Meltdowns vs. Tantrums
By jdbc
@jdbces (1845)
Philippines
November 9, 2020 12:39am CST
I was reading in Understood.org the difference between the two. Lately, I have been feeling overwhelmed when my child is having a meltdown.
I love reading about parenting and I know that there isn't a perfect formula for that, and that every child is different.
The photo is Justin Baldoni and his father letting his daughter feel what she needs to feel.
The article was a good read:
How did/do you deal with your child's meltdowns?
https://www.bustle.com/p/this-dads-viral-post-on-ignoring-his-daughters-public-tantrum-is-shifting-important-narrative-in-parenting-66917
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@rakski (125896)
• Philippines
9 Nov 20
I so like this topic.
You have to differentiate this two words first.
Tantrums - usually happens with a purpose and somehow will stop if she/he got what he/she wanted
Meltdown - are the result of sensory overload and ends usually if you remove them from the trigger factor of the meltdown or if the meltdown itself wears them out.
For tantrums, I am fortunate that my I can talk to my kids that if they want something, we will set a date when they can have it like Christmas or birthday) depending on what they want.
As for meltdowns, this is really tiring for the parents also. I learn to be more patient, understanding and compassionate because of my son's meltdown before.
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@rakski (125896)
• Philippines
9 Nov 20
@Cheyee yes, that is true for meltdown. They have to calm down first.
I do not allow tantrums in our house and the kids know it. ahaha of course there are times when this cannot be avoided but you have to be innovative and imaginative on how are you going to put their mind in another situation so their mindset can change
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@jdbces (1845)
• Philippines
9 Nov 20
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. She is starting with those meltdowns recently and at first I always try to calm her down because I don't want to see her crying her heart out.
I am trying to get used to these episodes.
I read this one and I was touched. I will edit the post and put this link too.
https://www.bustle.com/p/this-dads-viral-post-on-ignoring-his-daughters-public-tantrum-is-shifting-important-narrative-in-parenting-66917
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
9 Nov 20
I only had to deal with one tantrum and that was with my older son when he was 5 years old. He had a fever and wanted to go to school, and when I told him he was too ill, he threw himself on the floor and cried and kicked so much, that I almost gave in. lol. Then I reminded myself that I was the mother. Eventually, he understood reason and was distracted by playing school with me.
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@jdbces (1845)
• Philippines
10 Nov 20
He was such a dedicated student.
You were sweet to distract him by playing school with him.
My daughter is starting to sometimes act frustrated and if it's too much I get caught between wanting to hug her and ignoring her (which they say is also effective). Sometimes she would resist and go on. I get overwhelmed at times because I don't want to see her crying.
My daughter is starting to sometimes act frustrated and if it's too much I get caught between wanting to hug her and ignoring her (which they say is also effective). Sometimes she would resist and go on. I get overwhelmed at times because I don't want to see her crying.1 person likes this
