I cannot handle CHIPPY people: Can YOU?

@eileenleyva (27560)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

You are a constant guide to us here in mylot.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

@rsa101 In my humble opinion, I can handle them but not that being with them.often. I can be their friends but I do not want to drift apart for being nagged by them

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@TheHorse (219337)

• Walnut Creek, California

6 Nov 20

Agreed. Unlike some Americans, I do not "hate" Donald Trump. I feel pity for him. I think he is very sad in his House of Gold. But I would not choose to invite him to dinner!

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Anna

@LadyDuck (471766)

• Switzerland

28 Oct 20

In informal British English "chippy" is a fish-and-chip shop.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

@LadyDuck It is nice to know words like this.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

I agree. The word can be used in this kind of shop.

Actually, we have a snack called this word, too. Image Credit: sarisaristore.se

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Anna

@LadyDuck (471766)

• Switzerland

28 Oct 20

@Shavkat They surely gave this name because of Fish&Chips.

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@eileenleyva (27560)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

Inferiority complex is a disorder. People who suffer from the ailment must be given leeway and understanding.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

At some point, I can understand the situation. But then, I need to contain myself to keep on hearing insecurities. It can affect my positive energy.

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@eileenleyva (27560)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

@Shavkat You are correct there. I also am not equipped to handle such people. I wouldn't know what advice to give them. Perhaps suggest that they seek the help of psychologists.

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@eileenleyva (27560)

• Philippines

30 Oct 20

@Shavkat Offer a prayer. Our Christian duty to do so.

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much2say

@much2say (55670)

• Los Angeles, California

28 Oct 20

I have tolerated certain friends like that. But eventually these friendships ended because I had enough. Their negativity eventually brings you down too because their is no convincing them of being more positive.

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much2say

@much2say (55670)

• Los Angeles, California

29 Oct 20

@Shavkat I will tell you I felt MUCH better after I let these people go!

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

2 Nov 20

@much2say Same thing here. I stopped talking to them online, too.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

This is what I wanted to point out. We can be their friends, but they will affect us big time emotionally and even physically. I cannot deal with their negativity in their minds.

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DianneN

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

28 Oct 20

None! I'm at the stage of life where I can avoid anyone I don't like for whatever reason. All my friends are wonderful.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

I am glad that your circle of friends does not have to possess this behavior. I am sure if I go back to working with NGOs, some people will be like this.

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@TheHorse (219337)

• Walnut Creek, California

6 Nov 20

But we all have a shadow. Once we've established a friendship with someone, we can openly discuss "issues."

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317115)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

28 Oct 20

Those are the people who need the most support. It's people like you who project rejection and superiority over the person that they need to feel defensive and their inferiority complex grows by leaps and bounds. Try to be understanding of such people and not keep away from them. I know what I'm talking about. I've had an inferiority complex all my life and experienced rejection from everyone.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

Honest;y, I do not have a low opinion about this matter. Don't get me wrong if I wanted to stay away from them. There are times that I need also a peaceful environment, which means I can still be their friends after dealing with my personal issues.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

@just4him I agree with you.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317115)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

29 Oct 20

@Shavkat We all need peace.

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Judy Story

@jstory07 (139774)

• Roseburg, Oregon

28 Oct 20

I have no friends like that but I have met people like that.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

Same thing here. I do not have any friends like this. I had met them but try not to build friendship.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

7 Nov 20

@TheHorse The mere fact is that they cannot help us in any way.

@TheHorse (219337)

• Walnut Creek, California

6 Nov 20

@Shavkat Exactly. It's best to have friends who are mutually supportive with you.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37356)

• Toccoa, Georgia

29 Oct 20

I had a friend like that in College. We stayed in touch awhile after graduating but now we have lost touch.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

I bow my head to you because you were able to handle her. Hopefully, she is fine at this very moment. Perhaps she overcame being a chippy person.

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Anne Marie Guyer

@LeaPea2417 (37356)

• Toccoa, Georgia

29 Oct 20

@Shavkat I hope she overcome it.

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@TheHorse (219337)

• Walnut Creek, California

2 Nov 20

I think some "choppy" (I had not heard that term!) often overcompensate by acting like they know everything. I do know some people like that!

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

6 Nov 20

I cannot tolerate having them in my life. I prefer to be in silence being with them instead.

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@TheHorse (219337)

• Walnut Creek, California

6 Nov 20

@Shavkat I think we're about to vote one out of office in the US!

Arunima Singh

@arunima25 (87817)

• Bangalore, India

28 Oct 20

Well I can't stay away from them as I meet them every now and then as a counselor. And many of them after few session get fully transformed. They just need someone to help them.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

During my college years, I was a peer counselor. However, the seriousness is not like chippy's behaviors. I must admit that my level of understanding will not be efficient and effective like a psychologist.

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@ZedSmart (19787)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

I think at some point of our lives, we're dealing with them.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

When I was still working offline, I hat met different sets of people. I must try to be flexible. I agree that it is inevitable not to meet chippy people in our lives.

rhuenz

@rhuenz (10643)

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28 Oct 20

That is the right word,inferiority complex. My husband used to tell me about that kind of person here.She's like that. Very difficult. That kind of person always lift up themselves.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

I can say that they really need to be encouraged from time to time. It is not easy to handle them as a support system.

Piyush bhatia

@piyushbhatia1 (11695)

• India

28 Oct 20

It is rare to find such people these days who feel they are inferior

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Go Crossbones

@crossbones27 (49525)

• Mojave, California

28 Oct 20

@piyushbhatia1 So drives me nuts but probably why where I am. I cannot stand privilege.

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Go Crossbones

@crossbones27 (49525)

• Mojave, California

28 Oct 20

True no one is seriously humble,other than CJ Romone, most people are taught to be arrogant here at the least.Great point.

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Piyush bhatia

@piyushbhatia1 (11695)

• India

28 Oct 20

@crossbones27 the same happens here as well. They believe they are kings and queens

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Phoenix

@Callofduty (7)

• California City, California

28 Oct 20

yes I also have well-known chippy

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

28 Oct 20

How do you handle him or her? If I may ask...

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Notlilie

@prinzcy (32305)

• Malaysia

28 Oct 20

I guess I don't really have an issue with them. I just don't like rude people. I can't stand this the most.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

That's nice! I am sure you are so patient enough to deal with their shortcomings in life. There is nothing wrong to walk through them to a better person. Personally, I do not like rude people because they might trigger my evil side.

Simone

@Janet357 (75646)

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28 Oct 20

i think i know some people who are like.this. I am picky with befriending people. few friends much better. But I don't make enemies.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

We are on the same page when picking friends. I am not that choosy but need people who deserve to be my true friends. As much as possible, I do not want to hurt others. Staying away is the best option for me.

CarolDM

@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

29 Oct 20

No I do not.

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@Shavkat (140053)

• Philippines

29 Oct 20

I am glad that you don't have them in your life. I cannot hold my patience with this kind of persona.

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Ruthie J Cassettari

@DearAphrodite (194)

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28 Oct 20

I have but not for long. I try to make people feel better but if the person has a martyr complex I walk away.

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