My Cousin Chose Hospice

@CarolDM (203422)

Nashville, Tennessee

January 19, 2021 2:52pm CST

I have been writing about my cousin with COVID for weeks now. Got the news last night there is nothing more the doctors can do for her. Her options were a ventilator or Hospice. She chose Hospice. She has the right to choose. I respect that. Pneumonia in both lungs. Heart damage. Kidney failure. ARD (Acute Respiratory Distress). And many more issues. I suppose I would have made the same choice. 500 miles away from her. Same hospital and hospice my Dad was when he passed away. Her husband held the phone to her ear and I said my good-byes. I hope she could hear me. The doctor said her time is near. Maybe 24 hours.

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Belle Starr (Iz)

@BelleStarr (61102)

• United States

19 Jan 21

I will keep Her in my prayers!! I think she made the right choice a ventilator will Just further the lung damage and make her even more uncomfortable

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you. I agree.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317249)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

19 Jan 21

I'm so sorry.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you.

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@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)

• United States

19 Jan 21

I am so sorry to hear that.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you.

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@andriaperry (117138)

• Anniston, Alabama

19 Jan 21

I'm so sorry.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you.

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@kobesbuddy (78871)

• East Tawas, Michigan

19 Jan 21

Kidney failure and heart damage alone, is enough to bring the end. This is hard on you, I already know

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@kobesbuddy (78871)

• East Tawas, Michigan

19 Jan 21

@CarolDM I'm sure her husband is heart broken:(

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

@kobesbuddy He sounds so lost. She has three little dogs waiting for her at home. They lost their only child a few years ago.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

She did n to have a chance. Thank you.

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@samysotelo18 (7744)

• Mexico

20 Jan 21

I'm so sorry to hear about this :( I send you my sincerest prayers and a big virtual hug

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

20 Jan 21

Thank you.

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@AmbiePam (93794)

• United States

19 Jan 21

Oh, bless het heart, and yours. That's a hard decision, but quality of life is super important.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you.

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@ShyBear88 (59347)

• Sterling, Virginia

19 Jan 21

Sorry to hear about your cousin. My husband went through this recently with his grandpa in December and went into hospice but at home where he passed with in a week

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you. Sorry about your loss.

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@Juliaacv (51498)

• Canada

19 Jan 21

I am sorry that your cousin's doctors no longer feel that they can do anything more for her. She fought a good fight, and it must be somewhat of a comfort to know that she will soon be called home to suffer no more.

Damned this virus, we should all remember this poor lady's battle and make it a point to wash our hands, keep our distance, wear our masks and count our blessings.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you. She did suffer for sure. But not any more. She is sedated now and will be gone soon. I have said those same words about COVID. Enough already.

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@marlina (154131)

• Canada

19 Jan 21

So sorry to read about this, I hope everything will go smoothly for her and I feel bad for her husband

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you. He sounds lost already. She has three little dogs at home.

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@xFiacre (13126)

• Ireland

19 Jan 21

That's heart-breaking @caroldm I hope her last time is as comfortable as possile.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Another heartbreak. Thank you. She is heavily sedated.

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@Marilynda1225 (83074)

• United States

19 Jan 21

Thats such sad news to hear

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Yes it is for sure.

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (61575)

• Centralia, Washington

19 Jan 21

I am deeply sorry. Know that I care.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you. I know. And thoughts are with you too.

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@NJChicaa (120074)

• United States

19 Jan 21

I'm so sorry

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you.

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@snowy22315 (182004)

• United States

19 Jan 21

Sorry it had to come to this, but it didn't sound good. My friend that I have talked about on here is now in the nursing home. He has been asking the woman he was living with to come back home, but there is no way she can care for him.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Not good at all. Sorry about your friend. Hard to leave your home.

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@FourWalls (68917)

• United States

19 Jan 21

I’m so sorry. My prayers for your family.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you. Hope you are feeling better.

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@Fleura (30539)

• United Kingdom

19 Jan 21

What sad news. At least she got a choice although not much of a one, but the other option would be a lot worse for her I think, and probably still result in the same outcome later. Thinking of you.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Yes I agree. Thank you.

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@Namelesss (3365)

• United States

19 Jan 21

It is good she got to make her own choice sad though it is. Hugs and hugs for her as well.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

19 Jan 21

Thank you. I agree.

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@Rashnag (30592)

• Surat, India

27 Jan 21

Sorry to hear about it

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@Rashnag (30592)

• Surat, India

27 Jan 21

@CarolDM your welcome dear

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

27 Jan 21

Thank you!

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@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

20 Jan 21

Carol I am so sorry. this has been a hard journey, and you've been there for your cousin. but it is a hard battle. I wish i had more than words to share.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

20 Jan 21

@DocAndersen Yes I do remember. It takes a special kind of person to have that job. Thank her for what she is doing.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

20 Jan 21

Thanks Doc. Such a sad situation. She will be at peace soon.

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@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

20 Jan 21

@CarolDM that is so hard, my wife (as you probably remember) is a hospice social worker.

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