very elaborate and some strange headstones.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Oct 20
Some are certainly elaborate and must cost the earth. I guess it comforts some people.
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@Shiva49 (26686)
• Singapore
1 Oct 20
Quite dignified and a well earned rest. As per my faith, it is cremation, burnt to ashes
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Oct 20
Cremation has become much more popular in Australia over the last decade or two.
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@Sambriel (2243)
1 Oct 20
Amazing insights you have here . I think I have learnt something valuable and New Thanks for sharing!
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
2 Oct 20
Thanks. I'm glad you found it interesting.
@LindaOHio (178877)
• United States
1 Oct 20
Very similar to what we do here in the States.
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@JudyEv (340216)
• Rockingham, Australia
1 Oct 20
I didn't think it would be much different.
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