MyLot as a Journal

On the Way to Fresno, Hwy 41
@bagarad (14283)
Paso Robles, California
November 28, 2020 3:08pm CST
Checking in today to see what's been happening with all of you and to wish my American friends a belated happy Thanksgiving. My husband and I ate at home alone and Zoomed with our dispersed extended family in the early evening. We normally only Zoom on Saturday afternoon. I haven't checked in here since August, but today it occurred to me that I used to rely on myLot to jog my memory when I'd forgotten what seemed important to me at a previous time in my life. Both myLot and Bubblews were sites I used almost daily to record what I was thinking and doing. For seven years myLot has been sort of a journal. Today I realized I have no real record anymore of my daily thoughts and activities. Some are in my Bubblews backups. But I have backed up very little here. I probably need to get here more often. I often can't remember what I did yesterday, let alone what I did the week before. Do you keep a journal that's private, for your own use only? I haven't done that since I started writing online. It's easier for me to be talking to someone than to myself or a journal that's impersonal. Which is easiest for you? So here's a brief summary of what I've been doing since I was here last. I've read a lot. I've worked listing and shipping the books I have for sale, though I haven't been working very hard on it for the last month. Do you ever work intensely on a project for a couple of weeks and then back off for a couple more? For some reason I got addicted to Crossword Jam and for three weeks straight spent hours a day in tournament play. I came in first once, and then only placed second or third. I realized I was missing out on building my business, reading, and writing blog posts anywhere. Those online games have a way of drawing you in when you have no intention of getting hooked. I finally decided a couple of weeks ago it was time to stop rationalizing how good the game was for my brain, put my ego way, and quit cold turkey. Right now I find little pleasure in writing. It seems like work. I don't get off for photo walks very often. I'm not motivated to list books. I sometimes don't even feel like reading them. I've been doing what I have to do, paying bills, balancing the checkbooks, keeping food on the table and dishes washed, and occasionally doing a load of laundry when one of use gets desperate. I try to go shopping only once a week, but sometimes need to go twice. I really like staying home and having a good excuse to do it. I feel myself changing internally and wonder what's happening. Although I love my family and enjoy our Zoom calls, I'm glad we didn't have to go to Fresno or feel guilty about not going for Thanksgiving. I don't enjoy travel or staying in motels anymore -- especially since the pandemic started. We are in that most vulnerable group. Travel is hard work. And like it or not, we are getting old and are satisfied to spend time at home. I don't want to get into political discussions, but I fear for the future of my country and the world. I believe God is in control of that future and my faith is in him rather than in any political party or agenda. There is no security apart from Him. My husband developed a peculiar spot on his lip due to dental activity gone bad and he had a biopsy last week. We are thankful the result was negative. We enjoy watching our little grand niece grow on our Zoom calls. She is six months old now and may be crawling by tonight. She was close to it on Thanksgiving Day. What's on your mind today? Anything new in your life? Photo is from our trip to Fresno for Thanksgiving last year
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
28 Nov 20
Yes I keep a private journal I do not share. Always good to see you.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
Wish I had time to get here more often.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
1 Dec 20
@CarolDM I miss you when I don't bump into you online.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
30 Nov 20
@bagarad You are missed.
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@RebeccasFarm (90473)
• Arvada, Colorado
28 Nov 20
Nothing new going on here much the same as always staying in, go for walks, baking, cooking. Taking a few photos. Glad you and family are doing okay Barbara and good to see you Yes faith in the Almighty is the only rock.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
28 Nov 20
Actually, that sounds like a good life.
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• Arvada, Colorado
29 Nov 20
@bagarad I am grateful for it
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@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
28 Nov 20
Some good and some bad on my list. I do not tend to share much about the bad online. I do not often journal. I do come to myLot daily. My brother and his wife have covid. I am decorating the outside of my house.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
28 Nov 20
I hope your brother and his wife heal quickly. I have some close friends with Covid. Both are high risk patients, but both are healing at home. They are both in their seventies. One has leukemia and the other is extremely overweight and has heart problems. I hope they will be OK.
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@shaggin (72240)
• United States
29 Nov 20
A restaurant called “Home alone”? Since I started on gather then myLot I haven’t kept a journal. These two sites became my journal. Sadly when gather shut down I lost all those memories. I save a copy of my myLot writing now due to that. Crosswords are excellent for our brain but can be very addicting. I used to spend hours and hours doing them in my early adult years. My first husband hated it. Towards the end of your post the things you write lead me to wonder if your suffering from depression which is effecting a lot more people now due to the seclusion of social distancing from the pandemic.
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@shaggin (72240)
• United States
30 Nov 20
@bagarad so more of lack of motivation due to not enjoying those things
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
3 Dec 20
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
AS I told JudyEvans above, I don't think it's clinical depression, though I do feel a bit depressed with cause sometimes. And there are still things I enjoy doing when I have the time. There are just too many things I have to do that I don't want to do, and most have to do with paperwork for insurance and the government. Think taxes.
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@kaylachan (71773)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
28 Nov 20
I am guilty of going hardcore on something then promptly forgetting about it. I actually disappeared for years. Now that I could use the extra income, I'm back. Bills don't pay themselves you know. Can't say a lot's on my mind. But, then, Life just seems to be going in an endless loop. Looking forward to taxes. Because I need a new computer yesterday. At least I've got one that's working decently well. For now.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
28 Nov 20
What I make here wouldn't pay for more than a couple of bargain ebooks on Amazon. I only make money selling physical books online and shipping them to customers.
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@kaylachan (71773)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Nov 20
@bagarad The money I make here is enough to pay for my Disney Plus subscription. To me, that's more than worth it.
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@JudyEv (342105)
• Rockingham, Australia
29 Nov 20
I used to keep a diary for many years but it wasn't for personal thoughts so much as for keep notes on what we did, etc. We don't enjoy going out much any more, partly because of hearing issues. Are you perhaps depressed? Being unmotivated to do many of the things you used to do sounds a bit like depression. Like you, I fear for the world too - and for your country. I have no idea how everyone can be reunited into anything like a cohesive whole.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
We don't have hearing issues, but there's no place I especially want to go. There's plenty to do at home. I've considered if I might be depressed, but after reading a book by one who had clinical depression I don't think I'm there. I think I just may be old and tired. I'll be 80 in a couple more years. I did do some writing this weekend. Everything takes more time and energy during this pandemic. I never thought I'd see the day in America where we'd have to line up to get into stores. It's much harder to run in and out when you only need one or two items. You have to plan much more carefully than in the past.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
1 Dec 20
@JudyEv I guess we can't expect to feel young forever. I'm just thankful we are both somewhat mobile -- me more than my husband.
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@JudyEv (342105)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 Nov 20
@bagarad We are getting old and tired too. I'm 74 and Vince 73. Things that were once fun and challenges are now just plain hard work. As you say, everything takes more time and energy although I can't blame the pandemic.
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@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
29 Nov 20
Interestingly. I also do not have any journal online or offline to speak of. I do not have too much energy to do such type of maintenance. New troubles, no solutions and everything had been piled up.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
Sorry to hear things aren't going smoothly for you now. I hope your situation improves soon.
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@id_peace (14005)
• Singapore
30 Nov 20
Thank you so much. I do definitely hope so myself.
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@LadyDuck (472114)
• Switzerland
29 Nov 20
Hello and welcome back, I am still here and I come here every day. Nothing really new at my side, we spend most time at home because it is not safe to go out. Nothing exciting but no bad news.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
That sounds a lot like me, except for being here every day. Maybe that's why it's hard to write. When I have time I have no ideas, and when I have ideas I don't have time. Good to see you again.
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@LadyDuck (472114)
• Switzerland
30 Nov 20
@bagarad I almost never write here, I interact with the others.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
1 Dec 20
@LadyDuck Why is that?
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@wolfgirl569 (108144)
• Marion, Ohio
29 Nov 20
Glad to see you here again. We are all hoping things will get better soon.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
I guess we should look for things to be thankful for in spite of all the troubles and inconveniences of the Covid restrictions. It could be much worse.
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@just4him (317242)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Nov 20
I'm glad you could Zoom with your family for Thanksgiving. I like staying home too. I'm not into politics either. Yes, God is in control. Amen to that!
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
How's your writing coming these days?
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
1 Dec 20
@just4him I'm hoping I can avoid hip or knee replacements. So far, so good. Where is Thread of Evidence being sold? I didn't see it on Amazon.
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@just4him (317242)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
30 Nov 20
@bagarad It isn't. With the two surgeries I had, knee replacements, I haven't had time to write. I'll get back at it in December. I need to get the book I'm working on finished so I can publish it next year. It's the sequel to Thread of Evidence. Several people asked if there would be a sequel for it.
@lovebuglena (44721)
• Staten Island, New York
29 Nov 20
Whatever I post here I never copy to my computer. And there is no option here to backup anything we have published. If I were to start doing that myselt I'd have to copy/paste over a thousand discussions. It would be a tedious job.
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@lovebuglena (44721)
• Staten Island, New York
30 Nov 20
@bagarad Oh, I had no idea we can do that.
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@Dena91 (16688)
• United States
29 Nov 20
It is good to see you on here once again. I've never been a person to keep a journal. I can see how a sight like mylot can become one. I have written some personal posts on here though most are to US history and some countdown lists of things I enjoy. I am sorry that you aren't finding pleasure in writing or reading as you once did. If we all were honest I think we would all say that this year in particular has each of us living a little more fearful than we ever have before. I pray you will find a spark to get your interests back in the near future. I understand about getting hooked on a game, I have some that I really enjoy playing each day. I am glad that you and your family have Zoom as a way of keeping in touch safely. We did get together at Mike's moms home. First Thanksgiving without Dad was tough. To be honest I am ready to have holidays at home with just Mike and myself. The past several years as dad's illnesses progressed and our time spent increased a lot to help care for him and now her have worn us out physically and mentally. Just like last year was this year the holidays seem to be just another day of going, running and Mike and I being apart. My faith is in God as well and what will be will be. This world isn't my home, I'm only passing through. He'll guide me home as He has been, no matter what happens in our country. I look forward to reading more of your posts in the days ahead. Have a blessed weekend.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
I think being tired has more to do with my lack of pleasure in activities I normally enjoy. Getting old may also be a factor. I don't have the energy that I used to have. The pandemic does make things like shopping less pleasurable. Mostly I think I just feel I don't fit well into the world anymore. I see commercials of people yucking it up in resorts other entertainment spots and it seems so fake. None of what they seem to enjoy appeals to me in the least. It seems people are trying to escape from themselves.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
29 Nov 20
@bagarad It is good for you to check on from time to time. It has been quite some time since you have been here. It is nice when you can drop in and say hi. I used to have a journal and diary. I am glad your husband is ok. Nothing great is happening with us.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
Nothing spectacular is happening with us, either, except we continue to be well and God is still good and still cares for us. Are things a bit tense in Israel right now?
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
1 Dec 20
@Hannihar It must be very hard on you. I've been reading the Psalms a lot this month. Psalms 52-59 have been especially meaningful this week after our elections and the aftermath. Have you read them lately?I l often pray for Israel since the Scriptures tell us to pray for the peace of Jerusalem. .
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
30 Nov 20
@bagarad The virus is a big deal here and what to do about it and we are surrounded by enemies that do not want us here so that is another issue.
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@DocAndersen (54402)
• United States
29 Nov 20
that is a really cool idea! i keep my journal/blog out on WordPress but do the same thing.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
Every time I start a journal in a document file I can't stay consistent. It just seems easier to write something I will probably publish.
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@DocAndersen (54402)
• United States
30 Nov 20
@bagarad i know that feeling - i have struggled for years with that
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 20
I share a lot here but I don't share everything. I don't want to be that exposed. It might be my online log but I am aware others read them too. So there's thing that should never be shared here.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
There's only one thing I've never shared online anywhere that I wish I could. But it's not fair to share stories that aren't completely my own.
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@marguicha (223777)
• Chile
8 Dec 20
Mylot has helped me a lot these last years.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
14 Dec 20
I consider myLot a home base. It's where I can come and talk about anything on my mind and stay in touch with people no matter what sites close outside of myLot. It's where friends keepin touch as other sites die. We can still meet here.
@Shavkat (140119)
• Philippines
29 Nov 20
In my mind, how can I celebrate my birthday tomorrow?
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
Can't help you there, but Happy Birthday from me. I don't celebrate birthdays anymore.
@JESSY3236 (20046)
• United States
1 Dec 20
I used to keep up a journal whne I was younger, but not anymore.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
3 Dec 20
So did I, before I graduated from college. Even after that I did some occasional journaling, but not every day. Only when I needed to get feelings out and didn't want to share them with anyone else.
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@thelme55 (77167)
• Germany
29 Nov 20
It is good to hear from you again. Yes, MyLot is a kind of journal for me but I don’t write here everyday.
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
I should, but I don't. Just can't seem to find time, or I decide to do something else instead.
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@youfiq (2565)
• United States
29 Nov 20
there is nothing new that I feel in life, now I am at the end of college and compiling a better research proposal
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@bagarad (14283)
• Paso Robles, California
30 Nov 20
I'm glad you have almost reached your academic goal. I wish you the best.