Social Media Relationships
@gnatsmom (2572)
December 10, 2020 9:44pm CST
Is it just teens or do adults also find phone relationships a satisfactory substitute to a real relationship? I know of so many teens and young adults that complain about not having a boyfriend or girlfriend, yet, they spend countless hours on snapchat and instagram. Someone of the opposite sex can compliment them or talk about how much they would love to spend time with them, all the while never making a real effort to do so. Yet, these single people find some sort of comfort in that. They seem to think this is genuine caring. If someone wants to be with you, they will find a way. I just don't understand how these social media relationships can be satisfying. I say, put the dang phone down, live life, and meet real people.
This doesn't mean we can't communicate online and have online friends, but real relationships (especially in the romantic area) must be in real life.
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@galihafif21 (83)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 20
I agree with you, we can find chat friends online but not in a romantic relationship. I've been there once and it failed.
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@galihafif21 (83)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 20
@gnatsmom Maybe some people wish they could find their ideal partner in online relationships because they can't find them in real life. And I don't think they're spending time together, but wasting time together. In my opinion, the best way to use online chat is for friendship.
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@galihafif21 (83)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 20
But if anyone finds their life partner through online dating of course I would appreciate it. Everyone has their own destiny and point of view.
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@BloggerDi (3113)
• United States
11 Dec 20
I think internet and phone relationships work for people who have fears about commitment and getting hurt. Sometimes, real emotional and romantic bonds are formed, although limited. If a person starts feeling too vulnerable, hitting "block" and "delete" provides a quick escape.
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@arunima25 (87854)
• Bangalore, India
11 Dec 20
I would never trust a virtual online relationship. I need to know a person and spend real time together before calling it a romantic relationship.
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@gnatsmom (2572)
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11 Dec 20
exactly!!! I am counseling one young lady on this now. She is so frustrated that her real life dates have not worked out, that she finds solace in all the online guys who compliment her. She is a good girl and refuses to be involved in inappropriate behavior, but she spends too much time looking for the right guy online. She needs to throw that phone down and live life and let a decent guy find her.
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@arunima25 (87854)
• Bangalore, India
13 Dec 20
@gnatsmom Such cases are quite common and unfortunately on a rise. These people are so gullible and many have been exploited too. Cyber crime is a reality.
@kaylachan (71798)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
11 Dec 20
I agree with you. Romantic relationships require more effort than a computer keyboard or phone screen. Online dating does have its place. Some of my best friends met their partners online, but eventually met in person. If the relationship remains behind the keyboard, then there's something wrong. Same if someone rushes into meeting someone online. You need to find that comfort level and balance.
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@Merliva (3535)
• San Marino
11 Dec 20
lol if i have to meet somesone ,i'd kinda like to do it old style
@Cheyee (8344)
• Pakanbaru, Indonesia
11 Dec 20
Some of the relationship do work. My bestfriend met her husband through a forum. They chatted via YM, and dated for few months before finally met in real life. But both of them did make some efforts. Flight tickets wasn't cheap. So they only met few times a year. And they have been happy couple for 8 years
