My EX-GF Messaged Me: Awkward?!?

@Shavkat (140177)

Philippines

April 25, 2021 10:00am CST

While I am having my class online, my ex messaged me on Fb messenger. Whoah! It has been years that she did not contact me and out of the blue, she just popped out to know what's going on in my life. Taking note that she asked if I am married now.

I am trying to be nice and answered her back.

I don't want to feel something special about it. At present, she is in Singapore. To make it clear, we broke up because the waves of our minds are not the same as certain things.

Regardless, she must be checking if I am still alive or not.

Are you still friends with your ex or exes? Should I entertain her or not? Image Credit: i.pinimg.com

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@DaddyEvil (138453)

• United States

25 Apr 21

I only talk to my exs when I am forced to for some reason. (I have to talk to Pretty's mom when she calls, but only long enough to give the phone to Pretty and then she hands the phone right back because she doesn't want to talk to her mom, either.) I think your ex just wants to see if you're happy. (Pretty says your ex is really just curious if you've found someone else because she's either gotten married or is getting married.)

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

I think Pretty is right. At this moment, she's sending text messages on my FB messenger, which I find strange for her to do. It has been years and she is telling me that no boyfriend for now, etc.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

@DaddyEvil I just need to ignore it. As of today, he sent messages again. I am just being kind not to offend her.

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@DaddyEvil (138453)

• United States

26 Apr 21

So what are you going to do about it?

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@crossbones27 (49859)

• Mojave, California

25 Apr 21

Nope all my ex's hate me equally. haha That is interesting that she asked if you are married now and are you contacts with her on faceboiok?

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@crossbones27 (49859)

• Mojave, California

26 Apr 21

@Shavkat Well. I have no good advice, but do know what you mean with awkward.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

@crossbones27 I can relate with you. Now, she is sending messages again.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

Actually, I unfriend her on Facebook. Last night, she added me up and I accepted it. This is the first time we had a short conversation virtually. I find it weird why she asked me about my marital status.

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@sunilparthan (6302)

• India

25 Apr 21

Should you entertain her or not is according to the depth of your love with her. And if you not love her and still want to talk to her be as friend ans see how it's going

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

You are right. I am not in love with her anymore. I am just afraid that she might feel that way and do not want to go into this kind of situation like a friend zone thing.

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@sunilparthan (6302)

• India

26 Apr 21

@Shavkat then better keep distance in a friendly manner

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

@sunilparthan I am trying to be civil. Don't worry.

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@sjvg1976 (41290)

• Delhi, India

26 Apr 21

May be she still wants to be your GF. Its better to separate if wavelength of your mind doesn't match with each other.

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@sjvg1976 (41290)

• Delhi, India

26 Apr 21

@Shavkat that will be better. Once relationship broke it cannot be mended ever.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Apr 21

@sjvg1976 I agree. It is not easy to mend the things had done in the past.

@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

I can feel that way, too. I am going to try my best to ignore her.

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@cherigucchi (14876)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

Have you responded? I can feel something about that! As much as I want to be friends with EXES, its quite complicated.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

I just replied kindly. I thought that is all about it. Today, she texted me again. I also can sense that she wants to reconnect with me again. I am afraid that she might expect something for being friendly to her. Am I right?

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@cherigucchi (14876)

• Philippines

27 Apr 21

@Shavkat If you're not interested in her and you can't give it to her straight, then at least drop a hint. But be careful, you must be sure first of her intentions...you may be mistaken. Just a sisterly advice.

@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

26 Apr 21

i am not friendly with my ex for many reasons. It has also been many years.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

Honestly, I never get in touch with my exes. In fact, most of them contacted me this year. I never dared to send messages unless they do it.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

27 Apr 21

@DocAndersen I agree. It is best to ignore it.

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@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

26 Apr 21

@Shavkat being an ex is difficult, you have to do what is best for you

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@youless (112645)

• Guangzhou, China

26 Apr 21

I must say that it is not so comfortable to contact the ex. Perhaps the situation will be better when both of you already got married

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

It will never happen to be married to her. It will be hell for me.

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@prinzcy (32305)

• Malaysia

2 May 21

I prefer not to have anymore connection with any of my exes. If he accidentally message me, I would ignore as well. Even if it's not accidental, I would still ignore him.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

2 May 21

It is my mistake in replying to her. I tend to ignore my exes. I even unfriended them on Facebook.

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@jobelbojel (36335)

• Philippines

27 Apr 21

Did you ask her back if she is already married?

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

28 Apr 21

I didn't. She did tell me without being asked.

@db20747 (43440)

• Washington, District Of Columbia

25 Apr 21

She's still thinking of you! This is very nice of her. Just tell her you are doing fine. Ask how she's doing and tell her to stay safe. You make sure you dont entertain thoughts of getting back together unless you're interested

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

I guess having a real friendship will blossom with her. I am not going to indulge myself in a special relationship.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

25 Apr 21

Sometimes that can be a good thing, nothing here.

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

I agree. Perhaps she is trying to be reconnected for old-time sake.

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@Belexhanns (3431)

• Kampala, Uganda

26 Apr 21

It depends on you whether to entertain or not, but I would suggest you ignore, past is past;you can't change anything

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@Shavkat (140177)

• Philippines

26 Apr 21

I have a feeling that she is wanting to reconcile or something. I did ignore her and did not initiate sending any messages to her today. But then, she did it again.