Luciano's lollipop.
@YuleimaVzla (1505)
Maracaibo, Venezuela
August 9, 2021 10:43pm CST
Today I went out to look for food in the supermarket and I took my two children, at that time Luciano, my oldest son behaved in a very bad way, throwing tantrums and tantrums, but what is surprising is that nevertheless he also demanded that I buy him a lollipop.
My son Luciano knows that I do not like this type of behavior, since I have taught them to be polite and kind, but with the reason of a child no one can; So I decided to punish him in the following way: I bought him the lollipop but didn't give it to him until we got home.
I told him that he was behaving well and how he should be then when I got home I would give him his lollipop, and well he did, and that way I was able to force him to behave in front of all the people.
I think that every time I am improving the techniques so that they behave appropriately. Parents have to have certain techniques not to sound crazy screaming at the top of their lungs throughout the mall or in public places.
We must not allow our children to manage us but through words, love and respect we can make them better people.
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@ThatDisha (4010)
• India
10 Aug 21
Very true..i remember my mother was very strict about manners..she never scolded us but used to punish us like this only. We were hell scared of her
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
10 Aug 21
Believe me something: there will never be a punishment that hurts a child more than someone takes a piece of candy, it is the worst for them, but it is also a sobering way of not mistreating them.
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@Deepizzaguy (102812)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 Aug 21
A parent cannot allow a child to get everything that she or he wants since the child will be spoiled. The child needs to know where the boundaries are in life.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
10 Aug 21
You are absolutely right, so I decided to buy him the lollipop, so that once he had it he would know that only if he behaved as he should behave would he get it.
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@Deepizzaguy (102812)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
10 Aug 21
@YuleimaVzla I remember an old saying from a former baseball manager who is no longer with us saying something like "You cannot squeeze a dove because you will kill it. At the same time you cannot give it too much freedom because the dove will fly away." -Tommy LaSorda who used to manage the Los Angeles Dodgers.
@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
11 Aug 21
You did a good job. Not every parent handles like that in such situations. Kudos to you. Have a good day
@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
10 Aug 21
Thanks for your comment, the most ironic thing is that months ago I was losing control and scolding them for everything to the point that I realized that it was not working Then I realized that it was not the way out
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@FaruMesh (3508)
• India
10 Aug 21
@YuleimaVzla Do you think it's working now than scolding or shouting at them?
@Miladmalik (322)
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10 Aug 21
This respon has nothing to do with the post, anyway have a great day
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@kareng (59115)
• United States
10 Aug 21
You handled the situation very well! And you are right on your theory in provoking good behavior! I always let mine choose from two suggestions I gave them. This or that. Both would have been appropriate and leaning towards the correct decision. You are a great mom!!
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Aug 21
Children are stubborn a times ..then we have to be strict to mend them ...
what ever you did is good for him..
