Do you judge parents with tatoos?
By milk_shaking
@milk_shaking (227)
United States
November 30, 2006 4:03pm CST
Myself and my husband both have tatoos... not full body tattoos they can be covered to dress respectfully. We are both comfortable with ourselves. but I have noticed when I was out with my daughter (4)and pregnate with my son.. it was summer so i would often have shorts on and flip flops and you could see some of my tattoos.. they arent tacky.. not skulls, or roses with barb wire or chinese letters.. just tattoos.. But I would often get very ugly looks .. and I guess Im just asking becuase Im not sure why people waste the time to live a lifestyle that intentionaly judges other..
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@cajunmomma (624)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I personally think to each their own. If you decide you want a or some tattoos then hey good for you. I have a tat of a fairy on my lower back. I just think that people in the world today judge way too much before they actually get to know someone.
@DRoddy77 (1776)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I have 5 tattoos and my husband is covered with tattoos. My husband does get a lot of dirty looks but Ive never heard anyone say anything negatively towards him as far as being a parent goes, although I have heard people talking about him in stores and such because of all of his tattoos. Having tattoos doesnt make you a bad parent. In fact, when our kids were born the nurses told me that my husband was one of the most attentive fathers they had ever seen, and our pediatrician is always telling us what great parents we are and how much he loves our family because we are so kind! ..It's too bad though that so many others judge by our outer layers and not what is inside.
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@lilttownmommie (1473)
• United States
2 Dec 06
I do not judge anyone for tats or piercings, Im a mother too & both my husband and I have tats and piercings. I have a small heart on my stomach and 5 piercings in my ears and my hubby has our daughters name around his naval, razor blade bands around his arms (TG they are covered up 99% of the time, I hate them), and has both his ears pierced. I don't think that it should matter if a parent has tats or piercings, what are they doing to hurt or kids or disable our parenting skills, and another point, what if we got this stuff done as a teenager before we had kids? Everyone was a teenager once, and everyone grows up sooner or later, but Im a proud parent with body art that i am proud of too, i even want more :)
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@milk_shaking (227)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I agree . we are trying to teach our daugther ( 5 ) and soon our son who is 5 months now.. about being open and accepting to others.. and that everyone is different.. she has never looked at us like we are crazy.. she knows there are alot of people who do not have tat's and that we ( our family style .. AP parenting , not in church everytimes the doors open, very casual dressing ) are the minority, but I think she is very self confident and will be well adjsted in the world and hopefully she will suceed
@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
1 Dec 06
I cannot stand judgemental people and they have no right to judge you and your husband only because you have tattoos. Having tattoos or not does not make you a better or worse parent than another parent without tattoos. I know some people who have tattoos who are great parents, and care only about their child's well being. I know plenty of other parents who have no tattoos and take their own needs over their child's.
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@beccablueeyes (17)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I am a licensed child care provider and never once have I judged a parent with a tatoo, tacky or not. I don't have any children but from someone who is with them all day, I judge parents more for when they bring their children to me all day from 5am to 7pm when their parents have the day off. Tatoos, body piercings, hair colors and cuts don't matter. Spending time with your children and loving them are what they need most.
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@milk_shaking (227)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I know what your talking about I watch a " freinds" kids and she takes off early I have her kids on average for 14 hours a day ( 4 yo twins ) and for the little time she has them she takes them home and if they havent already eaten at my house they will go home and have a ( this is no joke ) a cheese sandwhich and cheetos .. it is like the only thing they ever want to eat... she claims it is the only thing they will eat.. which I know is BS becuase for lunch they eat whatever me and my 5 year old are eating like MEAT lol.. they whine and complain so I end up standing over them to get them to eat but I know they arent getting it anywhere else... so i feel obligated and other things... they are about to be 5 in Jan and do not know how to hold a pencil.... any letters. and speak very poor english... Parents like that should be the ones who catch greif but society is too concerned with weither or not your child is in the latest line of GYMBOREE.... kills me.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
30 Nov 06
First of, I am a Mom and I have 2 tat's. So that would be like calling the kettle black for me. I do notice that I get treated differently when I have my son with me. In today's day and age with so many people having tattoo's I don't understand how anyone can judge you based on having one. I find it amusing that people give me dirty looks - like having a tattoo affects your ability to raise a good kid.
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@milk_shaking (227)
• United States
30 Nov 06
OH i totally agree. look at this shirt I made for my 5month old.. you should see how people look at us now.. him in this and my daughter in her Janis Joplin shirt.. lol
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@cute_missmary (3866)
• United States
30 Nov 06
i think u shld go with wht suits u n not wht others think abt u
@milk_shaking (227)
• United States
30 Nov 06
I agree.. but it is hard to live in a society that almost teaches to accept and not to accept at the same time...
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@SuziBerardini (314)
• Canada
1 Dec 06
I had the same thing happen to me. I have more than a few tats but they are all in places i can cover them up if i dont want you to know i have them. I dont see the big deal. yes.... im a mom but before i was a mom i was Suzi. I dont see why that has to change drastically because i became a mom. Hell, i even have a tat with my son's name on it.
@AIKOMEI (300)
• Singapore
1 Dec 06
I do not judge anyone with tatoos. I feel it is a matter of preference what one person wants to do with his/her body. Tatoo is, afterall, a form of art...except that it is on the body. In fact, I admire people who have tatoos. I would like to have one too except that I am too much of a coward!
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
1 Dec 06
i dont really notice if ppl give me looks for the way I dress or what colour my hair is that week etc....I really dont care what others thing ya know...my kids have no issues with it LOL they and their friends say I'm the "cool" mom which is funny but hey whatever....Let others stare..my attitude is that they are just jealous because we are so comfortabel in our own skin and being who we are with no masks ya know....So long as you like you and your hubby/kids love you the way you are nevermind anyone else ;)
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@blacknight000 (1397)
• Philippines
1 Dec 06
no!..we dont have the right to judge people!..were just the same!...and besides tattoo is an art!..so, if they want to get tattoed its up to them!..if that make sthem happy, y not!?...dont mind others business, just mind your and concentrate on things that you need to do!...
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@SharK07 (245)
• Romania
1 Dec 06
I cannot stand judgemental people and they have no right to judge you and your husband only because you have tattoos. Having tattoos or not does not make you a better or worse parent than another parent without tattoos. I know some people who have tattoos who are great parents, and care only about their child's well being. I know plenty of other parents who have no tattoos and take their own needs over their child's.Have a nice day!!
@LittlemissAbi (2)
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1 Dec 06
I dont judge people with tatoo's. Life is about expressing yourself and we should all be able to do that without being judged.
@classicaljazz (1628)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I have friends that have a lot of tattoos and most of them were obtained after the couple was in their 60's. It's your body, your conviction. No one should judge based on apperance.
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@disturbedgd (1819)
• South Africa
1 Dec 06
no its not fair its what the mind and love is all about not the way the parents look
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@akotalagato (1334)
• Philippines
1 Dec 06
No and i think people should not judge other people with tatoos. I have always wanted to get a tatoo but im too chicken to actually go and have one. i've only resorted to henna. tatoos are an artful way of expressing one's self and they should not be judge because they choose to express themselve with this form of art.
@Stripperman (183)
• Portugal
1 Dec 06
No. I respect and I like to see a girl with a tatoo.
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@fotychic (318)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Well, no, I do not judge people with tattoos. That would be very hypocritical of me, since I have one of my own. My tattoo is on my ankle, but I almost always wear long pants, so I guess I haven't ever really noticed any looks from anyone. I think tattoos are persons way of expressing themselves. I know that my tattoo is very personal to me. It consists of a cross, with a tiger lily in the apex. It also has the words, Honor, Courage, Commitment. It means a lot to me, like I am sure yours do to you. So just ignor peoples looks. If they don't understand you, then that is just thier problem!
