Social Media: My Exes Are Sending...

@Shavkat (140118)

Philippines

November 10, 2020 6:04pm CST

...messages lately. Whoah! I do not know what's wrong with my exes. They keep on sending messages through Facebook messenger.

I don't want to feel like a casanova with this matter. I must admit that I have been entertaining them since they started to send sweet messages. Flirting? A big no is the answer. I am just being friendly to them. In my humble opinion, they are my friends after they broke my heart.

It seems social media is so active that people around the world use it due to this pandemic. Have you noticed this claim of mine? Are you friends with your exes? Does this phrase 'Exes come back when you moved on' makes sense? Image Credit: magnetofsuccess.com

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@DianneN (247186)

• United States

11 Nov 20

They can't help themselves because you are so adorable!

I'm not friendly with my exes or my husband would kill me.

An ex friend has been stalking me in person, and that was no fun.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

That's not cool if being stalked by an ex. I must admit that one of my exes was blocked by me on Facebook.

I cannot handle her way of stalking behavior. I anticipate also that if I have a partner at present, she will be in a rage, too.

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@LadyDuck (472087)

• Switzerland

11 Nov 20

Good morning TWIN sister. My husband would kill me and I would kill him too.

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@DianneN (247186)

• United States

13 Nov 20

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@sophie09 (34236)

• Indonesia

11 Nov 20

to be honest, i only have one ex boyfriend lol

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

Whoah! I hope you had moved on by now. It's not good if you still think of him and cannot able to open your heart for a new love that you deserve.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

@sophie09 That's great! I am sure you are free to entertain your suitors.

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@sophie09 (34236)

• Indonesia

11 Nov 20

@Shavkat yes i have moved on for sure

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@rsa101 (38166)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

Wow “exes” as in plural, meaning they are many? Well since you’re still single I think you can still entertain any of them. Maybe rekindle some of them if they didn’t hurt you that bad.

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@rsa101 (38166)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

@Shavkat Opps sorry for letting you recall that bad past of yours. I guess it's just timely that you rekindle someone from your past if its okay or not depends now on your and her.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

@rsa101 It is fine. Now, I am more comfortable talking about things that happened in the past. Being connected with them, I still need to protect myself to be hurt again.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I am trying to rekindle with one of my exes. It is in the plural form because the relationships were too short.period. In addition, I am trying to find the right one.

I honestly cannot reconnect with my last ex. She cheated on me and did so many bad things.

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@tech40 (23121)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

They unfriended me after we talk.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

Some of them did unfriend me. Now, they are coming back to be reconnected.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

23 Nov 20

@tech40 They seem to be so insecure with your GF now.

@tech40 (23121)

• Philippines

20 Nov 20

@Shavkat Haha! They're no longer connected to me but they're stalking my girlfriend haha!

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@rakski (126055)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

People nowadays turn to social media to communicate with everyone.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I agree. It is the common medium to be connected to others during this pandemic.

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@rakski (126055)

• Philippines

12 Nov 20

@Shavkat so you are friends with all of your exes???

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

12 Nov 20

@rakski Not all of them, except one.

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@Dena91 (16686)

• United States

11 Nov 20

Soon to celebrate 29 years of marriage I don't have any ex's to speak of. I do keep in touch with one I dated in college on Facebook but we do not send messages to one another. He is happily married as well.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I am glad that you found your soulmate. How I wish I can say, "She's the one.' If I am marrried, I will not entertain them.

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@shaggin (72242)

• United States

11 Nov 20

Aww that is so nice that your being so sweet to them after they hurt you like that.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

Perhaps I had forgiven them for hurting me before. Through the years, the heartaches were healed.

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@LadyDuck (472087)

• Switzerland

11 Nov 20

NO, I am not friend with my exes, my husband would not appreciate and he is NOT friend with his exes... I would kill him.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

@LadyDuck I guess you do not need to worry about it. I know the fact that it is not a good idea to be connected to exes when in a relationship.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I can understand your situation. If I am with someone or married, it will surely be a big issue. What if his exes get in touch with him unexpectedly, what would be your reaction? Can it be a civil way?

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@LadyDuck (472087)

• Switzerland

11 Nov 20

@Shavkat My husband hates social media, he is not on facebook, nor other sites, his phone is on the desk all the time and his exes do not have his number.

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@RasmaSandra (80736)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

11 Nov 20

I have no exes. Perhaps it is a sign of the time fore you,

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I am not sure if I can find the right one. For now, it is a matter of knowing each one of them again.

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@JudyEv (342112)

• Rockingham, Australia

11 Nov 20

I haven't had any exes come back but after 50 odd years it's probably not surprising.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I honestly didn't expect that they will get in touch with me. I am not expecting to rekindle a special relationship with one of them.

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@JudyEv (342112)

• Rockingham, Australia

11 Nov 20

@Shavkat I think it is nice if you can still be friends with them.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

@JudyEv I tried to be civil with them as much as possible.

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@Deepizzaguy (104150)

• Lake Charles, Louisiana

11 Nov 20

Since I abandoned Facebook and Twitter some years ago, none of my former friends want to contact me anymore.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

Honestly, I am not that active with my social media as you mentioned. Even Facebook, I randomly checked it. When I was still active on Virily, I only post my articles with my social media accounts.

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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)

• Perth, Australia

12 Nov 20

@Shavkat I am happy to know that even after being hurt, you still manage to be civil with them. I'm sorry that they broke your heart though! I wonder why they are all messaging you lately. There is only one ex ( high school boyfriend ) that I don't mind talking to every now and then but any other ex can seriously fall off a cliff lol sorry I know that is rude but if you knew what they did, you may understand why I am being so harsh.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

16 Nov 20

@VivaLaDani13 I think it is enough to be hurt than having the same feelings again. At present, friendship is the only thing that I can offer to them.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

14 Nov 20

I am still finding the real agenda of why they are coming back with messages. Honestly, I am trying to be vigilant whatever happens between me and them. I have one ex that I do not want to be connected with. The relationship was in hell before.

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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)

• Perth, Australia

14 Nov 20

@Shavkat I think you're very wise for being vigilant. I also don't blame you for wanting to stay completely away from that other ex you're talking about. If someone caused you such grief then it's not worth it going back communicating with them even as friends. You're very level headed!

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@ZedSmart (19786)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

@ZedSmart I am a bit skeptical why. But then, I need to secure myself for possible deception.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I am saying it in a humble way.

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@ZedSmart (19786)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

@Shavkat Yes, I believe.

I am just suspicious with their motives but of course you can be friends for the second time or who knows, their will be spark during this time.

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@iKONICNoona (4220)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

@Shavkat Dont you worry you are not the only one experiencing it. My ex too recently added me again on facebook using his brother's account.I wonder why his brother would add me because when were a couple his brother is just a high school student and that was 7 or 8 years ago. He sent me a message on messenger too using his brother messenger , I told him on the spot that I dobt want to have any connection with them because we did not end up that good.I also told him to stop messaging me because I am already married but it was just a lie , so that he wont message me again hahaha ..He told me that he's having problems with his wife now and he needs someone to talk to

I asked him why you think that I want to talk to you after what he's done hahaha yeah I dont know with those exes they keep coming back.

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@popciclecold (39510)

• United States

12 Nov 20

Because usually if a person mistreat you, they see it again, that's life. Or didn't realize they had until it was gone.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

14 Nov 20

@popciclecold You are on point on this matter. They realized when that person is gone in their lives. What a life, right?

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@iKONICNoona (4220)

• Philippines

13 Nov 20

Yes raising a child is not a joke . What happened before with my ex was his wife now was the reason of our break up , he cheated on me with that girl who is his wife now.I caught them , saw their sweet messages and the most nerve wracking thing was he wad comforted by that girl when we are having a fight that time. He even brought her to their house before .So I told him that I dont want that kind of set up we should break up and go to her

I immediately left them without any word hahaha

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@popciclecold (39510)

• United States

12 Nov 20

Sounds more like Karma to me.

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@popciclecold (39510)

• United States

14 Nov 20

@Shavkat You might get by, but you don't get away..None of us.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

16 Nov 20

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

14 Nov 20

I agree. I think karma is working with them now.

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@snowy22315 (182207)

• United States

11 Nov 20

I don't know, people are strange!

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@popciclecold (39510)

• United States

12 Nov 20

@Shavkat You say they broke your heart. Payback is something else.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

12 Nov 20

I also wonder why they do this lately.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

14 Nov 20

@popciclecold That's not a good thing to do. I still believe in bad karma.

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@jstory07 (139974)

• Roseburg, Oregon

11 Nov 20

I have no exes.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I am glad that you haven't one. I assumed that you found the right one.

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@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

11 Nov 20

I like this post, but not that they broke your heart!! Very cool that you can still entertain them

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

Thank you for your concern. The broken heart part cannot be controlled. But then, I learned big lessons from experiencing it. I became a better person.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

11 Nov 20

Sometimes it is ok to be friends, others times not so much.

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11 Nov 20

I don't have any ex. Actually there is a man who likes me and I reject him cause I don't want to date. After that incident he immediately walked away from me and blocked me from all of his social media. Even though I still want to be friends with him.

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@Shavkat (140118)

• Philippines

11 Nov 20

I assumed that he did not accept the rejection. Who knows? He might change his mind in the future. Some men are like this that they cannot accept it.

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12 Nov 20

@Shavkat I think so too, sometimes feelings of love can ruin a friendship

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