I&#39;m turning Filipino! I really think so!

@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

Yep. He's a good role model for social etiquette.

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Jessa Arienda

@Hanbinandaeyo (3303)

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15 Jul 21

Filo always have that trait.. It's being polite toward the owner of the house.. In my observation as a Filo.. They understand that not every household can put food on their table as often as can, But when a visitor came, they always asked if they wanted some snacks ( I don't know why, but we really always asked that.), In accordance with this, the visitor also tends to really refuse so that the food that will be served for them, will be served for the next meal of the family... But Filipino are really hospitable.. Weather they really have something to offer or not, They will always welcome you with an open arm.

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@ptrikha_2 (46962)

• India

23 Jul 21

@Hanbinandaeyo So in a way, many Filipinos are similar in treating guests like Indians!

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

19 Jul 21

That's my impression. It's also funny to me that my friend often shows up unannounced. That's not usually the case with grown-ups in America. At least in my experience.

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Jessa Arienda

@Hanbinandaeyo (3303)

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21 Jul 21

@TheHorse I think he wants to surprise you.. That is why he didn't tell you that he'll be showing up un announced.. I also do tat to my friends.. Haha. Sometimes we show up on their workplace

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vanny

@vandana7 (100297)

• India

15 Jul 21

I like Filipinos. They have happy outlook towards life despite the natural calamities. Americans...grrrr...nothing can repair Americans.

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@ptrikha_2 (46962)

• India

22 Jul 21

@vandana7 But well I have some soft corner somewhere for America. I earned some good USDs there in the year 2010 !! And well visiting NY city was a bonus !

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@ptrikha_2 (46962)

• India

23 Jul 21

@vandana7 May be many are. But some could be wise as well. Many of the good global civil rights and other movements and concepts came from US. So well we need to consider both sides of the coin.

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

23 Jul 21

My 75-year-old Filipino friend is incredibly frugal. Is that a Filipino trait? I don't know.

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much2say

@much2say (55655)

• Los Angeles, California

14 Jul 21

It's kinda funny because we used to frequent our Filipino friends' houses . . . I didn't realize this cultural refusal thing til now. It's just my nature to not be so quick to accept such offers (not sure why, I don't think it's really a Japanese thing). I do know about the Iranian thing though. Interestingly, I do know a few Filipinos that do not like the taste or smell of coffee or tea

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much2say

@much2say (55655)

• Los Angeles, California

14 Jul 21

@DaddyEvil When anyone comes over, I make a spread on the table - even if it's just snack stuff. They can help themselves then or later - I let them know it's there for them anytime. And then I might offer some other stuff - like drinks - that are not all at the table. My mom hated it when people looked in the fridge - invasion of privacy kind of thing. So if anyone wanted anything, she would get it for them - and I guess I do the same

. When Hubby gets ice from their freezer, I kinda cringe because I know what my mom is thinking . . . but I know Hubby would see it as being helpful so she doesn't have to get up just to serve him silly ice.

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@DaddyEvil (137259)

• United States

14 Jul 21

The first time a friend comes to my house, I will offer and serve them whatever they want... After that, I tell them to make themselves at home here. It isn't my fault if they leave either thirsty or hungry. I've made it clear they are welcome to have what they feel like having. (Most of them head to the fridge to see what is made and just needs poured or heated up. *shrug* If I minded, I wouldn't have made the offer.)

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

Maybe I should try Scotch more often. "I do know a few Filipinos that do not like the taste or smell of coffee or tea."

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The Vapors - Turning Japanese

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@FourWalls (68084)

• United States

14 Jul 21

I’m a good southerner. I never refuse food.

And I see what you did there…..

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

Yep. I thought you might.

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Fiacre Banks

@xFiacre (13034)

• Ireland

14 Jul 21

@TheHorse Here we do likewise. We say no when we mean yes and the host is suppose to go on pressing cups of tea on the guest until they relent. I can't be bothered with all that dancing about - I've got two flat feet.

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

I've got two left feet. But I'm too old to be afraid to dance.

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Kayla Tsukino

@kaylachan (69826)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

14 Jul 21

If someone refuses I don't push the issue. I never want to push someone, because I don't know their background. I let them the offer is still on the table, though so they can ask. But if someone offers something I typically accept the first time.

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

14 Jul 21

Maybe, I can learn to combine the two. "No no, no need. Thank you! Actually, some hot tea DOES sound good!" That way we can "get down to business."

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aubrey

@averygirl72 (37845)

• Philippines

15 Jul 21

I didn't know of that tradition. We don't refuse what they serve to us because it will hurt their feelings

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

So they don't ask? They just serve?

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aubrey

@averygirl72 (37845)

• Philippines

16 Jul 21

@TheHorse Yes

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

16 Jul 21

@averygirl72 That makes sense. I'll ask my friend, who is "older," if traditions have changed.

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@DaddyEvil (137259)

• United States

14 Jul 21

The poor guy! What was in the "green tea"?

Are you sure you didn't bring him the tea first so he had the munchies after that?

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@DaddyEvil (137259)

• United States

15 Jul 21

@TheHorse That's interesting... If my stomach is hurting, I don't eat or drink away from my house, just in case...

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

@DaddyEvil In case Putin is involved?

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

I am sure. It was really light tea. He had been complining about his stomach hurting from some antibiotics her was taking.

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RasmaSandra

@RasmaSandra (79892)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

15 Jul 21

I am of two cultures one of them being Latvian, In Latvia when a person comes to visit the Latvian goes all out, The table gets set with food and drink and the guests can help themselves, There is never a question of asking or offering everything is put there before them,

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

That sounds like a common sense way of doing things.

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Erly Maglangit

@cacay1 (83495)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

29 Jul 21

@TheHorse ,You are right, that is one Philippine culture, hospitable, unless nothing to offer

, but at home when we have a visitor and it's dining time, we just give a plate and spoon to have the visitor join us in dining. Yes, there is refusal but the inviting force makes the visitor not to anymore refuse and laughter follows.

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

29 Jul 21

I am glad to hear that the tradition continues. Thank you.

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

30 Jul 21

@cacay1 I wonder if it's true in India as well. @Vandana7?

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Erly Maglangit

@cacay1 (83495)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

29 Jul 21

@TheHorse , yes it continues, it's part of our culture here.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (340166)

• Rockingham, Australia

15 Jul 21

We always offer tea and/or coffee and put out a snack as well. I didn't know about refusing once or twice first. If Filipinos said no to us, that would probably be it although we'd say 'are you sure'.

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@ptrikha_2 (46962)

• India

22 Jul 21

@JudyEv Invite me to your House and also show me the way to your Kitchen Pantry!! You would not think of inviting me again!!

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@ptrikha_2 (46962)

• India

27 Jul 21

@JudyEv So when are you inviting me? My Rented Superman flying gear is ready for action!!

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

Heh.Just (eventually) hand it to them and maybe they'd accept.

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Xavier Bage

@franxav (13842)

• India

14 Jul 21

There is no fixed number but I believe twice is good enough.

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LindaOH

@LindaOHio (178789)

• United States

15 Jul 21

I usually refuse but only because I don't want anything. I never heard of refusing snacks as a cultural thing.

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

I think the "rules" are out there. They interest me. We Americans tend to be boorish and forthright.

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

16 Jul 21

@LindaOHio I'm learning to walk and talk like John Wayne!

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LindaOH

@LindaOHio (178789)

• United States

16 Jul 21

@TheHorse We are rotten, aren't we?!! :-)

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@ptrikha_2 (46962)

• India

17 Jul 21

Invite me to your place and offer me something Good. I am not gonna refuse even once !! Well, this art of refusing once/twice/N times is something I am totally unfamiliar with!!

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@ptrikha_2 (46962)

• India

21 Jul 21

@TheHorse Yes there are always things to learn from different places. I can see you using a new name : LouStuhl

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

19 Jul 21

I am still learning.

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ultraman cosmos

@id_peace (14005)

• Singapore

15 Jul 21

Oh no, most of the time I accepted immediately but that was because I was a kid back then. Yes I had met with many Filipinos during my childhood days.

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

19 Jul 21

Did they generally offer food and drink to kids as well?

Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (106362)

• Marion, Ohio

15 Jul 21

Around here if you refuse you will do without or have to get up and get it yourself. Once I have offered I am done.

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Eva James

@wolfgirl569 (106362)

• Marion, Ohio

16 Jul 21

@TheHorse Nope just not going to cater to someone.

@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

Heh. As a certain German friend might say, you Americans are so boorish.

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Scott Andersen

@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

15 Jul 21

i learned the similar rule during my many overseas projects. That you refuse 2-3 times. Funny how different cultures have different views on that!

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@TheHorse (218921)

• Walnut Creek, California

15 Jul 21

But there's sort of a "trend" in the same direction.

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Scott Andersen

@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

15 Jul 21

@TheHorse i would agree trend fits. now in the US, people sometimes get offended if you refuse once!

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@florelway (23286)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

27 Jul 21

Times have changed. We don't refuse anymore lol but yes we so insist on giving something. It's part of Filipino hospitality. Glad you get along well with a Filipino, we're cool and fun to be with.

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