Weirdness: 'Boys don't cry'
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (140119)
Philippines
February 19, 2021 8:36pm CST
This morning, I am having a class with my 10-year-old girl student. Her face showed weirdness when looking at the boy crying in the photo. I asked her why she stopped describing the photo. She claimed that 'Boys don't cry.' It seems the culture is still strong in her system.
I explained that we are all humans. If we got hurt, it is normal to burst into tears, either physically or emotionally. Despite telling her this, she still insisted that boys can't do this.
Do you encourage or nurture your kids that boys do not cry?
Is it in your culture to inculcate this idea in kids?
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Feb 21
I never pushed the issue or statement that boys don't cry. It seems everyone cries sometime no matter if they shed an actual tear.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
24 Feb 21
@Shavkat Even today we men usually fee awkward seeing ourselves crying because of that stigma "that men don't cry" tag. That is why even if we have that idea that it's okay to cry when we feel hurt we still control our feelings and avoid crying.
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@DaddyEvil (137634)
• United States
20 Feb 21
That was the prevailing thinking when I was growing up. My daughter saw me cry for different things while she was growing up. She knows boys have the same emotions that girls do.
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@allknowing (137775)
• India
20 Feb 21
Boys do not cry as much as girls do but they surely cry and it is good for them if they do
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@crossbones27 (49723)
• Mojave, California
20 Feb 21
I get its kind of funny, it is what we are taught but just to showcase because she overly cries. Everyone cries, just do it in the right spots. How Big buddy would teach it the legend of the German Shepherd Named Tristan would do. Anyway tell female German Shepherd just tell her there is no crying in baseball, now brother and sister use it and works amazingly well. Its a you better have a reason to cry. We tough cookies. or at least pretend to be.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Feb 21
As a mom I tell my kids it’s more then okay to feel what you feel. We all cry and we all have pain so it is normal for everyone to cry. Next time you should ask do babies not cry? We all cry as babies even baby boys cry it’s part of nature. Just because you haven’t seen a boy cry doesn’t mean they don’t.
@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
21 Feb 21
No. It's sad that still some people or children believe in age old theories. I don't encourage any such thoughts. You take care