I was cursed by...

@Shavkat (140097)
Philippines
February 15, 2021 9:20am CST
..a nine-year-old boy. Guess what? He had sent me a message 'f*ck you through the chatbox.' Take note, I haven't said my opening spiel. Of course, I have to tell him that it is not good to say this. I took a snapshot and reported him to the company. I don't mind if they will not do anything about it. My purpose is to have a record of this incident. How do you teach children not to curse? Image Credit: assets.wowparenting.com
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@Janet357 (75646)
15 Feb 21
very rude student for someone who is learning English. No funny to see in your chatbox.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
It's the company's fault. They are the ones who made them like this.
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@macayada (1497)
• Cavite City, Philippines
18 Feb 21
@Shavkat How would the company knew the character of the student in the first place. However, maybe they still accept or tolerate because of money or tuition fee. The company along the way should expel the student with that attitude.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
18 Feb 21
@macayada That's the problem with the company. Whatever the students did during the classes online, they just ignore the issues. For them, 'Business is a business.'
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@DaddyEvil (137460)
• United States
16 Feb 21
It's good to have a record of this type of behavior. You can't teach children not to curse. Children will do/say what they want, when they want. The best you can do is punish them for doing so... until the next time they choose to do it.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
@DaddyEvil There is no guarantee. I still have some snapshots that staff did something bad during my class.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
I remembered my friend before. He claimed that he cannot deal with this kind of bad behavior and teaching is not his calling. I must admit that I am always stressed out when dealing with this kind of student at first. In the long run, I just ignore it and pretend that he or she is not existing.
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@DaddyEvil (137460)
• United States
16 Feb 21
@Shavkat Just keep a record of it. I'm not sure what help that will/would be, but still...
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@vandana7 (100523)
• India
15 Feb 21
They need to be shown alternate way to express their anger or disappointment I suppose.
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@vandana7 (100523)
• India
16 Feb 21
@Shavkat It is not acceptable to anybody and it needs to be corrected when the child is young so that he does not get into problems in future. It is obvious parents are either not aware of it, or are at a loss how to correct the problem. In all probability, the child is learning it right at home or neighborhood. My way would be - I am sure you are angry and frustrated. You have a right to be too. Because you are still young and have not experienced many things in life so you may not be able to understand. That said, using bad words is not going to solve any issue. In future someone might hit you as it becomes habit. Are you sure you want to be beaten up someday? Now, my suggestion is we solve the problem like this, and see if helps. I know that sounds too verbose. But you are obviously better equipped with squeezing the points. 1. Acknowledge anger and give reasons for it; 2. Explain what could be the problem with bad words; 3. Leave the choice to the child as nobody likes to be ordered; 4. Steer away from the topic altogether.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
@vandana7 I did some of the tips you mentioned. He did acknowledge that it was a bad thing to say. The good thing is he apologized before we proceed with our class online.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
I hope it is not because they are paying me to teach them and they can do what they want. It is not acceptable for me though.
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@tech40 (23121)
• Philippines
17 Feb 21
Some of them learned it from their classmates. By reporting it is a good way because they're going to tell it to his or her parents. I have this one before and reported it. They apologized to me on the next class.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
18 Feb 21
@tech40 That's the reason why I do not speak too much when having a consultation with them. It is pointless to defend oneself. It is best to let it go.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
17 Feb 21
I hope it will happen. My company does not care about this, which makes virtual teachers always feel frustrated,
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@tech40 (23121)
• Philippines
17 Feb 21
@Shavkat I'm sorry to hear that. Some teachers experienced that as well and they confronted the student. However the company is client sided and I feel sad to what happened next.
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@JudyEv (341705)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Feb 21
That's dreadful behaviour. Do his parents know he said this to you?
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
I cannot tell because the student closed his video. But I can hear his parents. I assumed that they are aware of it. I hope they will correct him after class online.
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@JudyEv (341705)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Feb 21
@Shavkat I hope so too. It would be very disappointing if they didn't.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
@JudyEv It will be disappointing. In fact, most parents do not care about it.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Feb 21
Not good. I have no children.
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@vandana7 (100523)
• India
15 Feb 21
Me too.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
I agree it is not really good. @CarolDM @vandana7
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
16 Feb 21
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
16 Feb 21
That's not good at all and that's bullying. I don't like children who curse. None of us curse openly like that. If I'm cursing, I won't do it in front of others.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
I do not like it, too. I hope he will change to a new leaf.
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Feb 21
Oh my. I hope you are able to contact the parent too! I set an example by not doing it myself . . . and tell my kids why we do not curse. I can teach my kids, but I can't control other kids.
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Feb 21
@Shavkat I agree these manners start from home. On that note, I do think some parents are not watching their kids at all - coronavirus or not - discipline is not what it used to be.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
17 Feb 21
@much2say As of today, I tagged myself absent with this rude student. I do not want to start my day badly.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
I hope the parents will do something about it. I am not sure if this coronavirus is corrupting students online like this. I always think that good manners will always start in the house.
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@Tina30219 (82056)
• Onaway, Michigan
6 Mar 21
Shame on that child the only way you are going to teach a child not to curse is not do it in front of them. One thing that was done in front of me and my sisters was the middle finger being stuck up .
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@Tina30219 (82056)
• Onaway, Michigan
6 Mar 21
@Shavkat Right you did the right thing especially if it was done on a job site
@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
6 Mar 21
@Tina30219 It was not an acceptable actuation and I need to be respected.
@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
6 Mar 21
Well, I had experienced this middle finger thing. I took a snapshot quickly and reported it to the company right away.
@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
16 Feb 21
Oh it's sad children pick up swear words. No idea how to teach them not to use it. U did a good thing by reporting about it. Take care
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
16 Feb 21
Sometimes the best option is to ignore them. The more we entertain them, the more they will be ruder.
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@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
16 Feb 21
@Shavkat True indeed. Take care
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@macayada (1497)
• Cavite City, Philippines
18 Feb 21
A student doing that thing and he's a 9 year old boy, I wonder where he got that kind of attitude. He maybe a spoiled brat.
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@Shavkat (140097)
• Philippines
18 Feb 21
I also assumed that he is a spoiled brat. Or, he was being forced to learn the English language.
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