Visit with my cousins
@1creekgirl (41427)
United States
April 6, 2021 8:22pm CST
My husband and I visited my cousin in Richmond, VA today at her nursing home.
She has Alzheimers and although she knew me when we saw her before the pandemic, she didn't know me today.
She still knows her siblings (her two younger sisters were there today) and she knew my husband and I are some of her family.
But we had a good time talking about childhood memories. Bless her heart, she's obsessed with water and the ocean, but she still has her sense of humor.
We're only three weeks apart in age...our mothers were sisters...but we had so much fun when we were young and got to spend time together.
I was always in awe of Mary Lynn. She was so pretty and out going, I always liked whatever she liked. One time I wanted to have a red MG sports car when I grew up because that's what she wanted. At the time I had never even seen one!
I cried a little when we left because although we may get to see her again (she's almost 200 miles from here), but I know most likely she won't ever recognize me again. And it breaks my heart.
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@LadyDuck (471506)
• Switzerland
7 Apr 21
@1creekgirl It happens, sometimes they cannot remember people or events and other moments their mind clears up. I hope she will recognize you.
I forgot to say, you are the prettiest.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
7 Apr 21
@LadyDuck Oh, thank you! And I do hope maybe she'll know me some other time.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
7 Apr 21
I guess there's always that slight hope that her mind would clear for a moment and she would know me.
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
8 Apr 21
That's wonderful that you got to spend time with your cousin. I'm sorry that she didn't recognize you. Alzheimers is such a tragic disease, I hope someday they can find a cure. But at least you got to reminisce about your childhood memories. I know when I get together with my cousins we do the same thing, and have a great time laughing and carrying on about everything.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
8 Apr 21
We did have a good time talking and laughing.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
16 Apr 21
@moffittjc It always seems to revolve around money. Why does greed so often harm relationships?
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@moffittjc (121582)
• Gainesville, Florida
11 Apr 21
@1creekgirl And that's what being with family should always be about...laughing and having a good time together.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
7 Apr 21
Great that you get to see her again. Always nice to see family.
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@RasmaSandra (79858)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Apr 21
It is a heartbreaking situation but I am glad you got to see her and got to spend some time with her now, Now if you did have that red MG sports car you could just whizz over to see her
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
7 Apr 21
I'd sure love to have one! Although, I think I'd rather have a baby blue Porsche.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
8 Apr 21
They've just recently allowed visitors to the nursing home.
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@kareng (59167)
• United States
16 Apr 21
You are right this disease is horrible. I think most think that way but don't really realize how deep it is until you live through it. My mother has ALZ and so far she still remembers me but we get some weird stories when we ask her
what has she been doing. At least her mind is still imaginative. Big hug to you!
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@kareng (59167)
• United States
17 Apr 21
@1creekgirl That is heartbreaking! The last time we visited her other than the other day was two weeks ago. One of my daughters went with me and she told her while I was trying to find all of her clothes...that her papa dropped her off there and just left her. He left her! It's so sad how they interpret things in their head and think they are real. It is a horrible disease.
Have you done anything about being tested to see if you have the gene passed along? I am seriously thinking about it.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
17 Apr 21
@kareng No, I haven't. I've always been so forgetful that I tell my kids if I get it, you won't know it right away, lol.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
7 Apr 21
My mother and five of her siblings have/had Alzheimers except for Mary Lynn's mother. But then her daughter got it. Strange how it can skip a generation.
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@popciclecold (38721)
• United States
7 Apr 21
I am so sorry to hear that, my Mom had that it's very heartbreaking. So glad you had a good time.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
12 Apr 21
Alzheimer’s is an insidious disease, it steals so much and causes so much pain and lose. prayers for both of you.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
12 Apr 21
@1creekgirl I thought the same about my very stylish mom!!
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
12 Apr 21
Thank you so much. She was the "cool" cousin. She'd be horrified if she knew how she looks now.
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@LindaOHio (178611)
• United States
7 Apr 21
I'm so sorry she didn't know you; but I'm glad that you were able to spend time with her and your other cousins.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
7 Apr 21
Thank you..she still has that great sense of humor.
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@porwest (90876)
• United States
24 Apr 21
Alzheimer's, to me, is a very tough disease to deal with. My uncle suffered it and dementia, but interestingly enough he always knew who I was, although I think he saw me as a kid. But he still knew who I was.
Glad you had a great time and got to see her.
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@1creekgirl (41427)
• United States
24 Apr 21
Thanks, it truly is a heartbreaking disease. When Glen Campbell found out he had Alzheimers, he wrote the saddest song I've ever heard called "I'm Not Gonna Miss You." And it's true. The patient doesn't miss anyone because they eventually don't even know us. It's the loved ones who miss them.
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@porwest (90876)
• United States
25 Apr 21
@1creekgirl I forgot about that song. But yes, unfortunately a sad truth.
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@Lindalahughes (220)
• United Kingdom
16 Apr 21
I'm sorry this horrendous condition is stealing her from you. It must be so difficult for you.
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@Courtlynn (67085)
• United States
13 Apr 21
Sorry she didn't remember you but glad that's the worse of it right now.
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